I going through a personal Crisis and I don`t know where life will take me,someone please help me find answers

Question

I don`t know where to start, I am from Germany, have been here in the US for 11 Y. been married to US Guy for 14 Y and have 4 kids with him. Now he has someone else & a baby with her. He wants out and a divorce, he wants custody of 2 kids. I do know it is only because he doesn`t want to pay me any child support. I am in the State of GA, I feel like every where I turn for help I am running ito a dead end. I am tired, exauseted, lonely, and I feel totally helpless and don`t know where to go or what to do. I have no Job, No College Degree, because I have allways been the one who raised our kids. He was allways gone on Bussiness trips etc. I am totally angry every day of my life and when I look in the mirror I feel old and like I lost all my self esteem and don`t know how to love myself again anymore.
I am afraid of not having Health Ins.ones I am divorced and I will be bymyself for the rest of my life. I feel like I want to feel beautiful again and have someone who loves me.I am 38 Y now

Answer 1

I am not sure of your particular situation financially, but if you can stay at home and not work, you could consider going to college. There are many night and weekend programs and I am sure you could get financial assistance (fafsa.org). This could connect you with other adults, assist you in starting your own career and being more independent, build your self-esteem, and give you something to focus on. It will also set a good example for your children.

Go to meetup.com and check out the parent or womens groups in your area. This may be a good outlet if you are feeling lonely and 'worn out' and old. A lot of women can relate to how you feel right now.

I felt that way at only 25 years old! I looked in the mirror and saw a worn down, depressed, used, abused, lifeless old woman!

You will get thru it but you need support. Check out the assistance programs in your state for help . These websites may help.

http://www.parentswithoutpartners.org/
http://www.nccp.org/pub_frs04b.html
http://www.georgiauncontesteddivorce.com/

Answer 2

You have been in the States long enough to understand that you need an attorney and you need one quickly. I applaud that you were always the stay at home mom but you are going to have to step up to the plate here and find something anything to do in the work world just to get you out there. Stop thinking you are old and lacking self esteem because your kids can't see you this way. Get some help here with therapy if you can. Your husband will probably have to help with health insurance through your divorce plan so don't stress over that until you work with your attorneys. God knows at 38, you won't be alone the rest of your life but why do you need a man to make the rest of your life viable? Maybe this is the time you get to go to college and get yourself a career. Maybe this is the time of your life you create your own business. Everything is possible. Get help to get out of your depression and make things happen. You can do it. Go for it.

Answer 3

Get a grip your only thirty eight years old, all you need is some reconstruction new clothes new shoes, nice make up new hair due. That may work go out and treat yourself, look your best, fight for the kids and for yourself his the one who cheated he cant take custody.

Better yourself go back to school get a job, just because your husband lost interest that doesn't mean other men have.

Chin up.

Good luck

Answer 4

((hugs and prayers)) I do not consider humans are susceptible or simply looking for concentration after they submit individual existence predicament on right here. I consider they're benefiting from what's to be had to them. I wouldn't have any kids so i can not wholly assume what you're going by way of, specifically with having to keep in mind the nine year historic's emotions additionally. I recognize that your religion is robust! I am comfortable that you simply believe God. I wish your son does additionally. It is distinctive that this little lady can have any such distinctive position mannequin as you to seem as much as for the duration of all this. Knowing that the way you manage matters will have an effect on her typically places a different strain on you however attempt to see it as an possibility to give a boost to her early in existence so she too can manage matters and seem to the Lord later in existence as you do. I will placed your son and also you and your loved ones on my prayer record. Remember that existence is the tiniest facet of the distinctive travel that God has given us. It is so best to have those we like right here to take that travel with us. But oftentimes one man or woman gets forward of the opposite although you're at the equal course. Just recollect that you simply ARE at the equal course and in time, you'll capture up. God bless you my pal! If I can do whatever else think loose to e mail me. With love in Christ, JC

Answer 5

FIRST OF ALL, PISS ON HIM, YOU DONT NEED THE SCUMBAG, SECOND, IF YOU RAISED THE 4 KIDS, THEN YOU SHOULD GET CUSTODY, AND IF HE'S LUCKY, HE CAN GET VISITATION. IF YOU HAVE CUSTODY, THEN HE HAS TO PAY CHILD SUPORT, WHETHER HE LIKES IT OR NOT, ALSO, IF YOU HAVE BEEN MARRIED OVER 10 YEARS, AND YOU STAYED AT HOME AND RAISED CHILDREN, THEN YOUR ENTITLED TO ALIMONY! SEE IF THE FUTHERMUCKERS NEW GIRLFRIEND LIKES THOSE APPLES!!! SERIOUSLY, GET A GOOD LAWYER, GET WITH A SUPPORT GROUP, GET OFF YOUR ***, STOP FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF, AND GET OUT THERE AND START LIVING FOR YOURSELF, AND MOST OF ALL, YOUR CHILDREN!!!!! GOOD LUCK, SWEETIE!

OH, BY THE WAY, ALL THIS ADVICE COMES FROM A MAN!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

go see a social worker and see what the laws can help you with. Also, if you know for sure he is gonna leave, clean out the bank account and stash some money away. Good luck.