he had to go deal with things a while back I promised to be there for him and I was for a long time then I met the guy I am with now have asked advice about him (how to get more attention) anyway I do love him but I am not in love with him never have been,the x has always had my heart and always will. I just don't understand how he can still love me let alone still want to be with me. I was so happy with him and haven't been happy in a while, there are mornings I just don't even want to get up,I know I have to (I have kids and I have to work) I don't want to just jump right back into anything but I do love him and I know we would be happy. Just confused.any advice welcome
2007-05-08 04:00:45 · 13 answers · asked by RED 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am still in love with the x and miserable with the one now
2007-05-08 04:51:38 · update #1
him leaving me was not by his choice I am the one that did not wait / that is why I can't understand why he still loves me and wants us to be together again
2007-05-08 05:24:42 · update #2
the bf now is not stable and has some issues/ I pay my own bills and take care of myself and my kids he has never took care of much of anything
2007-05-08 05:26:07 · update #3
I'm confused. Do are you miserable about the new guy? Your question needs clarity. Thanks!
2007-05-08 04:05:36 · answer #1 · answered by Ya Ya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decisions, Decisions! Sounds to me like you might be a little afraid of going back to the ex, because he has left you once before and even though your not in love with the person your with now, he seems to be offering you stability and security and your probably not sure if you want to give this up to go back with the ex incase it dosen't work out again. Just be careful the ex isn't trying to split you up with your current guy because he dosen't have anyone and might be jealous that your in a good relationship now. Sometimes people want what they can't have and once they get it they don't want it anymore. Think this through( weigh the pros and cons first before you make your decision) Good Luck!!
2007-05-08 12:15:34 · answer #2 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. Look ahead to your future and see if you can be happy with the guy you are with, or your x. It sounds to me like you KNOW you want to be with your x. Just take it slow, one day at a time. If you aren't in love with the guy you are with, you should not be with him. Live your life the way YOU want to live it. If it doesn't work out with your x, there will be someone else you will fall in love with. But if you don't at least try, you will always be wondering, "What if?"
2007-05-08 11:05:20 · answer #3 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very confused, you love him but are not in love with him, then you say you love him again and you know you would be happy. He has your heart and always will. You have never been in love with him. Sounds like you don't know what you want. You need to separate from him and figure that out before you can be in any relationship. It is not fair to him to string him along.
2007-05-08 11:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well lets put it this way...My wife of 10 yrs left me and i was crushed. and hurt by what she did...we had 2 kids to..she was afraid to come back for what she did..because she hurt me..
well after a little more than a year she asked me if I felt the same about her..I told her I loved her and wanted her to come home...Well she told me she stilled care about me a lot and later on we got back together..and we have been back together for over 6 yrs now after being apart 14 months..
Talk to him..give a try...you will lose nothing if you don't try..and you will never know what might have been....
2007-05-08 11:19:12 · answer #5 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you want your "comfort zone" back.
Lets say that he still believes in you and wants his kids back, because he wants to be a family still...
Some guys need that, (like I do, and when my family is away, it drives me nuts).
My suggestion is to dump the boyfriend and go back to your ex and try to make it work.
Both of you should get councelling before you start being a "couple" so that you can figure out where you went wrong. He wont "scoot & Boot" again, and you wont drive him away!
With out it, I dont see you both succeeding, and I will bet that the current boyfriend will eventualy scoot & boot after awhile also!
I wish you well...
Jesse
2007-05-08 11:15:31 · answer #6 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't control who you fall in love with. The heart wants what the heart wants. I'm sure he understood why you did not wait for him. That doesn't make you a bad person. If you are not in love with your current beau and still in love with your ex why not give it another shot? You might want to consider that. Good luck!
2007-05-08 11:05:02 · answer #7 · answered by #1 Lucy Fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to leave the guy you are with now don't waste his time or yours any longer.As for the situation with your ex. without knowing what he had to deal with or why he left its hard for an outsider to get ahold of why you can't understand why he still loves you.If he truly loves you and you truly love him that is all that matters you just have to work at the relationship a little harder.
2007-05-09 07:46:53 · answer #8 · answered by angrywm14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is with you.. and you are dame lucky to have your ex still wantin you back...
However I think you have to think twice before getting back.. Search your soul again... ask yourself will you ever hurt him again... If the answer is most probably yes...then you should let him live his own life...that would be the kindest thing that you can do for him...
take care..
2007-05-08 11:35:40 · answer #9 · answered by trymejames 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of guys have this problem. I call it Vaginitis.
When a man has been p.u.s.s.y-whipped for so long he forgets how to think for himself and what his cohones are for. Eventually "the boys" shrink up and become a vagina. Congratulations, you have a new girlfriend.
2007-05-08 11:05:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He doesn't love you, just wants to keep his options open. You sound confused and self-centered, he is probably better off without you.
2007-05-08 11:08:15 · answer #11 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋