For those who feel that sex is not the most important factor in a relationship.?

Question

Then please help me to understand what is. I want you to understand my point before you jump the gun. I know that teamwork is important and so is communication. There are several other things like companionship, etc. However these things are rarely the bases for divorce. An affair is the leading cause for divorce and has always been. So my question is for those who say that "there are more important things than sex". What is the most important factor in your realationship and would it be the bases for divorce?

Answer 1

Personally, I feel that trust is the most important factor in a relationship. I view sex as a sub-category of trust. In order to be able to open your self up in that way there must be some level of trust. Although affairs are the leading cause of divorce, the underlying issue is a breach of the fiduciary duties that the husband or wife undertook or if not married the affair/act of cheating goes against the implied terms of the couples fiduciary relationship. The severe breach of trust such as having sex (any form) with someone else is definitely a ground for divorce in my books.

Answer 2

Sex is not usually the REASON that people cheat. Without communication, trust, teamwork and mutual respect, sex does rather go for a loop, and that is when the cheating starts. If you look into the reasons for the affair that caused the divorce, you will normally see that at least one of the components for a good marriage was missing. so, looking at it from that point of view, the affair itself was not the cause of the divorce, it was just a symptom of a bad marriage. I have spoken to a few divorced people, and all of them say more or less the same thing. That they were unfaithful because there was no communication, they felt unappreciated, felt like they were the only ones working to make a good marriage etc. Sex is a wonderful part of marriage, but if the other components are missing, it is no more satisfying than having sex with a stranger. That is why so many people have affairs, because the "new" partner makes them feel special for a while, the way their spouse used to make them feel.

Answer 3

I agree that sex is a HUGE deal in a relationship, but not an emotional relationship. As you mentioned many people cheat because they are not sexually satisfied, but if people could instantly and easily have that emotional connection with someone, like they can sex, I think you would see a lot more divorces as a result of emotional affairs. That being said, I don't think you can blame all affairs on a lack of a quality sex life at home. There are many reasons for them.

Men and women are different. I do believe that sex is more important to a man and men feel loved and cared for through primarily sex while women do through communication.

Answer 4

I think honesty,communication,and trust are a must in any realtionship and if you lose that then well it might as well be over. I do think intimacy is important in a relationship but that doesn't just mean sex. It involves spending time together, doing things as a couple, cuddling watching a good movie, making out and fondling each other. I think one of bases for divorce would have to be falling out of love with the person you are with.

Having the right to strive for your own goals in life and having a supportive spouse.

Having a faithful and caring spouse what good is sex if there fooling around on you!

Answer 5

To start with marriages that end because of an affair.Has nothing to do with the sex act itself.It has more to do with the feel of betrayal the person whom was cheated on has.You feel betrayed because the person whom you thought you could trust.Did what they did with no regard for you or your feelings.Most people can forgive the sex it self.But can't forgive the lack of concern for them their spouse showed by being with this other person.Take it from someone whom has been married 15 years.Sex isn't the most important thing.Because it doesn't matter how good the sex is.If you don't have anything in common or just plain don't get along.Your marriage is doomed from the start.While sex isn't the most important thing.If you two aren't compatible sexually than you will have problems.The most important thing in my marriage is trust.I would divorce my hubby in an instant if I thought I could not trust him.

Answer 6

I feel infidelity or abuse are good cause for a divorce.

I feel sex is very important to a marriage, however I do not feel it is the most important part. Love, trust, respect and honesty are top in my opinion. If you have those, there wouldn't be an affair.

When I say there are more important things than sex, I mean I would not leave my husband if he could no longer please me sexually.

Answer 7

I don't think that it is right to assume that having an "affair" is 100% about sex either...honestly, for women, I think that affairs often hold something more emotional, a connection with someone that will listen to your problems and offer you comfort and sympathy. So...to answer your question, the most important thing in a relationship is...the entire relationship and all the things involved. You can't single one thing out, put one thing above another, rather you must take everything, throw it in a pot and stir it up. Sex is important, but so is emotinal committment and attachment; passion is important, but so is security and comfort...get the idea?

Answer 8

LOVE, Honesty, companionship, trust and communication. Not in that particular order. As I said in a similar question Sex is just the icing on the cake. Sex is not how we tell someone we love them or show we appreciate them. Sex is just an added bonus the other things are so much more important and feel just as good.

Answer 9

Sex is to marriage as gasoline is to automobiles. It isn't the most important thing and sometimes even an after thought. You never think about gas until the needle is on E. But when the car is full of gas, the you enjoy the way the car rides, the stereo, sunroof and all that. But like gas in a car, your marriage is going nowhere without sex.

Answer 10

Your right, but all the sex and affairs and all that crap, all boil down to the other things...communication, affection, respect, etc. If there is no communication, respect, etc, then I assume that sex is lacking in this marriage as well, hence the affair. They are all intertwined, if ya think about it. Thats why marriage is such hard work, and I mean work, to really make it work.