Today would be my 10 year anniversary, but my husband and I were divorced about 1 year ago. I feel really depressed, and I've done things since my divorce to keep my mind off of it. The month that my divorce was finalized a took a 6 month trip around Europe, Asia, and Africa seeing all the places I wanted to see but never had. Then when I got back, I moved out of the house he and I lived together in, and I got a roomate. Then I got a new job, and I've really gotten my life straightened out. But today, I feel unusually depressed. Should I go back to my therapist that I went to before my divorce was finalized? Or will this mood pass, and it is completely normal? Any other divorcees that know what I'm feeling?
2007-05-08 13:33:44 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To answer your question, survivor, he did cheat on me. I will not try it again, it's not an option.
2007-05-08 14:04:57 · update #1
To answer your question, survivor, he did cheat on me. I will not try it again, it's not an option.
2007-05-08 14:04:58 · update #2
As time goes by, it really does get better. You going to a therapist is fine, but they will tell you the same thing - Let go and give yourself time to heal. Continue to "Do You" Sit down and write a Gratitute List. We could all benefit from that. A list of things that we are most grateful for in our lives. Make is as many as you like. It would be nice to find at least 20. You may have more. Also, continue to journal, watch your progress over the years especially on that day, you will see your own growth without a thereapist telling you. a year from now you could write or at least read about the things you have accomplished since last year. Also, try not to be alone during this time, plan to celebrate your new life on this day with friends or family, continue to travel and see the world, Or better yet Volunteer at a Battered woman's shelter and look at why they are there and if you would ever have the courage to walk away like they did and why they shouldn't look back. Love yourself and know that when God closes one door he opens one, two, or even three, but better. Love you girlllllly
2007-05-08 13:43:05 · answer #1 · answered by TargetPractice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go to some public place, talk to new people, have some fun, sweety!
I am so sorry about that, i imagine how you feel.
How come you haven't found a new boyfriend after one year?
What kind of therapist was that if you are still feeling depressed? Why would you go to the therapist who didn't help you?
Why can't you stop living in the past?
Why don't you think about some new great relationship you will have some day?
2007-05-08 13:43:56 · answer #2 · answered by Lady of the Lowlands 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're taking issues faster or later at a time and attempt to heal and start up to get previous the discomfort of the divorce and what has occurred. stay effective and keep your chin up no count what and once you've a demanding time coping or transferring on together with your existence search for counseling and help for the way you experience...also a divorce restore workshop is nice and effective to boot. you also ought to earnings by assembly new human beings and making new acquaintances.
2016-11-26 20:23:41 · answer #3 · answered by jeniffer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesnt sound like you coped with your divorce at all. You're probably stressed out from your whirlwind year. You fianlly stopped, and reality smacked you in the face. Go back to your therapist, if you're not able to handle it on your own.
Ya know that a person usually cant handle the stress of too many life changes all at once. Think about it.
2007-05-08 13:42:25 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I never had this feeling, I was very happy when I got my final decree and very happy ever since. We were married more than 20 years, with maybe half of them actually "happy". I have been celebrating the day I left him, and the day I got that final decree of divorce. I don't look back
2007-05-08 21:16:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something similar. Even though it has been over a year and that I am with a new great guy, I get a little depressed around the time that he had dumped me and what would have been our anniversary. Then I remember that my new guy is 100X better and treats me the way I should have been treated.
2007-05-08 13:40:23 · answer #6 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Given today's blatant UNFAIR divorce court favorments and ADVANTAGES given women--I cannot believe in America, there could be UNHAPPY newly divorced women!!!
The one's I see are STILL PARTYING they're divorced!!
Hell....there was even a Chicago billboard that said "Life's too short.....get a divorce".
WAKE UP AND SNAP OUT OF IT!!!! Your fellow women friends over the past 30 years have worked.....damn hard to get you these divorce benefits......enjoy them!!!!
2007-05-09 07:50:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mood is absolutely normal unless it persists. If it persists see a therapist. Good luck.
2007-05-08 13:41:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you get divorced if you feel this way? obviously you probably deep down inside think you gave up. it's never too late unless there was abuse or cheating. otherwise try it again. you might be surprised.
2007-05-08 14:01:50 · answer #9 · answered by survivor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try taking an antidepressant, it really helps. Try Prozac, it is cheap and effective. Just take it for a year and then try to go without it, sometimes people just need help getting thru it. Talk to your medical doctor.
2007-05-08 13:38:17 · answer #10 · answered by Shanna h 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋