My ex says that having the kids for the summers is not enough for him. He's suppose to get them for the summers, weekends and holidays but he is only able to get them for the summers because he lives far away. He thinks that by me volunteering to let him have the kids for the summers is not doing him any favors. He wants the kids for the school year as well even though I have primary custody. I feel that alot of fathers don't even get that and he should be grateful. I didn't have to give him the summers. What do yall think?
2007-05-08 10:03:47 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To dixie....I hope you don't have kids. That man had a chance to come to court to give his opinion and say what he wanted and he didnt SHOW UP!! He was missing in action. He was ordered to pay 638 per month in child support and I agreed to have it reduced for him because he couldn't afford it...so he claimed. I had it reduced to 300 per month for two kids! And you tell me Im being selfish? That's funny.
2007-05-08 10:35:36 · update #1
Your ex is whacked. You have primary custody, they live with you, they should be in school by you. The fact that he gets them all summer is amazing to me. They should go to him for a part of the summer, not the whole thing. If he lives far away that is not your problem, it is his. I am all for father's rights, being a father myself. However I have seen too many fathers that play the sympathy card and then try to play the kids against the mom. You are going above and beyond letting them go all summer and making sure he is still a part of their lives. If he really cared he would move closer to really be a part of their lives.
2007-05-08 10:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by Natterjack9 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-07 17:03:24 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have primary custody, and basically he's asking for primary custody by wanting the situation reversed. Most fathers don't even get summers with their kids, so I think he's being selfish, and there may be monetary motives (i.e. child support from you). Talk to a lawyer, but he can't take away primary custody from you unless he can prove neglect or abuse. Good luck.
2007-05-08 10:30:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
actually he is not being selfish.he could go for joint physical custody as long as there is nothing to prevent him from doing it if he lives far away like you say he can push for this.he could also force you to meet him half way for every other weekend visits and alternating holidays.also if he wins joint physical custody he will no longer have to pay you any child support.as it stands in the summer months when he has the children for 3 months he should not pay you anything you should be paying him child support.fair is fair.dont underestimate your ex he has not been selfish and he has rights.you are lucky he is such a loving caring father most men are worthless fathers.do whats right for the kids put them first and let go of the anger to your ex.good luck sugar!
2007-05-08 10:28:30 · answer #4 · answered by dixie58 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him he has to go by the court order. It isn't your fault he lives so far away. He should be happy having them for the summer and if he isn't then he needs to make a decision whether to move closer to his children, but you should not have to make him happy. I admire you for not fighting the issue of summers, children need both parents and you have shown the love you have for your children by being an adult here.
2007-05-08 10:22:37 · answer #5 · answered by Krinta 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If that's how he feels, he should of showed up for court and told it to the judge. Keep things where they are at. He wants everything handed to him on a silver platter and needs to know things aren't always going to go his way in life.
2007-05-08 10:50:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
More than selfish, he is self-serving.
i agree, he had a chance to be a dad then. It does NOT serve the children's best interest to get pulled out of school, just so he can prove something to himself
2007-05-08 10:56:14 · answer #7 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he really wants to see his kids more often tell him to move to the city you live in
2007-05-08 10:30:42 · answer #8 · answered by peachy777me 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
May I suggest the six month split????
2007-05-08 10:32:07 · answer #9 · answered by Mr.G's wife 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no I think you are being selfish.........he doesn't need to feel "grateful" to be with his children....you don't own them, they aren't property.....they need the love and nurturing of two parents.....
2007-05-08 10:20:05 · answer #10 · answered by abc 7 · 2⤊ 4⤋