My wife cheated on me three years ago with a convicted child molestor. She got pregnant and had his baby. For three years i thought that i was the one that had gotten her pregnant. But with a reacent seperation we had a blood test that showed he wasn't mine. Well he is mine no matter what. I am trying for custady of the children. I have four with her. Now sense we found out the youngest wasn't by me she is useing him so i cant get the children. Was told i wouldn't have any right to him even though his real dad is a convited child molestor. Sense i have no right to him that i wouldn't be ale to get the other children cause they wont seperate them. Well i dont want to seperate the children. I want custady of all four of them. Even though the youngest might have another biological father. I will always be his real father. I think i should have rights to keep him as my own sense i raised him sense he was born. Is their anyway i can go to keep him as my son. Please Help.
2007-05-11 14:23:26 · 11 answers · asked by chriswh90 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need an attorney, but most likely, you would be able to keep all four children, as long as you don't have any skeltons of your own.
My advice: Have your parents move near you, or you them, so that you have a support system.
Swear off women for the duration of the custody battle. You have to prove to the courts that your priorities are in order.
Women like that make me sick.
2007-05-11 14:29:15 · answer #1 · answered by salemgirl1972 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's ******* terrible if they change the name just because it wasn't the 'perfect child'. Yes, of course ai picture what Delilah or Noah (my favorite names) might look like, but I wouldn't love them any less or change the name just because they didn't fit what I pictured them as. However, they might have a reason behind the change...for example: 1.) They probably realize that kids get made fun of in school - a lot. Names & disabilities being two of the most common reasons (wealth & appearance high up there too), and decided to give him a more common name so cut down on a lot of the teasing he'd get (Let's face it - the more uncommon the name, the higher teasing would be). 2.) Maybe they realize raising a child with downs syndrome will be harder than raising a 'normal' child, and have decided this will be their last, and want to honor a family member named Michael. Both are pretty far fetched, I know, but possibilities. The point is - they might have a good reason for the name change, even though they haven't told anyone why.
2016-05-21 00:40:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a nightmare. I am so sorry you are going through this. First of all try to take some deep breaths and be calm. The legal system often has nothing to do with justice so recognize that right off. Then you know that this little boy loves you no matter what. I just find it impossible to believe they would give 4 children to a convicted child molester. Money can buy results in the legal system but if you dont have enough ( and most people dont) have you thought of calling legal aid society? There are great attorneys that work pro bono for that sort of thing. Im sorry I am not a big help but just want you to know that sometimes being a good person like yourself seems hopeless but you are a statement of what goodness is. God Bless YOU
2007-05-11 14:29:55 · answer #3 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok,this probably isnt going to be the easiest thing youve ever done but its not impossible either. Youre just going to have to do your homework and be well prepared for court. Basically youre going to have to prove youre the better parent for all the kids, and show her as an unfit mother in an undesirable environment to raise all those kids. Speak from your heart. Raising the kids so far will be a huge plus in your corner. Once over gor for adoption of the little one immediately again using the mothers unfit environment and dads criminal background. Please dont use any hearsay in court, just use solid evidence or any character witnesses you have and dont be afraid to get down and dirty if necessary for the kids sake. Dont make any accusations you cant back up with evidence. Keep the Judges sympathy on your side, but be professional and dont get caught up in any kids games she may try and entrap you into playing. Youre going to have to be on top of your game in this one.Good luck
2007-05-11 14:38:46 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your name is on the birth certificate, then legally, you ARE the father.... you are the only father that child knows. and if that ex of yours is having something to do with the child molesting biological father, that is grounds right there to get the children out of her custody.... Proving her UNFIT or you the MOST fit parent is something a lawyer has to do... I'm not sure which state you are in but laws differ from state to state...ALSO, if your EX is not in the same state as you are, the case becomes much more difficult, but go talk to a lawyer... I wish you LUCK and I hope it all turns out in your favor....
2007-05-11 14:58:44 · answer #5 · answered by LittleBarb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex-wife is wrong to use your son as a pawn. You are his father, not in the legal sense, but emotionally he sees you as dad. It shows her lack of scruples to manipulate you with a child-a living human being with feelings. Did you have to get the DNA test done? Because if the child was born while the two of you were married, he is your legal son. I'm sorry she waited three years to make that decision. What are your reasons for wanting custody? Is she unfit? I have a friend who has legal custody of his ex-wife's son. He was two years old when they met. He raised him. They got married. She threatened to kill herself and he was granted custody of both children. If you are able to prove that she is unfit to have custody of the three children, the courts will want to place the fourth child in care. If this is the situation, then it is possible for you to get custody of all four.
2007-05-11 14:31:49 · answer #6 · answered by idontloveyoufup 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your name is on that child birth certificate,, take it from there,, the father would have to petition the courts to have that changed,, then you can challenge his past,, seek a lawyer in your area they would know the laws and how to help you,, last but not least keep a journal of everything,in fact form,, no emotion,,, that is evidence that is submittable in court..
2007-05-11 14:29:04 · answer #7 · answered by kitkatish1962 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel ya.....
this is why i hate the courts
they never see the whole picture....
if she started living with the molester...what will happen to all 4 of the children?
go do ur best
get a good lawyer, tell all the facts
2007-05-11 14:30:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got no advice for you, but I do wish you the best!! Good Luck with everything, is so sad that good men like you have to fo through this!
2007-05-11 14:27:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask a lawyer
2007-05-11 14:27:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋