I want to Divorce My Husband Should I give it More????//?

Question

I want to divorce my Husband and soon I have put up with WAAAAAYYYYYYY to much for way to long he and this cell phone is to much for me he is so so gone over this cell phone he keeps it stuck under him 24/7 and I am just fed up with wondering is it just my hormones or if its just me plain and simple I feel I cannot trust him anymore and I feel it's time to move on,he's pleading with me not to break up his family but I have had it I am done and it's not my hormones speaking anymore my babies are 6 and a half Months old and I feel that my Husband will only begin to treat me worse so i want out now the question is should I go ahead and start the process or keep listening to the same man who can keep a straight face and lie to me when he keeps telling me that all he wants is his family which is myself and our almost 7 Month old twins????????

Not Even just the cell phone that is just the icing on the dang cake best believe that baby mama drama from ex and the fact that this man can look me straight in my face and lie to me about who is on the cell phone for him right after I gave birth and we were on our way home that day has haunted me everyday since then I feel that I cannot trust my man.

Answer 1

If he want to keep his family together so bad then why is he making you so miserable? He doesn't want it too bad. Either you stand up and fight for a better life or let it go! Life is too short to not be happy!

Answer 2

You just had 2 babies, first find out if it is hormones, and yes it could be. I had an undiagnosed under-active thyroid and it did through things way out of wack, so don't pass off hormones. Is this an issue of trust? Is this because other things have happened in your marriage that weren't nice? It sounds like the phone is the straw that is breaking the camels back, if there is more to this that you haven't mentioned. Go to your doctor, have blood work done, than try counseling, first alone and then with him. Then you decide what is best for you and your children. Don't jump into anything yet.

Answer 3

I agree with the majority of the answers so far, in-so-much as you *seem* to be (to quote your statement) "WAAAAAYYYYYYY" over-reacting.

Again, you *seem* to be. You're not providing enough detail. Details like: How long have you been married? How long was the relationship before marriage? Have you tried, on more than one occasion, to have a conversation about what seems to just be pet-peeves of yours (not *real* issues, like *adultery* as was mentioned above).

As an example, I personally find it incredibley annoying that your question has no punctuation to break up what should be sentences. If I was your husband (with kids!) would I divorce you over something like that? Of course not. - Does it make any more sense to seriously consider divorce over a cell phone? Of course not.

Without any more details than what was provided, I can't really give much more advice than this:
You shouldn't get married till you've been with someone long enough to be fully aware of their true personality and annoyances like what was stated. When you do get married, you are commiting - under an oath - that you're going to stick together for better or for worse. Things happen, of course, but unless they are life-shaking it shouldn't impact a marriage; certainly no divorce is warranted from annoyances. You said he lies - about what?

Try this: Set some time aside, calmly approach him, and let him know you need to have a serious discussion. Don't get emotional. Explain to him that there are things going on that are affecting you so much, that you actually got online to get other's opinions about whether a divorce should take place.
- If he's willing to listen, and comprimise and work on some of those things (and don't be surprised when he gives you his own list of your faults), then there's your answer.
- If he's not, then maybe your concerns are well-founded.

Answer 4

Don't know how long you've been married but I've been married 20 years now. Married the same man twice (big mistake)I've put up with stuff you can't imagine. Stayed for the kids at first who are grown now. Trust is very important in relationships. Communication, compromise and compassion are also key. If you love your husband and you know he loves you, ask him to sit down with you and have a heart to heart. Lay all the cards on the table face up. Tell him your exact concerns. Listen to his answers (his concerns). If you are still feeling doubtful then there's a question of trust. Don't make the same mistake I did staying for the kids. That doesn't always work. I was trying to not have my kids be another statistic growing up in a home without a father. They tell me now I should have left a long time ago. I never knew how they felt until now. Marriage is serious business and it takes two willing to walk the same path and at the end of the day agree to disagree but still be in love. Not go to bed mad, Bottom line, If you do decide to divorce and you can walk away knowing that you gave it your all, then look out for you and your babies. They'd be better off with a mom who can nurture them with as little stress as possible rather than having them grow up in a home with turmoil the way mine did. Lastly, If you believe in God, Pray, ask him to guide your footsteps and if you listen you can't go wrong. Peace and Love. You be blessed !

Answer 5

I'm confused, you want to leave your husband because he has a cell phone????? Or have you caught him cheating on you? If it's the latter, tell him good riddance, he should've thought about breaking up his family when he was taking off his shorts. But if it's over the fact that he has a cell phone, and talks on it alot, I'd reconsider leaving him over that--because that's some serious hormonal imbalance there. Has he given you reason not to trust him with a cell phone?

p.s. I'm glad I'm not the only one who's thinking this way...

Answer 6

OK I am lost I admit it. What is your problem? Does he have other women he is making dates with on the phone? Is he dealing drugs? Does he talk 24/7 or does he just have it available 24/7. Does it have to do with the business he is in, is he maybe on call? Is he calling those 900 phone sex numbers and running up ungodly bills?

If he is home and just has the phone which he uses on a regular basis then I guess you are just jealous of a phone.
Does he talk on the phone while the two of you are having sex?

Answer 7

Hormones. Don't ruin the childrens' lives over a cell phone.

Answer 8

Wow that was one long sentence. All I got out of it was your husband uses his cell phone a lot. If that is the issue, then go get psychiatric counseling.
The world is not so rosey for a single mom with young twins.
Good luck.

Answer 9

Are you severe or trolling? in the experience that your husband grew to become into inebriated he in all possibility concept you have been another lady. he's telling you (questioning in his drunken state which you're some random unusual lady) approximately you! it somewhat is why he used your call, he meant you! He grew to become into telling you which you are the main magnificent element that ever befell to him and that he loves you plenty. there is not any different spouse observed as Marylin, only one, you. guess he has no recollection at each and all of the following day. relax :)

Answer 10

Maybe u should seperate for now and see what what does to him. If he changes maybe things will get better but if he becomes a bigger jerk then i would file. But before u seperate have u guys thought of going to a marriage councler. then u would see why he hangs to his cell 24-7