Marriage & Divorce - 8 May 2007

2007-05-08 15:25:19 · 9 answers · asked by gloria s 1

my husband cant figure out if he wants me or not or i cant tell either way its confusing amd i'm tried of the game what can i do.

2007-05-08 15:21:16 · 21 answers · asked by janine4lyfe 1

I have been hurt by my ex husband (15 yrs. and cheated on me) was true to him...but how do you trust again? I know it is possible, but how do you completley trust your heart again?

2007-05-08 15:20:23 · 20 answers · asked by buggie 3

2007-05-08 15:17:57 · 27 answers · asked by Arianna 1

2007-05-08 15:16:49 · 9 answers · asked by What is wrong w/ppl these days! 1

2007-05-08 15:12:40 · 10 answers · asked by poppa b 1

I posted a question the other day about my husband. Later that night I went into the study and he was looking for jobs in another country. We talked... he said he was sick of me, no-one wanted him anyway, he may as well go. I told him I married him with the intention of being together forever and working through problems but if he was serious, I would leave. The next morning he said to stay, but frankly three days later it's still horrible around here.
He won't change so I am going to have to. There are things that always come up in our fights. 1. Kids 2. he thinks I control him and have cut him off from his friends. He says he doesn't want to be bossed around. He brings up times when I've checked his phone and email as though I was still doing it (he was hiding things) and criticise his friends (when I have it was valid and not for ages). I'm tired and depressed. Our social life changed when I stopped drinking as I hate being in bars & that gets used against me . Where do I start?

2007-05-08 15:10:17 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

Two only please.

please explain a bit. thanks!

2007-05-08 15:08:17 · 19 answers · asked by ~hope~ 1

I want to know if anything weird happens physically at age 50.

2007-05-08 15:02:30 · 9 answers · asked by Taffy 1

I don`t know where to start, I am from Germany, have been here in the US for 11 Y. been married to US Guy for 14 Y and have 4 kids with him. Now he has someone else & a baby with her. He wants out and a divorce, he wants custody of 2 kids. I do know it is only because he doesn`t want to pay me any child support. I am in the State of GA, I feel like every where I turn for help I am running ito a dead end. I am tired, exauseted, lonely, and I feel totally helpless and don`t know where to go or what to do. I have no Job, No College Degree, because I have allways been the one who raised our kids. He was allways gone on Bussiness trips etc. I am totally angry every day of my life and when I look in the mirror I feel old and like I lost all my self esteem and don`t know how to love myself again anymore.
I am afraid of not having Health Ins.ones I am divorced and I will be bymyself for the rest of my life. I feel like I want to feel beautiful again and have someone who loves me.I am 38 Y now

2007-05-08 15:00:46 · 6 answers · asked by cheers :) 2

2007-05-08 14:56:39 · 10 answers · asked by anonymous 1

My x paid child support on line with his credit card... it says 2 business days to post... that was Friday..does anyone pay or have info on how long it take for the payment to post to the child support account before being sent out. He usually mails his child support but this time did it on line and I am getting worried that it has not posted on the account to be sent out to the children.

2007-05-08 14:56:35 · 1 answers · asked by caligrl 5

i know he will not go back with her so thats not it

2007-05-08 14:53:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex and I have joint custody but he has primary. She got in trouble Monday at school for talking and passing notes. He is now saying she is uncontrolable and wants to send her to military school. I want to bring her to my house and he will not allow it. Her was very abusive with me and I hope and pray that the cycle does not continue. If I take him back to court an attorney stated it would take up to 3 years and $20,000 to gain full custody. What shall I do? He is impossible to reason with.

2007-05-08 14:50:50 · 7 answers · asked by K_N_J 1

My husband and I have been getting alone for awhile now,but the thing is,is that he has been driving my car to work two weeks out a month and won't put any gas in it.How can I tell him to either put gas in it or find other means to getting back and fourth to work.Without being mean and starting an argument?

2007-05-08 14:50:12 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, My husband and I have been together for four years and married for three. We have a five month old son. I use to have a myspace and my husband always got mad at me for having one and wanted me to delete it. Well, a girl that he went to high school with tried to get ahold of him and didn't sound like she was looking just for a friend so I deleted my myspace for that reason and because I was sick of always getting yelled at. Well he heard that she was trying to get ahold of him and I told him that I wasn't comfortable with him talking to her because of they way she was so egar to get ahold of him. Well he has been treating me really badly telling me to pack my stuff and our sons and leave that he doesn't love me because I don't trust him....but yet if it was the other way around he would be so angry if I talked to another guy. He always tells me that he is right and I am wrong. I don't understand how it wasn't ok for me to talk to guys I went to high school but it would be ok for him

2007-05-08 14:25:31 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend of 5 and a half years asked me to marry him. Thing is, I am 16 and not sure if I should. He is graduating high school this year and I am a junior. I have no clue what to do and I would just like everyone opinions about this.

2007-05-08 14:23:37 · 57 answers · asked by Allie F 2

Like trust, commitment, faithfulness- all under the guise of " I don't want it to happen to me". The only reason a woman needs not to cheat on her husband is because he satifsfies her. Period. Bottom line, that the only reason why women cheat anyway, so therefore, that's the only reason why women don't cheat. Please, women, stop with the self-righteous, better than thou attitude. Enough already.

2007-05-08 14:09:27 · 38 answers · asked by YBMEUBU 3

my wife is pregnant and having a hard time. i started a new job a few months ago and enjoy the people i work with (all men by the way). i come home saying that we were talking about this and that. i want to share my day with her. she keeps saying i don't want to hear about how good your day was because i've felt like puking all day. Then she proceeds to say things like "well if you like those guys why don't you just go down on them or fudge pack them in the back of their cars if you like them so much". I understand how she feels and i tried to tell her that i do. My point is this when i told her that i understand how she feels don't swear at me. she can be upset but not swear and say really crappy things. she said "you just arent supportive at all". I am but it's hard to be when she's being nasty as hell. How should I react? just swallow it for her sake or something else?

2007-05-08 14:08:29 · 15 answers · asked by survivor 1

I know it sounds silly and nothing compared to what others are going through but in a way I feel like I am abused. I am ignored. I dont want to whine about it as I feel ashamed for even mentioning it because he doesnt hit me or call me names. I was just wondering what other people might think. He doesnt say good bye in the mornings, doesnt say good night, doesnt tell me where he's going, doesnt call when he's going to belate. We dont talk when he is home, he falls asleep five minuts after getting home or he goes outside to work on his van. All day all night. I feelHe gets up on weekends and just goes about his merry ol business. Never thinks of me in any way shape or form. I feel like a nothing. He has put my ideas down for years so now I have no confindence at all. I wanted to go to school but he said that he would not pay for it. Does this sound like abuse or am I just being a whiner? Im so sorry to complain. I dont know. If you dont mind could you please give me your honest opinion

2007-05-08 14:04:21 · 24 answers · asked by My_Two_Centz 2

For 17 years I struggled as a single Mom, and worked my way through all the crappy jobs, to keep my kids in there home, and to keep a certain lifestyle. A year ago I finally got the dream job, with the good pay, benifits, retirement, and was going to be able to be financially stable, and my husband, and kids, and myself, would'nt have wanted for anything. But Just because, somebody didnt like me, for no reason, and got me fired, it affected all our lives. I was devastated, and had to go on medication, and have not been able to work for a year. After working all those years to meet the goal, and to get there, just to have it taken away, and have to start all over. Now my 17 year old daughter got mad at me, and said, hurtful things about me not working. How I just sit in the chair and watch soap opera's, and put money into the yard,and she had to get a job, because I can't. She keeps all her money, so I don't know what she is talking about.

2007-05-08 13:57:37 · 63 answers · asked by Sunday 3

i mean , is there ever a time when there are no feelings left ?

2007-05-08 13:50:08 · 13 answers · asked by kramer 1

He has lost interest in sex. I thought he might be having an affair but he tells me he is not and I can find no proof of it. He has always been honest with me. Anyway, I asked to use his body for my sexual gratification and while he was able to maintain an erection, he never climaxed...even after I gave him oral. I tried intercourse and oral for over 10 minutes but he never even breathed heavy. He says that he just doesn't feel sensitive down there. What might be wrong with him?

2007-05-08 13:43:18 · 14 answers · asked by mackinawmissy 1

2007-05-08 13:39:37 · 13 answers · asked by Amanda D 3

Then please help me to understand what is. I want you to understand my point before you jump the gun. I know that teamwork is important and so is communication. There are several other things like companionship, etc. However these things are rarely the bases for divorce. An affair is the leading cause for divorce and has always been. So my question is for those who say that "there are more important things than sex". What is the most important factor in your realationship and would it be the bases for divorce?

2007-05-08 13:38:59 · 23 answers · asked by dadgonewild 4

Today would be my 10 year anniversary, but my husband and I were divorced about 1 year ago. I feel really depressed, and I've done things since my divorce to keep my mind off of it. The month that my divorce was finalized a took a 6 month trip around Europe, Asia, and Africa seeing all the places I wanted to see but never had. Then when I got back, I moved out of the house he and I lived together in, and I got a roomate. Then I got a new job, and I've really gotten my life straightened out. But today, I feel unusually depressed. Should I go back to my therapist that I went to before my divorce was finalized? Or will this mood pass, and it is completely normal? Any other divorcees that know what I'm feeling?

2007-05-08 13:33:44 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband has not had sex with me in 5 months, Is this normal? He is always stressed out and helps care for out two kids. I asked him why, he says he is always to tired. I will end up divorced if this keeps up..he is always home, but do you think he is cheating or just needs help mentally?

2007-05-08 13:29:28 · 64 answers · asked by josiejo 3

my hubby wants a divorce we have been married for almost 7 years i told him ok if that is what he wants. my problem is why doesn't it seem to be affecting me i mean i haven't cried or really even cared about it one way or another. is this a normal reaction. we didn't have a bad marriage we are best friends and still are we still talk about everything. we only had three arguments in the whole time we have been married . his wanting a divorce is coming from out of the blue so why am i not upsit about it. every one keeps asking me if i am ok about this and the truth is right now i am fine. has any one else felt this way

2007-05-08 13:27:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just found that my mom isn't in love with my dad anymore.
She doesn't really treat him that kindly.
I mean, she's not mean to him, just a little concieted sometimes.
He is out of state right now, for my cousin's barmitzvah.
So she was telling me how she thinks my dad is a little
sad because she is not saying "I misss youu!!"
I asked her why she doesn't miss him.
And then we had a little confersation and it turns out she isn't attracted to my dad anymore because he is fat.
Which is stupid because he isn't like 300 pounds with blubber all over his legs and arms. He just has a potbelly.
She said if he worked out, and got into shape, she might
have some lust for him.
I'm really upset. She seems so fine with it!

&&I know for a fact they don't have $ex anymore.

2007-05-08 13:24:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband and I have been together for almost four years we just bought a new house in September ..and noticed a great change in his personality he was treating me very disrespectful I thought it was the stress of everything then I noticed on the computer that we share that he had been deleting his history and I just wonder why .I never said anything to him ...when one day I was checking send mail and found an e-mail from another woman he claims he knew nothing about it but it was addressed to him ...in the e-mail he asked her to lunch, the e-mail was dated November 6 he Started a new job on that date ..,he said they never went to lunch I don't know whether to believe him or not ....he denied the whole thing saying that someone set him up but that wasn't possible there was three emails one writing to her and then her answering and then him asking her to lunch ....I don't feel I can trust him now ......I never believed that he would do something like this

2007-05-08 13:19:10 · 18 answers · asked by Just me 1