Leave your spouse of 14 years because you just are not into them right now. And tell them the family life is not for you. Then when your spouse tries to talk to you about it you tell them I am not responsible for your feelings and I am not losing any sleep over it. Fast forward 5 months. You have met someone else, and have let her meet your kids already, then when your spouse calls you because they think it is to soon to do that, would you say your just jealous and hang up on them? That is what my ex did to me. Cruel huh?
2007-05-08 09:36:12 · 24 answers · asked by Teslajuliet 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds like you just need to move on. i know it may seem cruel but you can not control what he does with the kids when they are with him and that includes who they meet. just hope that she is nice to them.
good luck finding a new step father for them. the shoe will be on the other foot.
2007-05-08 09:43:17 · answer #1 · answered by lowIQ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He may be cruel.....but you don't seem too swift either. Why is it I get the impression you enjoy wallowing in this misery? Do you enjoy being slapped down constantly by a man who after 14 years of marriage suddenly decides that "the family life isn't for him"? That' Your feelings are your problems and he isn't responsible for them"? Yet...have you filed for divorce? In fact...why are you even lowering yourself to the level that you have to give him moral guidance and tell him it's too soon for the kiddoes to meet his new squeeze. Which by the way...isn't "new". You do realize that she's been in the wings all along. You don't honestly believe that most men, after 14 years of marriage just suddenly wake up and decide that "family life isn't for me".?
You'll notice he didn't say marriage or a relationship with another female isn't for him did you?
So...if you haven't filed or gotte a divorce, shame on you. If you have...then why do you really give a damn what this clown does in his own life? He obviously has no morals, no feelings and no love for you. thats quite clear.
Were I you...I make arrangements to rake this bastard over the coals so hard that he and his girlfriend will be living in a cardboard washing machine box under the I-95 overpass for a long, long time.
2007-05-08 09:58:55 · answer #2 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Cruel??? I think the moment he left, I would have filed for a divorce...You need to take control of your life and your part in this marriage....Don't let him break you, the only ones that can ever break you are your children. Never give a man that power over you. I would have never allowed him to bring another woman around my children as well.....You need to prove to him that he might of hurt you but, you won't be the one suffering and paying his debts.....There's someone greater than all of us and I am a true believer in Karma...He will pay for the bad that he does......especially to you and the children....I hope all the best for you and your children...Good Luck***
2007-05-08 09:50:45 · answer #3 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very cruel but he is your ex and you need to toughen up and not let him hurt you anymore. You sound like you're still in love with him but understand this he doesn't love you anymore so move on with your life.. good luck you deserve all the happiness in the world.
2007-05-08 10:01:06 · answer #4 · answered by bluemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men I've known who are divorced do show more consideration and allow more time before including children in their new relationships. So he has no right to call you jealous.
If your children are having trouble adjusting to the seperation he has been inconsiderate to their feelings as well.
2007-05-08 09:48:31 · answer #5 · answered by teana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear you are going through this but d-ck heads like that ALWAYS get what is coming to them. Try to keep a possitive out look and you will prosper and I wish you the very best.
2007-05-08 09:51:52 · answer #6 · answered by Mc Fly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is cruel and it sounds to me like he already had the relationship going before he told you all that or at least had in in the works...Be happy you're rid of that snake! Keep you head up...
2007-05-08 09:44:13 · answer #7 · answered by Invisible 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a mid life crises. I doubt they met this person in the 5 months you were seperated. Im 90% sure she was there before he even said anything to you.
men suck!
2007-05-08 09:45:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
cruel isn't the word for it,he sounds like a total @#!,move on with your life,you can do alot better
2007-05-08 11:38:32 · answer #9 · answered by gypsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is messed up, how could someone do that especially when you have kids together, its like he didn't consider how this will affect them, or you. i don't know your kids age but they may not understand, i would talk things over with them. get a lawyer and make him pay .........lol
2007-05-08 09:45:13 · answer #10 · answered by jake 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋