...because you are separated from your husband (by mutual agreement) and you and your child live with an another man that you realy love?
2007-05-11 21:39:37 · 17 answers · asked by Wintermute 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We are separated more than 2 years.
The man I am living with is very good to my child, and my child has a great trust in him.
Whenever my husband is free of work, he is with my child for more hours aweek then we were together.
Untill I got married my mother did not allow me to:
-shave my legs
-wear a skirt that was not long enough (to my ankles)
-wear jeans
-celebrate my birthdays with my friends
-have a boyfriend (not even one "holding hands" only)
- to attend courses of various kinds
- eat more fruits (I always liked fruits)instead of her potatos or rice everyday (I can't eat much of it, still)
- to have a pet (Fish!)
- to have a best friend
- to eat in the moment I felt hungry not when the dinner was ready
- stay thin (I still am and she says it is a "whory look")
etc.
Besides she hates my husband. She respects the new guy a bit more because of his education (Phd in Information technologies)
My mother never worked anywhere.
2007-05-11 22:31:54 · update #1
At one point in life you have to live for yourself and make yourself happy - oh and don't forget your kids too. If your happy and your kids are happy who really cares?! You choose to live your life very different from your mother and it is ok, you are not your mother.
I know, I have been there, my mother is having a hard time accepting my new life, she is very religious and very stubborn - unlike me, but I lived 36 years for her, now I am living for me!
2007-05-11 23:30:54 · answer #1 · answered by Rosie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. Not for the reasons you state, but because I had a boyfriend (the "hand holding" type). My parents were very strict and old fashioned. They also had a hard time dealing with their children's transition into adulthood.
I was also called a "lesbian" because I had a girlfriend and we talked every night on the phone. I had to look the word up.
(*sigh*) You just have to live your life to the best of your ability, and try not to let them bother you.
2007-05-11 23:15:03 · answer #2 · answered by Kaia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, my mom has always been understanding. I have been divorced for 5 years. Before I was divorced my now ex husband and I was separated for 3 months , I met someone fell in love with him and we moved in together 5 months later with my two children.We lived together for about 6 months before my divorce was final. I have been with him now for 5 years and we are both very happy. Both of my parents are very supportive of us. Shame on any mother that calls their daughter a whore.
2007-05-11 21:54:42 · answer #3 · answered by boo76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mom told you that, it has to be out of frustration and being upset over the situation. And, I hate to say it, but older people are set in their ways, and they don't accept change very well. Don't let your mom make you feel bad. You are a grown woman, you know what you want, and you have made the choices in your life that make you happy. Trust me, you can't in a million years please everyone, so only concentrate on your own happiness.
2007-05-11 21:45:23 · answer #4 · answered by ali 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No and a mother should never call her child anything! How awful. Even if you were promiscuous, she is your mother and shouldn't call you names and degrade her own child.
the next time she says that tell her that it was uncalled for and that she is being very rude. also don't ever allow her to make those remarks in front of any children you may have.
2007-05-11 23:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. That would hurt, hearing it come from my Mom. Thank God she's never said anything like that to me.
If your mother is older then she was raised to have different morals. Maybe her views and values are stuck in the 1950s. You might try letting her know how much that hurt you.
2007-05-11 21:42:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so, mom will always understand her daughter and will not be a rude to them.
She's the last person that can call bad words to her children.
Happy Mother's Day!
2007-05-11 21:45:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. But my concern is this new guy that you have so quickly thrust upon your child. Maybe thats what your mom is concerned about as well but she doesn't know how to articulate it in a respectful way. just my opinion.
2007-05-11 22:05:57 · answer #8 · answered by Welcome, to the real world! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom must have been treated horribly as a child. But to answer your question, no, my mom has never called me a whore, she never would.
2007-05-12 00:27:45 · answer #9 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because my mother hated my husband she was thrilled that I divorced him. However, if you're already living with another man and subjecting your poor child to that, you ARE a "whore" and a poor excuse for a mother. Sorry.
2007-05-11 22:00:29 · answer #10 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋