I went thru a very bitter divorce and tolerate my ex for my 8 yr old son's sake.My son is making a gift for his mom in school but if he asks to buy his mom a gift what should i say/do?
2007-05-08 10:38:06 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would say you should get your son to earn money somehow, just a small chores or something like that or even give him a little bit. Then when you take him shopping it is really from your son, he bought it with his money. Make sure you verbalize that as well, that he has bought the gift with his own money. It will make him feel good because he can get his mom something and he bought it all on his own. And for you, and a new wife or girlfriend it also feels alot less like your buying something for her. Good luck anyways, thats a tough one.
2007-05-08 10:58:33 · answer #1 · answered by Vanessa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it all depends on the situation. My boyfriend and his ex never buy each other anything for their son to give for Mother's or Father's Day. Of course she never got him anything ever anyway. Their son is only five and doesn't understand the concept of giving gifts. I bought a Father's Day present for him last year and I am going to this year. Even if his ex doesn't appreciate him taking care of their son for three years, I do. Not a lot of men would have taken on raising a 2-year-old on their own, when they were 21. Especially while their wife ran off and had three more kids.
If he asks, give him a price limit.
2007-05-09 10:34:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he asks then yes you need to take him. you do not need to pick it out though. at 8 he is probably able to walk around the store with a set limit of money to spend. for an 8 year old $5 would be fine and pick out his own gift. by doing this you are showing him that you may be divorced from mom but you will still respect his mom-as his mom.
2007-05-08 18:00:30 · answer #3 · answered by adelaide 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your son wants to buy his mom a gift then take him to the store and purchase a gift. Remember it is not about you, it is about your son being happy. If you tell him NO then he may become sad and feel daddy does not like mommy or daddy is being mean. You do not want t o give your son any reason to be sad or feel like he have to chose between mom and dad. He does not need to be worrying about mom and dad. He need to be able to be a kid.
So help him be that child by keeping him out of grown up business. So again, please if your son wants his mom to have a gift go ahead and get it, and remember you are not doing it for her you are doing it for your son. Best wishes.
2007-05-08 17:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy the gift. This isn't about your ex wife and the problems that the two of you have. This is about your son and his happiness.
If you decide not to buy your ex-wife a gift, your son will probably think that you do not like your ex-wife and children should not have to feel this way or even think this way...
2007-05-08 17:57:25 · answer #5 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if you took your child to by a mothers day gift for your ex wife would make you a hell of a man. I also think any woman you are with would find that to be a very attractive quality. Also as your child grows older he or she would see what a great dad you are.
2007-05-08 18:54:07 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both my ex and I helped our daughter purchase gifts for one another during gift giving times. Even though you and your ex are divorced neither one of you have divorced yourselves from being parents to your child have you? Your son still has a mother even though you no longer have a wife...what do you think you should say/do?
2007-05-08 17:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you take him to buy his mum a gift for mothers day, you are doing this for your child, and they just love the gift of giving.
Remember whatever your feelings are for your x, your child loves his mum, i also had a very bitter divorce, but i always take my kids to get their father a card and small gift for his birthday and fathers day, i do it for them!
2007-05-08 18:03:00 · answer #8 · answered by smileyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not divorced but I think it would be a nice gesture, especially if the son has no one else to take him. Just let him pick it out and don't spend too much!!!
2007-05-08 18:01:46 · answer #9 · answered by Kymr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a child of a divorced parent, I remember my dad taking us to buy mom a present and I remember mom taking us to buy dad one. It has nothing to do with each other, it is a gift from the child saying thank you for having me.
2007-05-08 17:48:57 · answer #10 · answered by Va princess 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋