Please LADIES ADVICE???
I was in a 3 year relationship with an incredible woman.I just didnt feel ready to get married, be with her yes. I knew in time she would be my wife. She temp went back home to her country and 6 months later she tells me she hooked up with a friend, and they got married. The SAD thing is that I was wishy washy before, we were always together, but I changed my mind about getting married a few times, and I guess she didnt trust me as much. Well, she is married now for 2 months and I am DEVASTATED. She called me yesterday and told me she only got married bcs. he would do it ASAP and thought I would never do it. Sayst that her husband loves her much more than she loves him. Also, she said she would get divorced if he gave her a reason to (but she cant do it). Also told me that if we are meant together, then we will be in the future. Ladies, what is going on here? She is obviously not happy or not in love? What? Do I have a chance? What should I do?
2007-05-08 09:28:09 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unfortunately, she was dumb enough to get herself into a marriage.
I think you will just need to find a way to get over her and let her deal with her mess alone.
She got married to spite you (which wasn't smart) and now is with a Man she doens't love.
Time to put this one back on the shelf.
2007-05-08 09:34:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apparently she did not love you as much as you or she thought, if she did would she really have married someone else just because they said they would get married at all. She it was true love she would have waited for you to be ready. I mean getting inpatient is one thing, marrying someone while on vacation is something else, this girl may have other issues going on that she needs to straighten out before you even think about a lasting relationship with her. Oh wait, I forgot she got married to another person and will not get divorced until he gives her a reason. Honey, grieve, heal and find some one that is good enough for you. She really wasn't it.
2007-05-08 16:36:20 · answer #2 · answered by SHANE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she'll do that to him she'll do it to you. She obviously does not take marriage seriously. You seem to. Sounds like she just likes the title. If I were you I'd look elsewhere. I'd say anyone has a chance with her because she's just using people for what she wants. I know this is not the answer you were looking for. However, you should really think about it. She obviously has qualities you like. She's not the only one. There other fish in the sea. Fish that will also care about how you feel. Good luck.
2007-05-08 16:37:26 · answer #3 · answered by Ann S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither one of you appear to be ready for marriage. You can't commit and your ex is all too happy to jump in the fire with the first person who asks. Marriage isn't a game. She made her decision, right or wrong, in love or not so she shouldn't be using her position as a way to get back at you. Tell her to stop contacting you and be happy you didn't marry her.
2007-05-08 16:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you weren't sure and she was ready. She got married to the first person who would marry her, and while she says she loves him and vice versa, she also has her doubts. She married on the rebound, and you, now, unfortunately and fortunately is lucky and unlucky in love. because you stalled in too long about your relationship she moved on, but at the same time, while you still care about her, and it seems she cares about you, you need to move on with your life.
And if she does end up divorcing the man she married, you really need to reconsider if you would want to be with someone like that. She couldn't wait, and you weren't ready. And if she did something like that on a whim, imagine what you might have saved yourself from.
2007-05-08 16:54:42 · answer #5 · answered by Eve 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You think you have a problem! no...she does. She is acting immature and making reckless decisions without thinking about who she is hurting. Her actions show she is not ready for marriage much less divorce and marry you?? (and why did she have to get married ASAP???)
RUN~! You both had your chance-her consequent actions show how much pain she is willing to give to you in the long run, and maybe not so long run either.
Take care!
2007-05-08 16:36:41 · answer #6 · answered by Live, Love and Laugh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to be with a girl who was more interested in just getting married then waiting until the man she loves was ready to get married?
Leave her alone and let her face her impulsive choices by her self.
2007-05-08 16:35:55 · answer #7 · answered by chickennosenshi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion i believe that she loves you and that she made a mistake. Also maybe she was ready to move to the next step but you werent. The big question is how far away is her country?? but i think you need to tell her how you feel and that you wanted to marry her you just weren't ready...this one's tough considering that she got married and lives in another country. so Good luck to you i hope you make the right decision and it all works out.
2007-05-08 16:47:26 · answer #8 · answered by jellybuttons 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm a lady. Don't take her back even if your life depends on it. She sounds dingy. You sound like you aren't ready for a relationship and please no sex until you are married. This is why sex before marriage is such a bad idea. You don't know if you want to get married or not. Don't date until you know for sure.
2007-05-08 16:34:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who can just jump into a marriage "ASAP" is a flake and obviously doesnt take marriage vows seriously. Forget her and find a good girl that has her head on straight.
2007-05-08 16:41:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋