Only serious answers please.
My husband is not letting me get a full night sleep. It's been weeks, I don't know what to do anymore.
Every night, once we've gone to bed, he waits till I get to sleep and thens proceeds to, the only word that comes to mind is molestes me. Feels me up, touches me and wakes me up then asks if I want to have sex. I love to make love with my husband, but my health recently has been a concern. Having the sleepless nights are not making it any better. I've talked with him and asked him to please let me get some rest, I don't like getting woke up everynight at midnight or later because I can't get back to sleep. It happened again tonight. He says he sorry and it won't happen again, but then, sure enough, it happens. It's causing me to miss work and I'm not able to function during the day. I get maybe 3 or four hours of sleep and that's if I'm lucky.
I've talked and argued with him about it but nothing helps. I need some advice.
2007-05-11 18:38:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've tried the sleeping in another room or on the couch and it doesn't matter to him. It's like he's telling me he has all the power. When I confront him about it the next day, he turns it all around and becomes the victim in this. Like, just because I can't perform for him on request, (which is every night), I'm not a good wife. Wife's are suppose to satisy their husbands. I'm so sick of the 'not caring attitude'.
I love him, we have two children and the last thing I want to do is seperate.
2007-05-11 18:59:36 · update #1
MAke the moves on him earlier in the night before you go o sleep...that way you are both happy.
2007-05-11 19:26:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is definitely a problem. Try telling your husband your thinking of going to a counselor since he refuses to acknowledge this with you. After that if he still keeps it up then make an appointment and tell him he has to go with you. If he refuses then you must decide whats more important, a good nights sleep, or being woke up to have sex with him. He sounds like a very uncaring person because he cares more about sex than you. Maybe it's time for you to fly for awhile. At least you would get a good nights sleep and maybe this would wake him up to the facts of the case.
2007-05-12 02:24:30 · answer #2 · answered by bprice215 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try sleeping in another room or on the couch till he gets the point. If that doesn't work or you can't, get a hotel room for a few nights and tell him you're NOT coming back till he learns to behave himself. I'm sorry, hon, but your husband is a thoughtless pig and he needs a kick in the teeth to wake him up.
2007-05-12 01:44:23 · answer #3 · answered by Alice K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set some boundaries. If he wakes you up, then you do NOT have sex with him. You grab the pillows and sleep on the couch (or make him). If he continues to abuse you....and that is what he is doing by not considering your health and your wishes....then you need to stand up and tell him that he will need to start sleeping somewhere else. You might want to set up a few nights a week for sex or dates, but he needs to respect you enough to listen.
2007-05-12 01:46:25 · answer #4 · answered by Karen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy yourself a little watergun, don't let him know you have it. That night when he starts in, hose his *** with it and tell him to knock it off. He needs to respect your sleeping boundries.
All women need their beauty sleep.
2007-05-12 01:55:46 · answer #5 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get mean and nasty with him to let him know you're sreious about it. If that doesen't work, how about a spare room if yoyu have one?
2007-05-12 01:45:54 · answer #6 · answered by seahorse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sleep on yo couch!
2007-05-12 01:44:39 · answer #7 · answered by austinblnd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to the bedroom before him and lock the door! :-) That's what I would do.
2007-05-12 01:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋