Marriage & Divorce - 11 May 2007

If so, you would have been a believer in destiny before and now you believe one of two things: (1) you were just plain wrong or (2) you no longer believe in destiny.

What do you believe now that you've been through a divorce?

2007-05-11 13:52:49 · 11 answers · asked by Art Student 2

I filed for divorce on April 27th with an attorney that advertises in our local paper for no fault divorces. This divorce is very simple as my wife and I had the separation papers signed last Sept. 2006. He told me that he would get the papers to my wife for her to sign no later then May 5th. We would take depositions tomorrow on May 12th, however, I checked with the court and they told me they mailed him the papers back within a couple of days of filing. I have called this guy everyday and he has not returned one single phone call, not one and before I paid him he would call me or email me every time. I find that kind of odd. He does not have a paralegal or a secretrary that works for him so the only thing I can do is continue to leave him messages which is getting irritating. Can I get my money back from this attorney and hire another one even though he has already submitted the paper work to the court?? All I am wanting to know from him is when is he mailing her the papers??

2007-05-11 13:45:00 · 11 answers · asked by hokiedokie24 2

We are spending more and more time apart because she likes other things. We can't find things to do together. She suddenly became very social and wants to be out at bars w/her friends and what not. She goes out after work with friends w/o a phone call. I'm not one for the bar scene. I don't drink and I'm married. Not fun for me. We've talked a number of times about what we can do but get nowhere. Thats all she likes to do. I like to do other things that she doesn't and would like her to show an interest in SOMETHING. This has become a pressing issue of hers. She starts to cry now when we talk about it. I don't know what to do.
We both don't want to make eachother do things we don't want to do but at the same time we want to be together. It's tearing us apart.

2007-05-11 12:48:46 · 14 answers · asked by FangStu 3

i am married and i hug another guy is the wrong

2007-05-11 12:43:21 · 19 answers · asked by mandy 1

i have been married going on four years
with 3 children and we are much happy w/ each other
no major problems yet so just asking about long and happy w/ ur wife or hubby

2007-05-11 12:40:31 · 8 answers · asked by ez-goin 4

The DA and the Franchised Taxed board has the case. If my ex works long enough for a wage attachment they put one in place and thats as it should be however I just wonder if my kids will ever see the $50,000 + that is owed to them in back child support or if I should sign off on it? It just seems to cause stress between their father and I because he is always bringing it up and telling the kids he can't get ahead because of it. I honestly don't think we will ever see the money and less stress would be best for my kids. But I hate to give away their money if there is any chance they might get it somday,. Has anyone out there ever gotten money owed on back childsupport years later?

2007-05-11 12:21:41 · 14 answers · asked by luv.wtuhav 2

I kind of knew all along but wasn't sure. Finally I got it out of him. Not sure how I feel now even though this happened a while ago. He said he's very sorry and will carry the guilt into the grave. How would you handle this?

2007-05-11 12:18:19 · 64 answers · asked by sweet 5

My sister who I thougth was a saint is cheating on her husband, what is even worse the man is a preacher. What should I do I feel sorry for my brother in law

2007-05-11 11:53:57 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

shall i leave the computer on, cos i could be back in 5min

2007-05-11 11:51:02 · 29 answers · asked by Lisa T 6

I have been unfaithful to my partner ,he knows now and wants to try to sort this out. I for one realise i have made the biggest mistake and would never cause this destruction or hurt to anyone again. I love my partner and deeply regret my mistake,however i am unsure of how and what i need to do to rebuild our relationship again? please help

2007-05-11 11:29:33 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

Having marital problems. I am 30 and my wife for 7 yrs. is 34. We have 2 kids 6 & 4. My wife told me she was not in love with me any longer. She had been feeling this way for some time but never revealed her true feelings to me until now. To her, our marriage is over and there is no chance for recovery. She is determined to find her "happiness" somewhere else. All this time I thought I was providing her with all the happiness she wanted -- emotionally, mentally and physically. I don't drink, smoke, and I'm not abusive to her or the children. But for some reason I'm not worth a second chance. She wants to continue to stay here until we can financially afford to separate. But I'm living an emotional roller coaster. I never thought she would stop loving me. What can I do to save my marriage when she is so determined to be by herself. She tells me she wants to find her happiness with herself. What can I do? I will always love her and do not want to lose her. She is not seeing anybody.

2007-05-11 11:28:27 · 17 answers · asked by Angelboy00 1

I like " some people change when they see the light, others need to feel the heat!"

2007-05-11 11:02:58 · 30 answers · asked by hooks 2

My Husband and I have been together for quite some time now, hes white and I am black. My In-laws doesn't talk me and give me the cold shoulder all the time. Last Christmas we when to his parents house for dinner and very polity I greeted my self, his parents looked right through me as if was not there. They’re always talking about me and gossiping. His sister writes me a very nasty message on myspace saying I’m not a part of the family and that is brother was drunk to marry me. Omg, I don’t think I can deal with this. I consider myself a very nice person to him, I don’t nag I’m not quick to start an argument. I really thought that after the wedding things would have gotten better I always ask my husband is this how their going to treat their grandkids? I don’t know what to do, but is it just me or his family racist?

2007-05-11 11:01:21 · 31 answers · asked by Telly-Of-War 3

I am Algerian and white mixed and my hubby is white and so are my kids since they look light like my husband. What should I do? I feel weird sometimes

2007-05-11 10:59:35 · 10 answers · asked by goodfamel 1

he wanted sex and i said no but he got his anyways.. now we are divorced and he took more than half or more than what he suppose to get.. would i be awkward to sue him for unwanted sex while we were married?

2007-05-11 10:59:30 · 9 answers · asked by kiki 1

My ex kept complaining that I was partying too much & not settling down. He is from another country & they have a lot of traditional ways. He went & married someone last summer in his countryland. We argued for months because he thought I was pregnant for him. I finally told him that I wasnt the other day & now he wants to come & take me out for a date..?? I am confused. He said he didnt want to see me any more last year. Now he knows we dont have any ties together, & he wants to start seeing me again. He asked if I wanted some more chidlren & said he misses the times we had together. If he still has feelings for me I dont understand why he went & married someone else? He is very jealous of other men that are around me. He wants to pick me up tonite but I dont know if I can resist having sex with him. People are quick to judge, but it is difficult to walk away from someone when your heart tells you that you love this person. I'm not mad at the wife. I dont know what to do....

2007-05-11 10:56:11 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I have been together for 23 years and have 2 girls and 1 boy. I caught my wife cheating on me with another woman. She said that she has had this feeling before we were married and wanted to feel young again. I can’t get the pictures out of my mind. She say’s that she wants to stay, but I feel that it’s only because of the kids and she doesn’t want the kids to find out about her feelings. Every time I think about it I get angrier and angrier. Sometimes I want to tell her to get out and than I feel so bad that I could be with out her. I just need help letting go of it all so we have a chance of making this work

2007-05-11 10:32:59 · 11 answers · asked by cvfsnej 1

Italian, french, English, American , Etc.?????? I want to know what culture is the most romantic. I think its Italian.. but thats my view. Because ROMANtic roma. but thats me iwant to know other peoples views on the most romantic culture.[ My boyfriend is roman and so sweet and i know not every man is so toughtful to their girlfriends and wifes. ] So.. Whats other cultures like?

2007-05-11 10:32:14 · 4 answers · asked by alaina 1

I've been dating this great guy for over 8 months now...my problem is I'm nervous about where it's going because he's leaving for a 15 month deployment in about 6 months...he wants more now and I'm hesitant, I care for him a lot and i know he cares deeply for me....any advice is welcome....

2007-05-11 10:10:21 · 16 answers · asked by noonesfool71 1

2007-05-11 10:02:56 · 19 answers · asked by Shadip 1

My husband checks my email and reads my journals constantly. I ask him not to especially since he likes to be snipey to my friends (while using my name) yet he keeps doing it. I change my passwords and he figures them out. He is jealous of guy friends I had in high school that I don't even see anymore (we live like 2 hours away). He just seems to be jealous and nosy. He doesn't even hide it from me, he has actually said on the phone that he was amazed I had 135 unread emails. What do I do? (No I have nothing to hide, and I'm 5 months pregnant so I couldn't really have an affair even if I wanted to)

2007-05-11 10:01:52 · 29 answers · asked by CJ 1

just curious

2007-05-11 09:55:29 · 22 answers · asked by limallama 4

2007-05-11 09:49:30 · 12 answers · asked by southerchick25 1

My Fiancé and I have been together for 5 years! And have been friends ever sense high school. About 6 months ago he asked me to marry him! I was so excited and he knew that I wanted to get married so badly! I tried to never “push” him about us getting married, but yeah sure it came up a few times. Well now that we are engaged I would at least like to set a date. September 13th 2008. That is about 1 ½ years from now. I don’t think myself that is too soon, it gives us a bunch of time to plan things and not have to rush, but every time I try to talk about us getting married I get blow off or shunned. I sometimes feel that when he asked me to marry me he wasn’t really ready. It was more like a promise to one day get married. I understand that he isn’t an emotional person and sometime talking about this makes him uncomfortable so I want to know how I can talk to him about it without seeming pushy or making him uncomfortable… Oh I can’t wait for the day when the “Kids” subject comes up, ha that should be fun! But right now I just want to get married!!

2007-05-11 09:38:39 · 19 answers · asked by Kate 1

or is it more people are co habitating

2007-05-11 09:38:00 · 11 answers · asked by bust15nutz 3

Is it wrong to divorce a man who isn't who you thought he was? What if this man is a decent man, he doesn't abuse you, doesn't cheat on you but doesn't always respect you? What if the spark isn't there anymore, you always would fight and now you're just sick of it. What if you've tried but can't make him try to make it work. What if you don't know if you love him anymore? What if all he's guilty of is not knowing who you are or taking the time to know who you are, not liking your family, not who you wanted to marry, being lazy, and not pulling his weight financially and not being 100% respectful of you? I'm not sure if I should be considering divorce or not. But this is this situation I'm in. I married young, I still don't think I'm ready for marriage. We've been married less than a year and only new each other a few months before we wed. Coulda shoulda woulda, now I know I shouldn't have rushed. We don't have kids. He's just joined the Navy, against my wishes. I'm catholic.

2007-05-11 09:37:40 · 12 answers · asked by seriously2sweet4u 2

Why do they end up hating their ex wives/husbands? Is it a way to transfer guilt? I am not talking about exes who go crazy and try and interfere in each other's lives. Why do men/women who leave their spouses for another have to turn their exes into the bad guys??

2007-05-11 09:37:12 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ever since we have started dating he refuses to keep a job. He has had 4 and has only been out of school for 2 months. He really wants to get married, and I love him to death, but it makes me wonder where our financial lives will go?
I don't want to just up and dump him because I love the hell out of him.
He also wants to live with me after i graduate, but my mom told me to wait until the end of June so I can get things set up and going for us, and he freaked out and told me that we have to live together because he will just get sick without me... what do i do? Do I talk to him about it? I have no idea!! I'm all out of ideas!

2007-05-11 09:36:40 · 9 answers · asked by Misty Lee 2

my husband has another woman we have been married for 20 years we have a doughter 17 after my surgery he ask me to start looking for an apartment because he wants a divorce i cant work a or have any money what do i do dies any one know?

2007-05-11 09:32:23 · 2 answers · asked by Maria R 1

Me and my boyfriend been together for 7years now
we want to spend our lives together and not get married
we spend alot of time serving god and doing what he wants us to except getting married he know whats in our hearts.
we dont think getting married is gonna make any difference
when ever we pray we ask him for his forgiveness if he thinks
that we doing something wrong by not being married. We choice to leave things the way they are. We truly love each
other and in our heart we are one.

2007-05-11 09:24:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous