i've been married for 5 months already, my husband cheated on me last year while we were boyfriends he said he was confused when he did it but that this is never going to happen and it's been almost imposible to forget about it we lasted almost 5 years as boyfriend and girlfriend... i know he only did it once but i can't seem to get it out my mind, the worse thing is that i imagine them both having sex and that disgusts me! what should i do? i've consider therapy but i don't know if it will work ...
2007-05-08 09:29:52 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have spent a long time together to understand each other. If he feels sorry,has not repeated it again, is making you comfortable in his company, and you want to continue this marriage then you can forgive and enjoy your life. Don't allow shadows of past to ruin your future. I know it is difficult to forget but try thinking about the good times you spent together and the joy you get in each others company, this will help you overcome your thoughts and move ahead. Engage yourself in activity of your choice and let your thoughts get over this gradually. Best of luck.
2007-05-08 21:21:20 · answer #1 · answered by Prem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make an effort to forgive, doesn't mean you have to forget, but if this marriage is to survive you have to stop allowing it to control your life. If it was only one time, and I am not making light of that one time, but if he hasn't done it again, you need to come to terms with it or either your looking at a divorce down the road. If you already have it in your mind therapy will not work then it won't. Give it a try, you have to figure how much you love him and want this to work. Good Luck
2007-05-08 21:36:36 · answer #2 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have considered this BEFORE the marriage. If he did it once he's already got by with it . Men will tell you everything . But, maybe you should consider counseling or go as a couple. I am married and have issues of my own with my own husband. He lies to me about stuff and I have confronted him about stuff and he still lied to me face. He talks to girls online and etc. Its sad. But I would do marriage counseling. My husband won't go ; ( I love him but I wish he would go. Good Luck and hopefully it was just a one time deal.
2007-05-08 16:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by legallyblonde3333 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋