I like the attention he gives me because I feel attractive. I like him and is attracted to him too. I like it when he flirts with me. I feel happy because he seems to like me alot. He's always kidding around with me, look for me, and always look at me and say or do something to try to catch my attention and make me smile or laugh. He buys me lunch and seems to care about me alot. I like him and he likes me too. I need to stop but I can't. I just like his attention, but would never divorce my husband to be with him. I could never see myself living with him, only with my husband, because of culture differences. We know we both won't get hurt because we both are same boat, married too. We just like each other and like to flirt with each other.
2007-05-11 21:46:34 · 47 answers · asked by . 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Im in a similar situation. I have a female friend who works in the same building and I enjoy her company a lot. If it weren't our respective spouses, who knows. I do love my wife (as she does her husband and children) and adore spending time with her, but when I'm at work I have a friend who thinks like I do and enjoys the same things as me. I think it the thrill of the chase, not being caught. If you can continue to think using your head instead of your other body parts, then you should be fine. If you even think that you might cross the line by becoming emotionally attached, get out! You are fooling yourself if you think you wouldn't be hurting anyone. Remember that you married your spouse for a reason.
2007-05-19 08:41:58 · answer #1 · answered by J S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's a little thing that every human is born with. It's called 'Morals & Principles'. Some of us know what this god given thing is and use it accordingly, others like yourself do not.
If you dont know where to draw the line, you never will. Go get some serious counselling on how to draw a line in life and not cross it.
Im so disappointed there are so many of 'you' out there. Hide your head in shame! If you havent realised by now that having an affair with a married person is only thinking of yourself, then you never will.
I put people like you in the same category as terrorism. Because terrorist's dont give a damn about the people they hurt or the consequences. Selfish Act!!
2007-05-15 13:55:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Flirting is cool as long as you realize flirting is a form of communication. What exactly are you flirting with this man for? Flirting If you recall is how you nad your husband probably began your relationship and somewhere along the way a signal for you party or the other said there is an OK to take another step closer to move to another level. It will not be a conscious decision either it will be one of those "Oh crap!" how did thid happen. It could end there or progress itno a full fledged physical affair. Do decide where to stop it and if he really likes you for the person you are he will respect your decison.
2007-05-18 18:30:42 · answer #3 · answered by ZenMonkey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because a man buys you lunch does not necessary means that he cares for you.Try doing something that will get your mans attention then maybe he will start to give you some attention .Your husband could be paying you some attention but you are to busy focusing on this other guy to notice what's going own.It seems as though you want this flirting thing to go farther than you realize.There's nothing wrong with flirting but when you take it to another level that when you start to have problems .Don't think for one minute that your husband won't find out .People that cheat on their spouses tend to get sloppy with cheating.Think before you leap into bed with this guy
2007-05-12 01:24:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to be in control all the time. This is how marriages end up in the divorce courts. Yes it's nice to have friends, and yes it's flattering when another married man gives you Little attention. Remember the grass is never greener on the other side it only seems that way until you get there and want to get back and someone has padlocked the gate. Be very very carefully, don't slip for a moment all ways be in control of your feelings for your husband.
Dr KNOWITALL
2007-05-11 21:55:15 · answer #5 · answered by coofooman 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Before I start, let me just say: "Been there -- done that." Since I'm speaking from experience (and I've been guilty of it myself), I must say "shame on us"! Sure the attention feels good -- it feeds a need, and it's easy to fall into the trap when you don't get the "flirting" from your spouse -- from whom it should come. (I'm right, aren't I?) But the reality is this: IT'S A SIN!!! It's wrong however you may justify it, and karma will take a chunk out of your buns for it. Even if it only takes place in your heart, it's still cheating. As soon as you get the "big head", and fancy yourself worthy of this attention -- you become unworthy. Show your spouse a bit of this "flirting", and hint to him that you'd like to be treated that way yourself. You both need to spend some time tending your "love garden " (if you still desire the fruit). In the meantime, stop admiring the weeds! Here's to re-kindling.
2007-05-19 00:36:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy the flirting for what it is! Just be careful that it doesn't take on a more sexual nature. Only you can draw a line with him as to what is and isn't acceptable. Just try not to cross that line with him. Perhaps you could try flirting with your spouse when the two of you are out together, just to add the spice back to your marriage. usually if you show your spouse positive attention away from home it translate into better attention from him when the two of you are alone.
2007-05-19 13:35:32 · answer #7 · answered by sandramunroe11550 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are messing with fire and you need to stop. This is how all affairs start. There is nothing wrong with flirtation however it is the searching the other out and looking forward to seeing each other that is dangerous. Think of what your husband would think of the attention the two of you are giving each other. Would he approve of the conversations and the time spent? Rule number 1, never do anything you would not do with your spouse right there. Rule number 2 never say anything you would not say with your spouse right there.
2007-05-19 14:09:24 · answer #8 · answered by flateach33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, everyone likes to be admired but there is a point in which it goes too far and you are crossing lines. Stop going to lunch with him.You may not want to leave your husband but if your husband discovers your little flirting show, then he may want the divorce regardless as to what you want and the guys wife could get mad too and some wives are crazy enough to come after you.....you really want someone pissed off to the point of sabotaging your life??
2007-05-11 23:30:49 · answer #9 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Too dangerous~~~don't go any further! I think you like the attention and feel flattered that another male shows interest in you. It boosts your self esteem, and lets face it, we all like that feeling but remember you are married and you say you you both won't get hurt, but how do you know the consequences if you go further? Surely you've got a conscience and how would you feel if it were your husband doing this and how would his wife feel? It might be a "bit of fun" now but you better really do some serious thinking!
2007-05-11 22:59:32 · answer #10 · answered by Mez 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋