My Mom Doesn't Love My Dad.?

Question

I just found that my mom isn't in love with my dad anymore.
She doesn't really treat him that kindly.
I mean, she's not mean to him, just a little concieted sometimes.
He is out of state right now, for my cousin's barmitzvah.
So she was telling me how she thinks my dad is a little
sad because she is not saying "I misss youu!!"
I asked her why she doesn't miss him.
And then we had a little confersation and it turns out she isn't attracted to my dad anymore because he is fat.
Which is stupid because he isn't like 300 pounds with blubber all over his legs and arms. He just has a potbelly.
She said if he worked out, and got into shape, she might
have some lust for him.
I'm really upset. She seems so fine with it!

&&I know for a fact they don't have $ex anymore.

She says that she feels he is letting himself go, and not taking care of himself.

Answer 1

Too bad your mom is shallow and conceited.

Answer 2

I think your parent's problem is deeper than just ur dad's looks. The way your mom thinks is very immature or she doesn't want to face the real problem hidden in all this. Maybe she is not in love with him, but I'm sure is not because of his looks. The looks are important, I mean a person needs to like atleast something of his/her spouse, but couples need to realize that time passes, and the body changes...and when ppl accept each other the way they are that's call strong love. I think your parents are probably going through a phase and need counselling. It will help them to realize many important things and get the tools to make the marriage to work. I'm sorry to say this (cause you seem to love your parents a lot and really care for them), but your mom shouldn't discuss all this with you, cause she is talking, after all, about your father, so whatever she is saying hurts you. Atleast you are trying to help them, that's good. My advice is to tell your mom to go for counselling, cause even if your dad gets in shape, and don't work this problem in counselling, some other problems will show up. I don't know your mom's age, but even she may be going through hormone changes in her body, so she should get that checked too with her doctor. I hope this advice helps, good luck.

Answer 3

You really don't know the whole story. There could be more going on there. When my mom and dad had problems I thught the same thing but there was more going on.It turned out that my mom was not happy. The nice thing is that They got back together 1 year later. It will work out in the end.
It will work out. Even if they do slip apart.You should love them both ether way.

Answer 4

When your dad gets back tell him that you want to spend time with him exercising. Maybe you both could join a gym. If anything, just tell him you're worried about his health. When your mom sees that he is working out, she may feel different about him. She probably feels that you dad is letting himself go and before he probably was in great shape and now she no longer feels very attracted to him. Good luck with this. Just remember that if things don't work out with your parents it's not your fault.

Answer 5

I know it's hard, but sometimes these things happen, all you can really do is be supportive to BOTH parents. Sometimes feelings change for whatever reason and even tho it seems selfish or wrong to us, and it seems like she's heartless, it hurts everyone involved, including your mom even if she's hiding it well. Be patient & understandin & hope for the best.

Answer 6

Your mom should be discussing these problems with your dad and try to work things out. They could take walks together and she could cook healthier meals, but she needs to try. The grass is not always greener on the other side.

Answer 7

I don't mean any disrespect to u or your family but if your moms don't want dad it would be best for them to move on in life for one it's not good for the kids to see things like that, might turn out for the best but if she feels that way then what go around comes around.me, myself, i think she still loves him but what do i know. sorry! i really hope things works out.

Answer 8

That is between the two of them to work out.

I am sure there is a lot more to the story than she has told you.

She sounds like a total ****** though.

Answer 9

Sounds like your mom is just making excuses. Sorry to say this but she should be honest and just say that she doesn't want to be with him. Being cruel to him constantly is just going to make things worse.

Answer 10

Man, your mom sounds like a mega beotch! I hope that your dad finds someone who will treat him better and love him because he doesnt deserve someone like her. I hope that you take note and never become like your mother.