Should the husband and wife be equal in a marriage??

Question

Or should the husband be the one to make all the decisions?
All replies appreciated. Thanks

Answer 1

Of course, but everything needs to be co-operative and negotiated.

Answer 2

It depends on what your belief system is and what you have agreed upon before you were married. This type of issue should be discussed before you start planning a wedding.

My personal belief is that marriage is 50/50. That doesn't mean that each decision is 50/50; just that we have equal say. For instance, my husband has agreed that I have more decision making when it comes to the style & decorating of our house. I would say we are more like 80/20 (in my favor) in that category. However, he has more decision making power when it comes to other things like remodelling projects. So it balances out.

The important thing is that both spouses should be respectful of the other & try to reach mutual decision and compromise when necessary. If one party is not completely happy with a situation, then you should talk it through to work it out & not leave the decisions to one person.

Answer 3

My personal belief if that the two should be equal.

But it's different for different people, cultures, religions, etc.

Ultimately, though, both the husband and wife need to *agree* on how decisions will be made. If the husband is to make all the decisions, that's fine, as long as the husband accepts that responsibility and the wife is willing to live with his decisions.

Answer 4

Well personally, i think it should be 50/50 all the way, me and my husband dont make any decisions without consulting the other. I am so over the cave man attitude!!
I have been with my husband 8 yrs (only married for 1 yr) and its the way we have always worked, though i must admit he does find it difficult making decisions where the kids are concerned.
We share all duties within the home inc. cleaning and we both control the finances. hope this has been of some use to you xx

Answer 5

I believe that they are equal, however the responsibility of the consequences of the decision should rest on the husband as he is the "head" of the house.

Answer 6

It should be equal, but understand that some things you are going ot have more insight on and some he is, thats when the two of you talk it out and come to a mutual decision. Communitcation is the number 1 key!!

Answer 7

yes there should be an equal partnership in a marriage. Otherwise the other person looses their own self image and respect for themselves. If your partner respects you then he will want you to help make choices with him. In a marriage you're supposed to not only be lovers but best friends. Would you want to dominate your best friend or let them dominate you? If not with them then why would you allow that to happen in your marriage which is more sacred and special?

Answer 8

They should be equal. It is easy enough to come up with agreements on big issues if the couple takes its time. This will insure that both sides are heard on the important stuff and helps to avoid 'he/she never listens to me' syndrome.

Answer 9

I believe that each party should have an equal say in all matters.

Just because I'm a woman doesn't mean that I don't have a brain and an opinion!

Answer 10

for most of human history the man has been the leader, why do you think this is so?

it is the natural order of things, men are better decision makers, while women are good organizers and nuturers

if you are not willing to FOLLOW a man, then date women or live with another woman

women have no place believing they are equal