My ex kept complaining that I was partying too much & not settling down. He is from another country & they have a lot of traditional ways. He went & married someone last summer in his countryland. We argued for months because he thought I was pregnant for him. I finally told him that I wasnt the other day & now he wants to come & take me out for a date..?? I am confused. He said he didnt want to see me any more last year. Now he knows we dont have any ties together, & he wants to start seeing me again. He asked if I wanted some more chidlren & said he misses the times we had together. If he still has feelings for me I dont understand why he went & married someone else? He is very jealous of other men that are around me. He wants to pick me up tonite but I dont know if I can resist having sex with him. People are quick to judge, but it is difficult to walk away from someone when your heart tells you that you love this person. I'm not mad at the wife. I dont know what to do....
2007-05-11 10:56:11 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well first off he probably didn't want any kids. So since you told him you weren't pregnant he is happy now. But it still seems as if he has something for you because why would he want to continue seeing you? If he knows your not pregnant now, he is still wanting sex from you so therefore he is keeping the ties there. Who's to say that you wouldn't get pregnant if you two keep goin' at it?
So I get the feeling he likes you more than what he lets on, he probably just doesn't like some of your ways.
2007-05-13 11:59:29 · answer #1 · answered by Wisdom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave this situation alone honey, cause it sounds to me like he doesnt know what he wants and people like this can be dangerous on the heart. I think you should NOT pick him up tonight. He's a married men and you never know what an angry wife will do once she finds out. Hun it is hard when your heart is saying one thing and your mind is saying another. Sleeping with him only proves you have feelings for him but please dont be a fool. Lock it down and have a lite bowl of icecream. Tell him "something suddenly came up...a family thang or something." be short and hang up. It shows the type of man or lack there of---he is to be so willing to cheat on his wife right? I mean she must have meant something to him to make that step. So why is he so eager to break that bond? U might wanna ask him that if he gets pushy. Dont use yourself and dont let ANYONE use u if u can help it. Cause when he's done with u he got booty at home. feel me?
2007-05-11 18:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by mistista07 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Basically, he wants to have two women. He loved you but you don't fit his culture and country. Or should I say he enjoyed your sexual relationship.
In my opinion, he had his chance and you shouldnt let him use you and now break some other woman's heart because he wants it all his way.
How can you love someone who would leave you, marry someone else and now suddenly reallly desires you because your not pregnant?
DONT go out with him you will get all entangled and give yourself a much bigger hurt than you could ever think possible because he's not going to come back to you he's married to his culture.
The person you fell in love with doesnt exsist. The person who does exist is a user. It will hurt. but move on YOU deserve better!
Good Luck.
2007-05-11 18:05:47 · answer #3 · answered by Bree 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, the responsibility and tedium of being married often catch up with a man (women too), and can cause them to return to familiar ground.
It's the fantasy and the absence of day to day reality that brings him back to you.
Don't allow yourself to be used this way - please. It's not love, it won't end happily, he won't leave her for you.
There are many out there who are available and who will be ready to make you FIRST in their lives. NEVER settle for the second place offered by a married man. It's all you will ever get from him, no matter what you may have once shared.
Your life with this man is over and done. He made his choice. Make yours now, honey, and make the right one.
gentle thoughts
2007-05-11 18:07:30 · answer #4 · answered by Ande 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys just like the chase. And also, guys don't view sex in the same way as women. It's just sex to them--it doesn't really mean anything. It doesn't mean that he still loves you (if he did); and it doesn't mean that he doesn't love his wife; it just means that if you'd let him disrepect you and his marriage, then he's game.
He took issue to how you were living your life and decided to settle down with someone else---and you're considering picking up where you left off with him?
You deserve better, or at least someone who won't judge you or your lifestyle---and someone who isn't married to someone else.
2007-05-12 12:51:44 · answer #5 · answered by HeIsMyAllinAll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd agree to meet him somewhere and then stand him up. YOU be the 'pig' for once. Cuz thats what hes being. Put that man right in his place and let him know that he cant have everything he wants when he wants it. But it kinda sounds like you want to sleep with this married ex of yours...dont do it, he aint yours anymore. Refer to above advise, and that should get him to leave you alone and stop trying to play you and his wife.
2007-05-11 18:31:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's married now.. what more do you NEED to know.
To even entertain the thought of starting something up with him is really not very smart and really says alot about your character.
Last I checked there were thousands of men out there that were single and available. Why not consider starting fresh with someone who is worth your time??
2007-05-11 18:47:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a player or someone who just doesn't know what he wants....or he wants a wife at home and you on the side, why should he mess things up? If you feel like you can't resist his charm, your best bet is to stay away from him, or you will wind up regretting your actions. Be a better person, don't temp yourself.
2007-05-11 18:01:24 · answer #8 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES YOU DO!!! HE'S MARRIED!!! You can't tell us you don't know right from wrong!!! Yes we're quick to judge, because there is no excuse to do what you are thinking about!!! Wrong is wrong no matter how you sugar coat it!
2007-05-11 18:00:58 · answer #9 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't need you, your just being a easy piece of azz. If he wanted you, he would have married you. Get a life!!!
2007-05-12 11:49:21 · answer #10 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋