Take into account that my b/f is a smart, calulated person.
He comes home, after two, in the morning, goes straight to the bathroom and washes his penise. When I asked, what he was doing, he lied.I argued intil he had to admited to t/ cleaning. But said that "he was tired and didn't know what he was saying".Then tried to say that he washed up for me!!
( we have a very good sex life @ 2 + per week)
A few hours later I find out that he has a profile on plenty of fish ( a singles site), and has been talking to 33 women about sex.
wanting me to belive him that he was still "FATHFUl" he suggested that because he didn't go out and meet anyone ,in the year that it was posted, I should forgive him. We have been together for 9 years. engaged for 2. The house, Dog, no Kids. In my heart I don't want to be w/ him. I feel sorry for him. it has been a month and he is still crying.
What should I do. I want to MOVE ON.
He won't let go. Every day I am breaking up w/ him all over again
2007-05-08 08:16:13 · 18 answers · asked by NewMe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
LIFE IS TOO SHORT FOR THAT KIND OF DRAMA! Come on...he's trying to pull a fast one on you and you keep giving into him it seems like because you say you keep breaking up with him -- meaning you keep getting back together with him. After 9 years together, there is not reason why he should be posting profile on a single website after he has asked you to be his life long partner. That's just crazy! I think he got way to comfortable in the relationship and something inside of him said it is okay to post profile on single sites when he is clearly not single, it's okay to come home at 2 in the morning and lie about it, and it's okay to speak to other woman who are known to be single and are on these website for the only reason to find other SINGLE men!
I say it's time to move on and find a real man who wouldn't do that to you. I wouldn't marry this man if I were you. Why the hell would you want to marry someone who lies and clearly is sneaky and I'm betting anything who has cheated on you before you're even married?
If you really want to know the truth and you are not 100% ready to get rid of him since you've been together for 9 years, why not hook his *** up to a lie detector machine? I'm serious! If he has nothing to hide then he'll do it. It's not like you woke up one day and said "I think I'm not going to trust my boyfriend." He has a profile, he washed his penis late night, he lied...you have ever right to hook his *** up and test him. Don't let him tell you otherwise. Look up in the yellow pages under detective services and I'm sure you'll see some of these places offering die detecting tests. It should be about $500 or so but it might be worth the money to know the truth. Make a deal, if you catch him in a lie he'll pay for the test. If he passes you'll say sorry and pay for the test. Either way it will give you peace of mind!
Good luck!
2007-05-08 08:31:15 · answer #1 · answered by msbluemd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does all this to you and what is the punishment? Meaning what are you doing to let him know that this is not acceptable? Obviously nothing, that's why he keeps doing it. A person can only do to you, what you allow them to do. So what if you have a house and a dog together... that's not important and those things can be replaced. Your pride, self esteem and dignity will take time. Don't allow someone to step over you and treat you any kind of way. Don't take pride in the fact that he comes home to you and is not with the other women. One day you're going to regret staying... especially if this effects your health.
2007-05-08 08:41:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there could be a bigger painted sign for you.
He came home and directly washed himself. He has a secret life on the internet. He is out until late and gets on the defensive about washing himself.
He is definately cheating.
But this doesn't mean your relationship is over but I don't see how you can get through it if he can't even admit to it.
But if you seriously want to move on then you are going to have to cut all contact with him. You can do this especially if you don't have kids. If he is harassing you do not hesitate to get a restraining order. If he doesn't do anything you will have lost nothing but if he does like my ex did then you will have a tool to do something about it.
But you have to cut contact competely. He has issues that you cannot fix. He has to do this himself.
2007-05-08 08:26:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie, run now. Men like that usually don't change. And he obviously has no respect for you. Did he really expect that you would believe the penis washing story? That shows he doesn't think you are worthy of a good story.
Take the dog and go.
Good luck to you.
2007-05-08 08:25:55 · answer #4 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to cut off all correspondence with him. He's lying cheater and no women deserves that. You cannot trust him or believe what he says...he's proved that to you. Just move on and find a man who loves you and appreciates you...not you AND everyone else in town.
2007-05-08 08:23:12 · answer #5 · answered by dvlbeneathwings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes a liar and a cheat. You need to move away from him and start over. Divide up the animals and change your phone # and cell #.
2007-05-08 08:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by Felicia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to move on, then you will have to get out. It might be bad to leave the house, dog, etc but if its what you want then go. good luck
2007-05-08 08:23:07 · answer #7 · answered by naturalblondebbw_28 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already know what you want, so go for it. Tell him that you are done and you do not want to be with him anymore. end of story! If he chooses not to leave, then offer to have him a police escort him out. I bet he will leave then!
2007-05-08 08:23:25 · answer #8 · answered by kissbutnevertell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lose him!
before you do..why not have a little fun with it to see if he really is cheating? create a fake profile in this pleanty of fish site, with fake (but believable pic) and start chatting with him..find out for yourself sister! maybe even get him to meet you somewhere..he will be expecting the girl you mde up and BAM! you're there. that is what i would do in your shoes...hope this helps!
2007-05-08 08:23:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to leave u alone or u will file a police case. He doesn't deserve u...he has cheated on u many times...was he thinking about u when he did this..noooooo...he was being selfish...mistake is one time...if it keep happening its no longer a mistake to be forgiven...How can u trust him...he has broken ur trust.
2007-05-08 08:23:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋