Someone you live with makes you feel insignificant everyday, but you have no choice but to live with them because you have nowhere else to go. and your family has moved on without you. You just got a new job, so you haven't any money to afford a new apartment yet, and now you are stuck. Well, this is what is happening to me. I had to move back to my boyfriend and my place where we don't get along, and he says reading is "dumb" I love to read all the time and he constantly says it is stupid...I can't take much more.
2007-05-08 02:53:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
These comments are lifting my spirits :)
2007-05-08 03:03:56 · update #1
To David C...I have lost a couple of good friends because of him(my fault), so the friend thing is definitely Out. I'll come up with something I guess.
2007-05-08 03:11:03 · update #2
"Reading is dumb"? Really? Would you care to wage who the "dumb" one is? She who reads to improve vocabulary, perfect your sentence structure and punctuation and expand the mind by drawing you into a fantasy of words that paints a picture for you as you read...or....a mope who considers the written word "dumb"? Gee....guess i have to side with you.
Listen sweetie...heres the scoop. Granted you may find yourself between a rock and a hard place right now but a smart 9and well-read person) would be making plans for the very near future to sock away some extra cash and leave this boob quickly.
The man has no brains. Just the comment about reading alone sums up the level of his intelligence. You're saddling yourself with an illiterate who will keep you trapped and under his thumb because he lacks the smarts and social graces that would match yours. therefore..he feels inadequate.
Make your plans and kick this trash to the curb quickly. I'm sure there's some ditzy, big breasted illiterate blonde in a trailer park somewhere that will be just right for him. You on the other hand have an entirely different class of people waiting out here to meet you and enjoy your company. leave him to the simpletons.
2007-05-08 03:15:21 · answer #1 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a question of what's more important to you. You don;t say whether the family has actually moved away or if this is a matter of lives drifting in different directions. Give your parents a call and ask them for help. (Not necessarily for money, but hey, you never know.) As to the bf. If you can't ignore him, then take your act somewhere else. If you just started a new job won't you have some money soon? Find a cheap studio or something where you can live your life and not have to hear the putdowns. There is always some other option. Ask your friends for help, ask people at work, ask around (I know--that's what this is, right?) Someone you know will let you stay with them or give you some help with the money or at least give you some affirmation and encouragement. (And tell the bf to try reading something himself--he may find it isn't quite the waste of time he thinks.)
2007-05-08 10:08:49 · answer #2 · answered by David C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You always have a choice. You choose not to move out from your bf's house and suffer the consequences. I understand that you don't have any money save up, but you can always look at other options. Why rent an apartment when you can afford? Why not rent a room for $300 ~400 a month? There are lots and lots of people renting rooms. Why don't you look into this option and go forward? If you don't want to rent a room than you've made a choice to be there at your bf's house and take crap from him. That is your choice no one else's. If you can't take it anymore than look into renting a room. Good luck..and don't ever think that you don't have a choice. You do have a choice in any and everything!
2007-05-08 10:51:51 · answer #3 · answered by Victoria78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then start saving all of the money from your new job until you can move out. Concentrate on that. Don't let his remarks set in and make you feel bad about yourself. Make a plan to stay there and do the best you can until you can move out on your own. Try to get along with him the best you can and do not take what he says to heart.
be cool...
2007-05-08 10:00:30 · answer #4 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be patient and save the money you need to move out as fast as possible. And by the way, reading isn't dumb, he is.
2007-05-08 10:00:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll just have to grind it out until you have enough $$ to stand on your own.
2007-05-08 10:00:57 · answer #6 · answered by Mongo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋