I overheard my husband say to his ex "I promise we will raise our son together" what did he mean?

Question

i know he will not go back with her so thats not it

Answer 1

I think it means just what he said.

You are his wife, but he still has an obligation to his child. He wants to ensure that his son has a good life and that he doesn't end up screwed up!!

They HAVE to be a team when it comes to their son!

If you are concerned with what he said though, just ask him!

I know it's incredibly hard in a situation where you have to deal with an ex and a child. It's not difficult to read way too much into little things that mean nothing!! haha. Just know that you're not alone in this, and although your husband might get a little frustrated when you feel a little insecure, I'm sure deep down he understands. I know I've gone through my share of questioning things with the baby-mama.....and if your situation is anything like mine, it has nothing to do with not trusting him, and EVERYTHING to do with her being a completely shady, conniving human being who wants to make EVERYONE as miserable as she is!!! haha

Good luck!! And just try not to worry about this too much!!

Answer 2

That's good that you know that he will not go back with her, so you are secure with his love for you.
Don't take it wrong when he says we will raise their son 'together'...That's important. I'm going through that, too, and I am VERY thankful my ex is on my side or supports whatever I say to our children. (And thankful he's my EX). However, he is really trying to discipline our children in addition to the 3 extra that have 'stepped' into his lives.
This affects our children in some ways, but the most important thing is that me and him discipline our children as a team. His wife now actually has a few different opinions on how he disciplines our children, so that hurts their relationship or they butt heads when it comes to disciplining 'her' children (her ex is absent at this time).The kids will eventually, if it's not already happening now, try to get away with something with one parent and hope that the other go with it. By your husband saying that also shows his taking his share of responsibility instead of just letting the ex handle all of it. To some, it may be a relief but the true victim of divorce are the children. My husband and his baby mama actually are just now (after 4 years) trying to discipline their son 'on the same page' vs together...and they are seeing how effective it is to stick to their guns. They both have finally see that 'giving what he (their son) wants so he'll love me better' attitude doesn't work. They're realizing how their son is trying to use them against each other to get what he wants.

On the other hand, I can see how you can be a little concerned on that comment of raising their son 'together'...he may have to watch how see words things where it can get the ex to give false hopes or still thinking they have a 'bond'. Be careful. SHE may want that...just always be clear to your husband, not trying to sound insecure, how it makes you feel about anything that may go on with his ex. There was a time where my husband's baby-mama was trying to be shady (especially in the beginning) and make me feel like I should worry, but I talked to my hubby, got some reassurance and now I smile inside when she tries to do something to hurt our relationship and end up hurting herself.

Be strong. Stay beautiful...there's a reason why she's his ex....but it will never change that he is the father and having the blessing of this son. Take care.

Answer 3

You should be pleased that your husband and his ex get along well enough to put their son first regardless of their situation. Wouldn't you want that if he was your ex? He is an involved father. When you create children you need to think always about how they need to be cared for regardless of where you go in life. Your husband is a good and caring man. Be glad that he is. He will be the same with the children you have.

Answer 4

It means he will be a part of his son's growing up. That he will take an active role in helping his ex wife raise HIS son. Do you have a problem with that?

Answer 5

Shouldn't they raise their son together?

Regardless of the divorce, they owe that to their son. You have a wonderful husband for staying committed to do that. Don't get in the way of that. If you support him, and always remember that this man is yours now, his son will be raised well.

Answer 6

Maybe he meant that he was going to be in the son's life and the ex (the child's mother) will be in his life to. He is going to take responsibility for his child...

Answer 7

he meant he loves his child and they will raise him togeather, are you so insecure to deal with hubby wants the best for his kid. Its not about you, its between those 3, you can have a relationship with the ex that benefits the child, grow up!

Answer 8

First, ask him.

How can we really know?

My guess is that he is reassuring the ex that he wants both parents to be involved in decisions concerning their son.

Answer 9

It means he will be an active participant in their child's life as a
parent should be.

Answer 10

"together" sometimes doesn't mean physically, maybe what he means is financially, or maybe he is lying when he said he would never go back with her. what do you think? its you alone who can answer your question.