Marriage & Divorce - 8 May 2007

he had to go deal with things a while back I promised to be there for him and I was for a long time then I met the guy I am with now have asked advice about him (how to get more attention) anyway I do love him but I am not in love with him never have been,the x has always had my heart and always will. I just don't understand how he can still love me let alone still want to be with me. I was so happy with him and haven't been happy in a while, there are mornings I just don't even want to get up,I know I have to (I have kids and I have to work) I don't want to just jump right back into anything but I do love him and I know we would be happy. Just confused.any advice welcome

2007-05-08 04:00:45 · 13 answers · asked by RED 2

My husband deserted my 21month old son and myself. He was the sole bread winner for our household. He was a partner as a corporate litigator in DC's top law firm. His income was $280,000.00 a year plus bonuses. He was bought out by his partners. And he spent all of our savings. Now my son and I have nothing and I have not worked in over 6 years. I am so ... I don't think there is a word to expresss how I feel. Maybe scared, depressed, and angry could somewhat describe the feelings. I don't have any family to lean on and I'm just looking for any adivce I can get. Thank you for taking your time to answer my question.

2007-05-08 03:49:31 · 15 answers · asked by annieshopsalot 1

OK i used to live in oklahoma dn in febuary i moved to georgia with my hubby i am moving back to oklahoma cause we are splitting up, do i need to file for divorce in oklahoma or in georgia? and what are the laws on oklahoma divorce??? Thank you so much

2007-05-08 03:45:48 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My questions got alot of seriously rude and well thoughtless answers.Try reading the question - I along with 400 million other Americans are strugggling financially in these difficult times. I thank God everyday I came from the tight family I did & they are willing to help me. I have been a strong woman and exellent Mother & I have overcome my ex husband being abusive to me and far more abusive to my children. I bought my house in cash & gave up a full time - 6 figure income to be there for my children and ended up living in an area that unfortunaltey - there's no employment - I took out a loan on my equity to make imporvements and pay old bills. The only job I could get was PT. It ended up not being enough & thank God my Mom stepped in to help what we all thought would be temporary. The guy I met is a wonderful man - nothing like my ex & we are taking things slow mostly because of my children and the level of maturity I am obviously NOT finding here today! BTW - Mom is only 57!!!

2007-05-08 03:35:19 · 47 answers · asked by martiek7 3

I have been with my fiance now for 10 months and engaged for 7 months. Lately I have been feeling like my feelings for her have faded compared to that like we first dated. She became ill with a sickness, one that my deceased mother had. I know that had a lot to do with our relationship. But I would think that since this is the girl I plan to marry that feeling would never leave? Or am I wrong and I am just missing the puppy love. She is in-love with me and says she can get butterflys in her stomach, but I don't... also she called a "no sex" until married on our 10months anniversary. Sad to say that hurt bad, she says she wants it to be special once we get married. But I dunno, this all has affected me bad and I don't want to lose her, but I can't stand to be with her and not feeling the same way!

2007-05-08 03:20:18 · 17 answers · asked by Ryan 2

2007-05-08 03:13:04 · 20 answers · asked by Joey M 1

but have never married relationship is good everyone says we should get married should we

2007-05-08 02:58:15 · 14 answers · asked by lifesucksforreal2000 1

2007-05-08 02:56:34 · 24 answers · asked by Rajeev B 1

but he thinks its really big should i tell him the truth

2007-05-08 02:55:56 · 35 answers · asked by lifesucksforreal2000 1

Someone you live with makes you feel insignificant everyday, but you have no choice but to live with them because you have nowhere else to go. and your family has moved on without you. You just got a new job, so you haven't any money to afford a new apartment yet, and now you are stuck. Well, this is what is happening to me. I had to move back to my boyfriend and my place where we don't get along, and he says reading is "dumb" I love to read all the time and he constantly says it is stupid...I can't take much more.

2007-05-08 02:53:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I didn't have sex for 8mos of her pregnancy and for 5mos after...while she was pregnant I didn't bug her too much about it, and since she had pain associated with the c-section, I left her alone for a few months after the birth. When I finally brought it up, she got defensive and it took a couple more months before we had sex. We did plenty of talking...she was having body image issues and I did my best to ease her mind and let her know how attractive I find her. We agreed that having two young kids sex would be less frequent, she thought 2-3x a month was ok, I thought 3-4, but we were in the same ballpark. It got better briefly, now we've had sex once in the last month, and last night at midnight, when I tried to get romantic, she said I'd have to approach her earlier. This is somewhere on the long list of excuses. We have busy lives, but I am very helpful around the house and with the kids. I feel like we could make time once a week. Any suggestions? (no cheating)

2007-05-08 02:53:09 · 14 answers · asked by Killer B 2

I am 18 years and engaged isn't something scary to me but, MOTHER IN LAW..... Now that word scares me...lol
Well, not really but, how do we deal with our problem without hurting her feelings....
My fiance has always had his mother there.... "mommy's boy"
well, lately we moved in together and she's always snooping around making rude comments about my place....
It's not so much that we're a mess or anything more like criticize that I'm high maintance and that I have the money to get what I want... You see I've been saving my money along with my guardian's help and now I can live the same lifestyle I lived when I was at home and she's like I wish my bed was that big... Sorry I can't afford it. In my day we washed our own dishes.. Not some machine, you can't trust. In a way it makes me feel aaahhh.
I finally told him and he understood but how do we tell her...
Will she change or does she just hate me.. or will mother in laws always be like that or why is she like that.. Please Help

2007-05-08 02:50:18 · 3 answers · asked by Amanda Kasual 2

What if you asked this question? Do you think of me? and got this Answer: You are very cool and fun to be with. You seem to down to earth and very understanding. Did I mention very pretty?

What do you think of that answer?

2007-05-08 02:49:23 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

but she wont sleep with hers should i let her so i dont have to

2007-05-08 02:48:23 · 13 answers · asked by lifesucksforreal2000 1

I recently got divorced and before my divorce I was outgoing, funny, smart, and had great self confidence. Now since my divorce I am kinda shy, withdrawn, and very scared about even dating or starting another relationship. Please help, has anyone out there been thru this kind of drama before? What can a lonely girl do /

2007-05-08 02:46:30 · 11 answers · asked by Dr Honesty 77 2

I am a stay at home mom and we have 3 kids. My husband works full time. He picked up another job, but he's hardly ever there, so I'm not sure it counts. He can't. He's gone to softball tournments on the weekends. Well, it's not every weekend, but two weekends per month. Anyway, with 3 kids and being home with them all week I would like to get out of the house sometimes. Well, it's hard when he is away at a tournament. I am frustrated with him, but he thinks I shouldn't be. He thinks that I should be bringing the kids and hanging around the ball field. All 3 kids-did I mention are under school-age?
(5, 3, and 1 1/2) What would you do?

2007-05-08 02:38:11 · 32 answers · asked by wawas7 2

2007-05-08 02:33:05 · 14 answers · asked by Gypsy Gal 6

2007-05-08 02:31:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok ..my sister in law is 5 years younger to me .
im in india.. i wear all kinds of western clothes jeans etc .
but she doesnt.. she does wear it wehn she "feels" like it,
i have always been pampering her being a good friend but her ways of depprciations (sp?) made ,e a little aloof.
Anyhow as we are in joint family i tried again .. its no biggie but , i gave her few of my "new" outfits to wear . she says yes intially ...but then she "never " wears them,

a. how do i behave in future?
b. what kind of reltionship should i keep with her?

2007-05-08 02:29:22 · 7 answers · asked by barley 2

I did not accept my boyfriend's proposal 2 yrs ago b/c I felt we were not ready financially for marriage. We are currently separated on a "break", his choice - no dating of others. He is trying to buy a house to feel as he says "like the man in the relationship". He finally told me that he has resentment due to my non-acceptance of his proposal. I told him that I love him and I would marry him now but he says it's not the right time since we are at odds. What do I do? It's been 6 weeks of back and forth. I am angry because the pain from the break and he is angry about the embarrassment from the proposal. He evidently told a lot of people. (BTW, we didn't discuss marriage fully and he did not has a gist of what I would say.)
Help, what do I do?

2007-05-08 02:26:14 · 15 answers · asked by Exotica 2

Have you cheated by sleeping with the person you are in love with if you waited for everything (any form of physical love) until you filed for divorce and you no longer are in love with your spouse?

2007-05-08 02:18:02 · 28 answers · asked by QueenMoofMoof 1

My husband is a good man. He works hard and has a good job and he loves me very much. When he proposed I thought this was what should matter. Everyone who meets him thinks he is wonderful and both friends and family wanted me to marry him.
I knew something was missing. I loved him but I never once felt IN love with him. After 7 years (2 married) I find myself dreaming about what it would be like to be kissed again and actually get a nice feeling from it.
My husband is not home most of the time because he works so much. He has gotten quite heavy because he is never home to work out like he used to.
I am even less attracted to him now than I was before. I don't know what to do.I feel like he is just my friend. Being with him sexually grosses me out.

2007-05-08 02:17:11 · 14 answers · asked by Eva C 1

Or should the husband be the one to make all the decisions?
All replies appreciated. Thanks

2007-05-08 02:16:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-08 02:15:40 · 5 answers · asked by catwoman12325 1

2007-05-08 02:12:25 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

not loving some one anymore ..but still loving..the times with them.
& in such a case how do you think its termed .. "moved" on or no?

2007-05-08 02:11:47 · 6 answers · asked by barley 2

and "once a cheater,always a cheater"?
It's easy to say because one partner fails to provide a certain trait another partner needs...I mean beyond that...Some people go on to cheat in second relationships too,even if they are content...

2007-05-08 02:11:38 · 7 answers · asked by crystal 5

I have seen a man put in Jail for non-payment of support and I don't think this helps the father nor the mother. You cannot pay support if you are in jail and not working!

2007-05-08 02:07:07 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband's beautiful aunt recently married a guy that's actually old enough to be her grandfather. No suprise, he's also very rich. I know she's using him for money but he married her for her looks and body. When people marry for money, do they earn it? I know gold diggers and kept men are shallow and superficial, I'm just wondering if they deserve the money they get.

2007-05-08 02:05:10 · 6 answers · asked by Graciela, RIRS 6

Actually, this IS acceped where I live. How did we get to this point?

2007-05-08 02:01:01 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous