Is it a good thing to move in with my boyfriend before we get married, but im only 20?

Answer 1

I moved in with my boyfriend/finacee before we got married. I was 20 and he was 24. It really helped us to get to know each other better and if something came up and we decided it couldn't work- then we could simply move out instead of the whole messy divorce.

We lived together for almost two years before we actually got married. Been married a year now and things are great.

I would reccomend to anyone that isn't a stickler about not living together before marriage because it's really the only way you can get to know them. If they have annoying habits or if you two can survive the struggle of living together. Case in point- in the year before my husband and I married- we had to buy a new washer and dryer, file a claim to have our roof replaced, and just deal with all the other bills and what not. Sometimes people just can't work out things like that because they are really stressful.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 2

its up to our own beliefs on the situation, religious or otherwise. Personally, I would say yes. I met my now fiancee at 20, we dated throughout college and after graduation moved in together.

It has helped us to grow up a lot, to take responsibility together for our finances and our own lives. You get to see the person as they are, you learn every little quirk and detail about them. And it gives you an opportunity to see if you can handle living with him before you are actually in a legally binding committment only to move in together after the wedding and realize you can't stand him.

Also, many people will say 'the divorce rate is higher if you live together first' which statisically is correct. But it's just a number! If you go into a marriage thinking its going to fail, it is. The divorce rate is just high overall because people leave at the slightest disagreement and don't stick it out for the long haul anymore. People expect this fairy tale, and when things get rough they head for the hills. Regardless of whether you live together first or not.

If you are in a committed realtionship and you both agree that marriage is in your future, then I think living together first is a very important step.

My fiance and I dated for 1 year, then moved in together for the past 11months, and we have now been engaged for 2 months and getting married next year. Living with him just confirmed all my feelings for him and that this is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with.

Best of luck with whatever you decide.

Answer 3

I guess that is up to you, but I got married at 18 and we have 3 kids together (I started getting pregnant 2 months after Marriage). I do believe you get married before living with the spouse. Age don't really matter. I have been married happily for 4 1/2 years now...

Answer 4

If we all had the ability to look 10 years into the future, we'd change a lot of things about the choices we made.

You've probably been interested in the opposite sex for the last 8 years. So what do you really know about the male species?

Here's my opinion........get a female room mate and learn more about yourself and what you really want out of life before doing the living together/marriage routine. It doesn't mean you break up with your b/f. It just gives you two the time to find out more about each other and if marriage is what you both really want at this time.
You guys may want to go to college, or travel abroad. Just don't cut your lives short with some romantic notion that marriage is happily ever after with a white picket fence because it isn't.

Answer 5

Spelling: the person who said if you never want to get married:
I moved in with my boyfriend shortly after we started dating and he prosed to me 3 months later and we are getting married in a month and a half so you don't know what you are talking about.

I think its a great idea to move in with someone before you get married it lets you learn eachother alittle more than what you would if you didn't live together. How is that a bad thing? Also, you learn responsibility and so on, I have never been happier than I am right now. Goodluck to you hun and have fun with it! :)

Answer 6

Yes its good. That way you can get to know how he acts and everything in normal everyday life. Also this will give you an feel of how its going to be married. I would definately do it so that way you two can work out any problems that you might have with the way the other person lives and acts at home before you get married. Just remember that this will take some compramise because one person might like something one way and the other another way.

Answer 7

yes, definitely! You would be surprised at all the things you learn about someone when you move in with them. I moved in with my fiancee before we got married, and I highly reccommend it. I learned sooo much about him. Way more than when we were living apart. It makes such a huge difference. You dont really know someone until you see them on the toilet or walking around in their underwear munching on left over pizza and scratching their under carriage. You get to see how messy they are, how they eat, what they eat, how often they shower, brush their teeth. All the little things make a difference. Its the little things that will get on your nerves for years to come! Make sure you are okay with them before you marry the guy!

Answer 8

I wouldn't do it. A relationship needs real commitment; living together lessens that commitment, so by the time you do get married, divorce is more of an option. I've linked to a site about cohabitation before marriage and the statistics related to it. Check it out.
My husband and I didn't live together before we were married. I think that made us see our marriage as more real and solid. It's true you learn about them when you live with them, but I think it'd be better to learn about their faults when you have commitment there; you'll learn to forgive, compromise, and work together more.

Answer 9

I don't think its a good idea to do either......chances are your parents have said the same thing. You don't listen to them, why would you listen to answers here.....

Reality is you're 20 and more than likely you'll be back on this board in less than 5 years asking "where you went wrong".....keep my email so I can say "I told you so"

Answer 10

its possible but i dont recommend it. it may seem like this is how it would be if you were married, but then you could be the only one who feels that way. all it really is, is sex every single night and it will continue until someone (you) gets pregnant.

Are you ready to cook him meals, clean up after him when he doesnt feel like? be ok if he brings his friends over to watch the game or hang out? how about if he came home late from work and was too tired to take you out? what happens when the two of you get in little fights? do you ignore each other and stay in seperate rooms? there is ALOT to think and talk about and your boyfriend and you need to start talking, what i have given you is just ideas of what could be. hope u understand