i mean , is there ever a time when there are no feelings left ?
2007-05-08 13:50:08 · 13 answers · asked by kramer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YESSSSSSSSSSS, without a doubt!
Forget about yesterday. Remember, today is the present, thus is a gift! ENJOY it. When one looks back on the past, only the good fills one's mind. Please also include the memories of what created the divorce.
2007-05-08 13:57:14 · answer #1 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that regardless of the reason for marriage breakdown, you once had love and admiration for this person. At least, enough to WANT to marry them in the first place. In time, I think the emotions will be less apparent. Both of you will find your niche in your own life without thinking immediately of the other person.
Now, having said all that, I tend to believe that good bad or indifferent, there will ALWAYS be some emotion for them as someone you once had a connection with. It is difficult to just shut down your emotions and forget you ever had a life with that person. Give yourself time and don't expect miracles.
2007-05-08 20:58:25 · answer #2 · answered by Lannee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how long it's been since the divorce. It takes a long time to get over someone that you loved and had a life with. Time usually heals all wounds. I hope that happens for you because I know how sad it can be.
2007-05-08 22:52:46 · answer #3 · answered by TABBY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately. I've never been divorced but my husband had and he absolutely wants nothing to do to with her. I asked him if he ever thinks about her and he says no way. I really don't think he's lying either cause usually for men it's easy to not look back. Of course it took time for him to get over it but really he hates her with a passion. I don't think everyone keeps some kinda connection. Cause in some cases peoples relationships were abusive, or really bad. Do you think these people really have feelings?? NO I don't think so.
2007-05-08 21:00:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think yes they do its a time where you come to the point and say ok enough about my past bring on my future... Going through a divorce.. I would still be with my husband if he didnt have a habit of cheating with every woman he met
2007-05-08 21:01:15 · answer #5 · answered by Dareisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time.
The best thing to do is get busy. Join a club take up a hobby, hit the gym.join a coed bowling softball/bowling/volleyball league... get your *** out there and be a part of the world. Do something your wife hated or didn't want to do but it was something you enjoyed or wanted to try.
You go out there and make yourself the best person you possibly can...boost your career, stay fit....Dint sit and pity yourself over this woman because I bet she isn't doing it over you.
2007-05-08 21:02:09 · answer #6 · answered by mpasnick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got over my first husband, but he was an asshol*. I really believe that you always care for someone you have been with for a long time, that never goes away, but...that doesn't mean you would ever want to go there again.
2007-05-08 21:28:56 · answer #7 · answered by londa627 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Plain and simple. I know many people who have been divorced for various reasons and while a few of them do still harbor feelings for thier Ex's, other do not. It's a personal issue.
2007-05-08 20:56:13 · answer #8 · answered by missapparition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For many yes...it takes time.
However if someone chooses to hold on to the feelings, then they will remain until the choice to let go is made.
2007-05-08 20:54:27 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah.
2007-05-09 03:59:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋