Is there any hope of ever getting the back child support owed to my children?

Question

The DA and the Franchised Taxed board has the case. If my ex works long enough for a wage attachment they put one in place and thats as it should be however I just wonder if my kids will ever see the $50,000 + that is owed to them in back child support or if I should sign off on it? It just seems to cause stress between their father and I because he is always bringing it up and telling the kids he can't get ahead because of it. I honestly don't think we will ever see the money and less stress would be best for my kids. But I hate to give away their money if there is any chance they might get it somday,. Has anyone out there ever gotten money owed on back childsupport years later?

Answer 1

It is so hard but why havent they done a lien on the house,

Yes, My mother did.

He owes this money to the children. He help make them so now he can do his part!

Answer 2

You should not forgive the debt. There are many ways that he can pay this off. He can pay a small amount each payment towards the arrears. If you are going through the child support enforcement agency they can intercept state and federal tax refunds, if he owns anything a lien can be placed on it. If he ever gets a workers comp settlement they can intercept on that. When the children emancipate he can continue paying until the debt is paid off. He should not be mentioning this to your children and making any of you feel guilty. He is a grown man, it's his debt, his responsibility and if he had paid as ordered he would not have these arrears.

Answer 3

So basically he is saying to the kids that they are not worth the money and that they don't deserve it. But some ppl have and a lot have not, but I would never sign it off. Just get what you can for now. But he does not need to blame you well actually the kids for not getting ahead....he is the one that will not hold down a steady job. But again to me, he is saying that the kids are not worth the money or deserve to be supported by him.

Answer 4

My ex mother-in-law got $100,000 back child support from her ex husband on her children, LONG after they had grown up. All she had to do is prove he hadn't paid...and she did that via him not being able to prove he did. I don't think there's a statute of limitation on that, though you might check your state law on that. As far as just letting it go, did YOU get to let it go? (Financially taking care of your children that is?) He shouldn't be saying anything to those kids about that, and when they're grown, they'll realize that YOU didn't bring this hardship on him...he brought it on himself by NOT taking care of his responsibility while he should have been. Good thing you didn't think like him, or your children would be homeless, hungry, and dirty. Don't let him out of this. What would that teach him? (or your children for that matter, if they have kids later on down the road)

Answer 5

i'm in an identical concern. My son's father gets paid under the table so there is not any way of having his wages garnished. I certainly have on no account won a penny from him & he presently owes almost $20,000 in back infant help. My expertise is which you will no longer get carry of the money once you record your taxes, yet whilst your ex data his taxes & gets a refund, the IRS can do an "earnings Tax Intercept". meaning they are going to take any refund he grow to be think to get & deliver it to you to pay any infant assist you're owed. My ex on no account data his taxes so I on no account get any money. i'm not sure if it quite is automatic or in case you could request the IRS to do the intercept. reliable success.

Answer 6

By my experience "NO". But you may if your husband ever holds a steady job. I would talk to your husband and ask him to stop telling the kids that he can`t get ahead because of it. It is putting a stress on the kids as well as you, and it is very childish of him to put this burden on the kids. I would just hold off and see what happens. GOOD LUCK

Answer 7

So you say "owed them".....so if you collect on the 50K, you're going to hand it over to them? give it to them for school, or maybe a car? Or are you going to "reimburse" yourself? If that is the case, I say let it go. The money you've been "out" is long over with, and you'll "get more" in the end, in the way of respect from your children in the long run. After all, teaching them the value of forgiveness, the importance of of living an honest life, is more valueable that 50k any day.

Be HONEST with yourself about this money. Don't be vindictive.

Answer 8

At least he is working and you get it now, right? Leave it alone and hopefully one day when he gets caught up he can help you out. My ex never paid until recently and my daughter is 25. I don't think you would ever get a lump sum just payments. Be thankful he's in their liefs and at least trying to catch up. If you have a court order yes they will still keep up for years after wards like what happened to me.

Answer 9

do not give up anything. The back payments are owed to your children and the expenses incurred raising them. Keep calling the enforcement agency weekly and they will eventually take action. (the loudest squeak gets the grease) As for his statement to the kids, shame on him. That just shows how irresponsible and sorry he is. your kids will know as they grow older, trust me.

Answer 10

he will have to pay it evnetualy. he is just brainwashing the kids to blame you for everything. dont give in. maybe you can tell him to knock it off or explain the truth to the kids ( i dont know how old they are though ) . my sisters babys dad didnt pay ANYTHING til she was like 4 ( he only was orderd $200/month becuase he refuses to wrok ) anyways , she went through one of the child support collectoin places and he had to pay $5,000 or go to jail. his daddy paid it for him. but nonetheless. there are ways .. he will always be running his whole life if he doesnt start paying on it, and he will figure this out evnetually ( Unless he is a COMPLETE moron )