my wife is pregnant and having a hard time. i started a new job a few months ago and enjoy the people i work with (all men by the way). i come home saying that we were talking about this and that. i want to share my day with her. she keeps saying i don't want to hear about how good your day was because i've felt like puking all day. Then she proceeds to say things like "well if you like those guys why don't you just go down on them or fudge pack them in the back of their cars if you like them so much". I understand how she feels and i tried to tell her that i do. My point is this when i told her that i understand how she feels don't swear at me. she can be upset but not swear and say really crappy things. she said "you just arent supportive at all". I am but it's hard to be when she's being nasty as hell. How should I react? just swallow it for her sake or something else?
2007-05-08 14:08:29 · 15 answers · asked by survivor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
awww...it's hormones. look...i have got to be truthful. when i am pregnant i am the worst person to be around. let me say...omg! my boss even brought it to my attention that i did a 180 on him as well as my husband. i swear i wasn't different but everyone was bringing it to my attention. and let me say..i had an easy pregnancy, but when i had a few days of too much hormone with my head in the toilet...i wouldn't give a rat's rear end of we won the state lotto. i am just not feeling well and cannot not pretend to be nice. don't say you understand....that's so annoying to hear when you are throwing up and you aren't the one pregnant. keep talking to a low voice and don't go on about you. ask her if she wants a popsicle it'll help soothe her tummy. a ice cold rag around her head might help. i get migranes when i am pregnant and those helped. if you think the swearing is bad now...wait til labor. the words that will come out of her mouth will make a sailor cringe. good luck and be patient.
2007-05-08 14:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by Bella 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, there isn't a man alive that understands what it is like to be pregnant!!! All those hormonal changes, feeling like vomiting, feeling overwhelmed, worrying about giving birth, being scared that something will go wrong. And that's just the beginning.
Yes, I'm sure your wife says some crappy things to you. Think about this, though; if you were the one who was pregnant: you would be acting the same way toward her.
At this point, it isn't about YOU...... it's about that little baby inside your wife & you need to remember that YOU HELPED make that baby so it's YOUR JOB to take care of YOUR WIFE (getting her things to make her feel comfortable, running errands for cravings at all times of the day & night, continuing to make her feel special & very loved & secure.) Because it is HER JOB to take care of the baby!! It's the least YOU CAN DO!!!!
And no..... no no no!!!!!! You don't have a CLUE how she feels!!!!! So, the least you can do is say "i'm sorry i don't understand how you feel, though i'd like to".
2007-05-12 13:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by ilovepoison2820 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We women have 9 months of PMS when we are pregnant sometimes. Every pregnancy is different, but most women have rushes of hormones for 3 or 4 months, anyway. This makes us very emotional....sometime unreasonably. As the prospective father, since you don't have to throw up, get varicose veins, backaches, kidney infections, etc., you need to be very loving and supportive for awhile (especially in the first 3 months...after that most women feel better until the 9th month when they feel miserable and heavy). I don't know why she isn't happy you like your new job and co-workers, unless she had to quit a job she loved to carry your child. You should tell her about your day, and then give her a foot massage, brush her hair, bring her ice cream, and otherwise pamper her for a little while. Let her know how much you love her and her blossoming body (even if you don't). Tell her she is beautiful and you are so happy about the coming baby, and appreciate what's she's going through. But, do not tell her you understand. A man cannot possibly understand the misery of morning sickness, etc. It's like saying you understand when someone's child or spouse dies. Until it happens to you, you cannot possibly really understand. And men cannot understand pregnancy. So, just be as nice as you can, take her out to the movies, fix her some saltine crackers and help her get through this pregnancy. You need to pamper her.
2007-05-08 14:24:04 · answer #3 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think alot of woman are like this, that's why the divorce rate is so high. I'm sure it's hormones also, but she needs to get a grip before you go looking for some comfort somewhere else.
Does she have a good husband, a roof over her head, blessed to be having a baby (some woman can't have kids), food on the table? I think she needs to rethink how she treats you, unless she really married a jerk.
2007-05-08 14:25:58 · answer #4 · answered by jonesk_92656 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have to say that I have never heard such indecent talk from a pregnant woman or otherwise. I'm not sure about how you live but this is not the norm. I can't honestly give advice to you with such venomous exchanges between the two of you. This pregnancy can't be the first you have heard such filthy talk. This isn't exactly the greatest relationship to bring a baby into. The both of you need some counseling.
2007-05-08 14:21:31 · answer #5 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No you deserve respect. Pregnancy is not an excuse for abusing one's husband. I would tell her you want to have a meeting with her and discuss the situation. If that doesnt help, then counseling perhaps. Or maybe she needs psychiatric care?Maybe just tell her you arent going to stand for this? Or take a break like stay somewhere else? Have you tried being firm at all. Try that.
I am very sorry.
2007-05-08 14:25:17 · answer #6 · answered by barthebear 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Close your mouth and open your ears.
When you come home from work start making her comfortable, rub her feet and ask her what she wants for supper.
My wife had a tough 2nd pregnancy and no matter if my day was good or bad I'd come home and let her know that I was home and there to help.
2007-05-09 10:41:34 · answer #7 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look a lot of women when they are pregnant the ydon't want nothing to do with their partner they are angry at them. I am not saying that's how she feels but a lot of pregnant women are angry at their husband for doing that to them ( get them pregnant) You are not going through that so you will never understand, I know it's hard for guys and if you do her good and try to understand that she just feels like crap then she will feel better. Get her little stuff, write her a letter to show your love, trust that everything will get better soon it's just for a couple months.
2007-05-08 14:58:57 · answer #8 · answered by beaunkev 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2014-09-17 14:16:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I think she is stressed out because you get to go out and see other people (work people) while she has gained all this weight and she just feels like crap. Do something superrrrr romantic and she will feel some what better
2007-05-08 14:21:14 · answer #10 · answered by weeping_spirit 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋