My husband's beautiful aunt recently married a guy that's actually old enough to be her grandfather. No suprise, he's also very rich. I know she's using him for money but he married her for her looks and body. When people marry for money, do they earn it? I know gold diggers and kept men are shallow and superficial, I'm just wondering if they deserve the money they get.
2007-05-08 02:05:10 · 6 answers · asked by Graciela, RIRS 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She married for money. He married for looks. Neither married for love. I wouldn't really call this gold digging, as much as a business deal.
Personally, I think it's gold digging more when a person marries for money & the person they married thinks the gold-digger loves them. That's sad.
2007-05-08 02:13:25 · answer #1 · answered by retropink 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a young woman dating an older weathier guy. People could look at me and say "I know she is using him for money and him vice versa" and they would not be correct, so I am curious as to whether you actually know or if you are assuming?
But the fact is, my attractiveness and his wealth are reflections of positive elements of our personalities.
He is wealthy not through inheritance, but because he is a hard working, honest man. By doing the right thing by people and always charging them fair and reasonable prices, he has built a successful business. By being a spiritual and wise person, when someone won't pay a bill he knows when to just accept it and move on rather than spending more time and stress on it then it is worth. By being a hardworking man he is at work for long hours that a man half his age would struggle to do. I highly admire his strength, honesty and philsophy on life, and if he did not have these attributes he would not have his wealth.
As for myself, I know that men as visual and men all over the world are not attracted to unhealthy amounts of body fat. Most days I do not feel like exercising, and I feel like eating chococate cake. But I care about looking nice for myself and my parter and so I make sacrifices. It is the positive personality traits that I possess like self discipline and determination that enable me to in the effort to exercise and personal grooming even when I do not feel like doing it.
We have a very caring, loving relationship. There is much more to him then his money, and there is more to me than my youth and attractivness. Relationships can be difficult for anyone, and if we did not also have complementary personalities then it would not last. To cut people down to just those very simplistic facts about themselves misses out on a lot of the picture. If a couple were together just for those reasons and did not get along then it would be incredibly hard work and I would feel sorry for them. But you cannot assume that they are the only factors that have bought them together.
2013-09-30 17:42:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is an opportunist and also a complete financial idiot. Good for you for not marrying. However, the fact you even entertained being with a bozo needs to be examined. You must know someone over a long period to fo time to see how they treat you. He was looking for a fast easy way to live higher on the hog, and if it did not work out, you;d have to pay him to get rid of huim. Go out only with professional men who earn a great salary.
2016-05-18 01:28:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They deserve nothing, they are worth nothing. They make it difficult for normal, decent people to have a relationship, as they are always suspected of being 'in it for the money'. Ever try to say 'Hi' to your favorite professional athlete (for the female fan) he looks like a deer in the headlights, if you are alone (i.e. not visibly attached to a man) they, out of neccessity, have to assume the worst. Bummer for us nice girls who just want to say hello, and talk the game for a few minutes. A sickening trend I'd like to see end.
2007-05-08 02:14:51 · answer #4 · answered by Icewomanblockstheshot 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that guy is a moron for falling for a girl like that,for me I don't care it she hadthe face of an angel and body of a goddess if I had a girlfriend and I found out that she was a gold digger I would dump her.
2007-05-08 05:36:45 · answer #5 · answered by NONAME 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is between them but how sad that they will never know true love..............
2007-05-08 02:11:34 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋