My husband deserted my 21month old son and myself. He was the sole bread winner for our household. He was a partner as a corporate litigator in DC's top law firm. His income was $280,000.00 a year plus bonuses. He was bought out by his partners. And he spent all of our savings. Now my son and I have nothing and I have not worked in over 6 years. I am so ... I don't think there is a word to expresss how I feel. Maybe scared, depressed, and angry could somewhat describe the feelings. I don't have any family to lean on and I'm just looking for any adivce I can get. Thank you for taking your time to answer my question.
2007-05-08 03:49:31 · 15 answers · asked by annieshopsalot 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all he owes you some big time alimony and child support... divorce his ***. Second you are not alone, lots of women go through this and you will be fine. Hold your head up decide what kind of work you want to do and go for it. I encourage you to talk to a counselor and an attorney. Good Luck, YOU CAN DO THIS!!! stay strong.
2007-05-08 03:56:06 · answer #1 · answered by MAGS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will need to get a job to support you and your son. A friend of mine works at a place that helps people get jobs, I think it's called Job Service. They find out what you are able to do and get you set up. I'm sure they have places like that all over. Maybe you have a friend that can take care of your son till you can get a regular baby sitter. From what I gather, the child centers are pretty expensive. You don't need that right now. Next you need to get a lawyer so that you can take your husband to divorce court and get him to pay child support, and alimony. I feel sorry for you. Good luck.
2007-05-08 11:09:58 · answer #2 · answered by Joe S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off...sorry about what has happened to you and your son.
Second, you've lived a good life. I understand that you are devastated, but you cannot seat around and mope about your husband deserting you and your kid. You have to be strong at heart for your son. There are lots and lots of single mothers out there working two to three jobs to support their children and you can do it too. Don't expect too much of yourself, I am not putting you down, but if your expectation is too high your disappointment can really get you down. Start one by one....start small and go big. Most working class people earn 40k to 100k a year. Even working at a fast food restaurant can start you off. This is just an example..
You have been depending on your husband for too long, it is time for you to really step up and take care of yourself and your son. Good Luck!
2007-05-08 11:00:13 · answer #3 · answered by Victoria78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all get a lawyer your husband has to pay child support for your son and tell your lawyer that you want allomony that he was your sole support and you will get it then find a job to help support you and your son. i am so sorry this happened to you it must be horrible but you have to get some confidence back and be strong , this man will have to pay for whats hes done money wise . and you can do this yourself if you want to . and dont forget to tell your lawyer that you want your husband to pay for your lawyer as well just because he may be a lawyer too doesnt mean that he gets away with leaving you and your son with nothing.
2007-05-08 11:03:51 · answer #4 · answered by moe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is where he is today partly because of you so I say get a good attorney and sue him for child support and alimony so you won't be living on the streets. In the meantime, get a job asap.
2007-05-08 10:54:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a lawyer always a lawyer. Find yourself an attorney and have him hunted down like the dog he is. No holds barred; go for the wallet.
2007-05-08 10:55:20 · answer #6 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would find a job (and fast) so u can at least feed yourself and your child...obviously your child will need to be enrolled in daycare...the easy life has just ended for you...get ready for a rough and tumble ride...but the rest of us do this all the time...so u will be ok
2007-05-08 10:54:09 · answer #7 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing. Go to church or try women help groups. They should be able to help you with a job or assistance. File for divorce and get the child support started.
2007-05-08 11:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go back to school, surely you qualify for some funding of some sort. (look into it) and find yourself a job......it may take a while, but in the long run, you will have to get rid of the past in your life, and support your son, and yourself.............
2007-05-08 10:56:03 · answer #9 · answered by it'sjustme79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be strong and stay on top of your game - what he did was not right and yes you are going to battle but do not let it get to you - there are thousands in the same boat and all of them do get to dry land sooner or later - the time depends on the individual
2007-05-08 10:58:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋