Marriage & Divorce - 8 May 2007

I want to divorce my Husband and soon I have put up with WAAAAAYYYYYYY to much for way to long he and this cell phone is to much for me he is so so gone over this cell phone he keeps it stuck under him 24/7 and I am just fed up with wondering is it just my hormones or if its just me plain and simple I feel I cannot trust him anymore and I feel it's time to move on,he's pleading with me not to break up his family but I have had it I am done and it's not my hormones speaking anymore my babies are 6 and a half Months old and I feel that my Husband will only begin to treat me worse so i want out now the question is should I go ahead and start the process or keep listening to the same man who can keep a straight face and lie to me when he keeps telling me that all he wants is his family which is myself and our almost 7 Month old twins????????

2007-05-08 13:08:56 · 20 answers · asked by CaliMa 3

Its a problem in my close friend's home. They are married for 6 years. She is 28 and he is 33. She says, hubby likes sex daily, but she never gets interested after her baby 2 years before. Before that they were both doing great. She needs to know more from others. My case, I am 24 and married for 3 years. Last year I got my son and we are - not fully but some what in a similar situation.

Is there a way to improve fun in our lives? While mine is not a crashing issue, my friend finds it really difficult to manage her husband's needs.

2007-05-08 13:01:46 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hello People! I have this concern, hear me out! I am the proud FATHER and Daddy of 3 boys, Age 19 College Freshman, Age 18 High School Senior (High School Grad in June 2007), Age 14 10th Grade. As a loving father, I am very much concern about my sons' future, especially when it comes to being successfull in intimate relationships, for example in commencing and maintaining, a rewarding relationship with girlfriends and a future wife! RIDDLE ME THIS PEOPLE! What can I do? What can I say? What advice can I give my boys that will help them choose wisely; A Girl, Girfriend, Future Wife? I do not want my boys to experience the pain of a divorce like I have! I want them to pick A WIFE, that will stay with them UNTILL DEATH DOES THEM PART! What Do I tell my boys people? Thank You in advance!

2007-05-08 12:48:38 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-08 12:28:29 · 19 answers · asked by kim honey 1

I have been having an online affair for several months. It's a very emotional affair. Although, the guy on the other end is married, and we both know nothing serious will ever come of our "online friendship" we still discuss a lot of personal stuff. Be it, sexual, emotional, or just life stuff. A few weeks ago my boyfriend found out about the affair. Yes, I do consider it an affair. We talked a lot, and I explained to him why I felt like I needed this other man in my life, and he understands that there are a lot of things he should be doing differently. The biggest being, he needs to get a divorce. He's been separated from his ex for nearly 8 years, we've been together for 5 years. Anyways, our relationship is definitely different now, as he doesn't trust me. And feels like I'm constantly emailing this guy back and forth at work. I do really love my boyfriend and do not want to leave him, but I just cannot bring myself to stop talking to the other guy...

Tell me what to do....

2007-05-08 12:27:03 · 30 answers · asked by Sonia Marie 2

During my last trip to my theripist we all of the suddent got into the heat of the moment and fornicated on his desk. I'm not saying that I didn't like it, its just that I have a husband and he is the one that suggested me going there in the first place. Should i tell him how i feel? I felt so alive when i was with my theripist. He made me feel so good. I enjoyed making love with him more than my husband. What should I do?

2007-05-08 12:24:04 · 25 answers · asked by i have a sexy body. 1

2007-05-08 12:05:02 · 1 answers · asked by dj 1

I raised my 3 kids in my home 95% of the time and paid 100% of their bills since 1992. Their mother had "problems".I am divorced, didn't date for 14 years to provide stability for my kids.
My Kids are in college now and high achievers...I have since found the love of my life....in serious relationship for 2 years.....Possible marriage. GF has been involved at the family holidays our last 2 years. She is the kindest person in the world. Though my daughter says she is happy for me and likes GF ,she (daughter) wont allow my new love at any function were my ex is at. Says if I don't come I choose my girlfriend over her. I told her this was wrong to exclude someone and if it was a problem for her or her mother I would sit elsewhere at the banquet,,,,,but I could not ask someone who has taken care of me when I was ill and become a part of my life to stay away. It isnt right and I won't come under those conditions even though I love my daughter very much & have raised her mainly by myself.

2007-05-08 11:57:22 · 31 answers · asked by frustrated 1

I am so pissed my husband was looking at GIRLS now I just want to get back at him how do I deal?

2007-05-08 11:55:03 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am married but my husband is threatening divorce and wants sole custody of our son, without letting me see him. Can I leave and move 5 hours away with our son without any legal repercussions? It will still be in-state and will be before the divorce.

2007-05-08 11:39:28 · 8 answers · asked by Mandi R 2

I met my boyfriend about eight years ago. Even though we lived in different states, we became very good friends and eventually began dating. We stayed in our long distance relationship for over five years before moving in together in January. It was hard emotionally and finacially, but we made it work.

I've known since I was a child that I wanted to get married. I am the first real relationship he's ever had, and he's never thought about marriage in positive terms. However, I've devoted almost a decade to this man, and I find that the official-comfortable-reassuring status and benefits of marriage is something I really want.

Under pressure, he's asked me to marry him in the past, only to renig later. When I moved in, he asked me to give him a year to "think about it", but its clear to me that he's not changing his mind about marriage anytime soon.

Advice? Thoughts? Insight?

2007-05-08 11:00:47 · 13 answers · asked by Nikki J 2

just when it seems like one thing is fixed sh*t happends again.

2007-05-08 10:52:54 · 5 answers · asked by STALKER BLOCK 3

I had an affair!
I wanted sex and I went out and got it when husband was in IRAQ, so what?
My husband had 28 years in army and could retire now but NO, he want the 30, aand full bennys!
He could get that now I found out because he's had 4 tours in a comabat zone!

I found out less then a 1/2 hour ago, that if I go to civil court for violation of maritial contract I'm goin to lose big!
I was told I need to sign over everything including our home or I'm finished!
My 4 sons all teens now wont even talk to me, and when they do call me a C**T and other names!
I honestly think my husband should take me back because I was a good an faithful wife for 25 years, and just because I made a mistake should not destroy our family!

We can both learn from this experiance! when he's over in a war zone I should have the right to enjoy sex with anyone I want to, because I ***** at him for killing inocent women a children, and theaten to divorce him for it!

What am I goin to do Now?

2007-05-08 10:40:43 · 114 answers · asked by anonymous 1

I went thru a very bitter divorce and tolerate my ex for my 8 yr old son's sake.My son is making a gift for his mom in school but if he asks to buy his mom a gift what should i say/do?

2007-05-08 10:38:06 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

or if no divorce then open marriages?

2007-05-08 10:37:58 · 15 answers · asked by DAVID I 1

I've been browsing questions today, because of a problem I'm having, and have seen a number of them about girls going through hard times because the guy is the "bad guy." I've also seen guys doing the same because the girl is the "bad girl."

It seems like every one where the guy was blamed, the answers were all about leaving him, taking him for everything he has, take his kids away, and so forth. It's like he's automatically a jerk.

When the girl was causing the problems, the answers were to talk it out, work it out, see what you can do to make her happier, etc. In this case there are "problems" in the relationship.

What's with the double standard?

2007-05-08 10:37:05 · 2 answers · asked by Armless Joe, Bipedal Foe 6

2007-05-08 10:28:47 · 1 answers · asked by sugga246 1

my mom was maried twice before she married my dad. i am tryiny to find a copy of each marriage certificate but i dont know what state they were married in. can anyone help me? i do know their names.

2007-05-08 10:17:09 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex says that having the kids for the summers is not enough for him. He's suppose to get them for the summers, weekends and holidays but he is only able to get them for the summers because he lives far away. He thinks that by me volunteering to let him have the kids for the summers is not doing him any favors. He wants the kids for the school year as well even though I have primary custody. I feel that alot of fathers don't even get that and he should be grateful. I didn't have to give him the summers. What do yall think?

2007-05-08 10:03:47 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend and I like to think we're in an equal-footed relationship, but he will finish school before me and begin his career while I'll still be struggling to get where I want to be in school.
Once we're both working in our careers, he'll be making at LEAST $10-$15 grand more than I will. I always wanted to be economically equal in a relationship.

Women who work fulltime yet make less than their husbands/boyfriends/patners--how do you feel about it? How does your partner feel about it?

Thanks!

2007-05-08 10:02:15 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am separated from the father of my children. Although we are trying to be civil about it for the children, it has been less than 3 months since we separated, and he may be moving in with his new girlfriend. I have nothing against her, but she is not divorced from her husband yet and has 2 children. I've warned him that because my older son has learning disabilities and needs stability in his life and his brother is only 8 months old, that I will not allow overnight visits if he plans on moving in with her. If they married, then it's not my business, but I am concerned that both of them moving in together shows instability and a lack of independence on both of their parts. He debated that it "wouldn't be fair for him" but I'm not concerned with his fairness, only being fair to my children. The last thing I want is for them to get to know this woman and her kids, then he moves on to another girl within a few months. Will I need to hire a lawyer if this happens? Thanks.

2007-05-08 09:53:59 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Currently married and I am pushing to seperate then devorce in the long run. Can I just pack a suit case and leave? The spouse says that she will not sign a separation nor a devorce, probably becuase she thinks no one will ever want to be with her or something. I just need to get out of this lifestyle, three years of misery and losses.What will happen if I just leave and never come back?

2007-05-08 09:49:40 · 14 answers · asked by ptcruisher2001 5

i have been married for 18 month and my wife left me in feb and now she is saying that i have to pay for the child and i didnt adoped her and now i am just getting to ee the child few days a week should i just stop seeing the child in which that will kill me inside or should i keep seeing her and just pay

2007-05-08 09:40:06 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

i love sex with my wife but since she works nite so i guess i/we can only have sex if she is available & on her day-off.then when the times that she wants to have sex,wakes me up @ 1am, 2-3am..but the prob.is those hours were im dead sleeping coz i work early morning @5:30...but still i managed to get hard just for her,..but after 10mins atleast it wud left me not be able to climax bec.mine is getting soft.....& if we were both on day-off, she wantsbut i will manage to get aroused bec.she will get mad @me..as ussual after 10mins atleast of pumping.it wud left me not be able to climax cox mine was soft...she was so disappointed &threaten me that she will go look for a man that can do climax.i dont know if i have or i need to take a pills thats being sold to GNC....or i do have some problem with my brain?

2007-05-08 09:37:51 · 6 answers · asked by Casper 2

I live in VA, I've never been married & my daughter is now 1. Let me know if you need additional details.

2007-05-08 09:37:40 · 6 answers · asked by jmw_1484 2

Leave your spouse of 14 years because you just are not into them right now. And tell them the family life is not for you. Then when your spouse tries to talk to you about it you tell them I am not responsible for your feelings and I am not losing any sleep over it. Fast forward 5 months. You have met someone else, and have let her meet your kids already, then when your spouse calls you because they think it is to soon to do that, would you say your just jealous and hang up on them? That is what my ex did to me. Cruel huh?

2007-05-08 09:36:12 · 24 answers · asked by Teslajuliet 4

i've been married for 5 months already, my husband cheated on me last year while we were boyfriends he said he was confused when he did it but that this is never going to happen and it's been almost imposible to forget about it we lasted almost 5 years as boyfriend and girlfriend... i know he only did it once but i can't seem to get it out my mind, the worse thing is that i imagine them both having sex and that disgusts me! what should i do? i've consider therapy but i don't know if it will work ...

2007-05-08 09:29:52 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

my childern were put in the custody of their father over a year and a half ago i have court visitation and have not seen or talked to my childern in that time how do i take them back to court if i dont have the money

2007-05-08 09:28:10 · 11 answers · asked by sugga246 1

Please LADIES ADVICE???
I was in a 3 year relationship with an incredible woman.I just didnt feel ready to get married, be with her yes. I knew in time she would be my wife. She temp went back home to her country and 6 months later she tells me she hooked up with a friend, and they got married. The SAD thing is that I was wishy washy before, we were always together, but I changed my mind about getting married a few times, and I guess she didnt trust me as much. Well, she is married now for 2 months and I am DEVASTATED. She called me yesterday and told me she only got married bcs. he would do it ASAP and thought I would never do it. Sayst that her husband loves her much more than she loves him. Also, she said she would get divorced if he gave her a reason to (but she cant do it). Also told me that if we are meant together, then we will be in the future. Ladies, what is going on here? She is obviously not happy or not in love? What? Do I have a chance? What should I do?

2007-05-08 09:28:09 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was divorced after 23+ years. She divorced me. She was an adulteress and admitted it.

Before I moved out, I rifled through a box which she kept up high in her closet. Inside, I found a photo of her and "one" of the guys. This one happened to be her High School sweetheart. (Really)

I took the photo, which was a "party picture" type, with these two boneheads in an embrace. You can even see her wedding ring. I still have the photo, I don't know if she knows I have it.

I no longer want it, and thought I'd just mail it back to her. We've been divorced for over a year now. I don't speak to her.

2007-05-08 09:24:53 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous