My wife and I have been together for 23 years and have 2 girls and 1 boy. I caught my wife cheating on me with another woman. She said that she has had this feeling before we were married and wanted to feel young again. I can’t get the pictures out of my mind. She say’s that she wants to stay, but I feel that it’s only because of the kids and she doesn’t want the kids to find out about her feelings. Every time I think about it I get angrier and angrier. Sometimes I want to tell her to get out and than I feel so bad that I could be with out her. I just need help letting go of it all so we have a chance of making this work
2007-05-11 10:32:59 · 11 answers · asked by cvfsnej 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you feel like you are married to a stranger? I lived with a man for 10 years and also discovered he had sexual preferences that I never knew. A slap in the face to say the least. The feelings that came along with that knowledge left me feeling less than adequate and totally like my life with him was all one big joke. And a lie. You need to talk to a counselor. It will help. Good luck.
2007-05-11 10:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem I see is she cheated, women or not and she doesn't have any regret. You never mentioned children ages so the total impact is unknown. But decisions need to be made an then carried out. Some might suggest separation but the results of a majority of separations is for the most part they don't work. Let your wife know that there needs to be a choice and that there will be a consequence for that choice. If she wants to stay married then she needs to stop. Personally
being bi is a joke and some need to realize that....
2007-05-11 17:56:33 · answer #2 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your wife loves you, however she made a mistake in which she shouldnt make again. you have to give her the benefit of the doubt and allow her to prove herself worthy of being w/ you and children.especially since you are still w/ her. that lesbian moment was a faze, 23 years is a long time to be w/ a person, congrats to you both, but sometimes you have to spice up your love life to insure that you both are satisfied otherwise things like this will occur, not intended to hurt the other person but just to feel pretty again and wanted....not saying it's all your fault, you may feel the same way too at times and good for you for not cheating on her. ... her actions are clearly not acceptable and now for the next chapter in youre lives there needs to be some changes and communication......
2007-05-11 17:58:00 · answer #3 · answered by KAT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a tough one. Of course it is easier said than done, but by you holding on to the feelings of anger, hatred, and maybe even anxiety do absolutely nothing for you. Holding a grudge only hurts you, not the other person. The best advice i can give you is to sit down with her and discuss whether or not the relationship is the best thing for the two of you. Either way, your children will still have both of their parents. If the two of you trully love each other, i would suggest going to see a marriage counselor. It may go against what us men would want to do, but like i said, if you REALLY love each other, you will do whatever it takes.
Hope this helps
2007-05-11 17:41:37 · answer #4 · answered by t2006s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing that you should do is to be her friend right know. Both of you talk and figure it out in the right manner way. Then when it is all settle, the both of you talk to your kids and make them understand that no matter what happens you will love them.
2007-05-11 18:11:44 · answer #5 · answered by M L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
an easy answer is ..if she likes to dabble in other women but still likes you then she should have no problem with you doing the same..sounds good to me you both still have sex together and be together while you get to shag whoever you like...and you think this is a problem?wish my wife was bisexual ...she loves you but this is the way she is and cant help that..seriously just go for it its not like she is doing another bloke its you she wants in that department
2007-05-11 18:03:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you be miserable for you wife's actions. You will be hurting the kids in the long run by stand. They will pick up on your anger. Let her go.
2007-05-11 17:38:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely need help from a professional. Your wife is bisexual and you can't handle it. For the sake of your children, get help!!
2007-05-11 17:38:12 · answer #8 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask Mr. Smith & Wesson they can give a solid answer with no talk back.
2007-05-11 17:44:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
try it you may find you like it, my wife and I have been together for 20 years now and the sex is awesome, we do mixin's she likes to watch me with other women and vise versa.
2007-05-11 17:41:05 · answer #10 · answered by Sir Hard & Thick 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋