I know I am an ******, But for the last 4 months I have been having an "Affair" with a married woman. I came clean with my girlfriend and told her everything and we split up. The woman I am involved with continues to lie to her husband who I have come to know as a really nice guy. I feel horrible for him and it annoys me that she lies and covers thing up so much. Should I tell him or just avoid it. He isn't violent at all. She just tells him that we are just good friends, and she tells me she wants to be with me ect. I am just really confused. And the fact that she lies so much to him worries me. What should I Do?
2007-05-08 08:56:09 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
End it NOW. If she is comfortable lying to him she'll be just as comfortable lying to you someday, as long as it suits her needs. If you tell the husband, you could be doing him a favor, but don't expect friendship. In fact, you might have to look over your shoulder if he flips out.
2007-05-08 09:07:07 · answer #1 · answered by Karibuboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes youre right you r an ******...You do realize that shes NEVER going to leave her husband for u?I mean shes lying to him about u. She wants to have you as her back up. You left your gf who has alot more to bring to a relationship that this lady. Shes already someone elses. I mean what makes u think she cant just find another boy toy after u get tired. She seems pretty comfortable about having an affair, and lying to her husband like she has experience. Think with your brain not your head...Good Luck!
2007-05-08 16:06:16 · answer #2 · answered by Naomi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you see her do this to him ,chances are she will do it to you to. She is trying to live both worlds. I can't tell you what to do,but i would back away for a while. If you feel like this guy is a good person or not, how would you feel if you were in his shoes. I am married and I think that cheating is horrible, but for your own sanity maybe you should take a break.
2007-05-08 16:07:10 · answer #3 · answered by legallyblonde3333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of coarse it would worry you, if you ever got with her, you would always wonder if she is cheating on you. She can't be trusted and you will never trust her and it will never work out. If the guys is nice and you feel bad, you should tell him. If you want to get your life together and not feel guilty, tell the guy, break it off w/ the girl, and learn your lesson.
2007-05-08 16:04:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I would not tell, it isn't up to you to tell. Put yourself in his shoes, how do you think this is going to effect him? He will be crushed. The women is the problem here and I bet she did her best to manipulate you and she obviously is manipulating her husband. I'll bet she wants you to tell him, and watch out for the story she will spin if you do. Stay away from the both of them is my advise.
2007-05-08 16:17:27 · answer #5 · answered by April First 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are an a**hole and your g/f is also you deserve one one another you came clean with your ex so try to do the right thing once more just walk away and hope that your tart never hurts her husband again
2007-05-08 16:05:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you for wanting to do what's right...maybe, for your safety, tell him over the phone.
A simple, "I know I've been a _____, and I just want you to know I've grown a concience, and will never go anywhere near your, nor anyone else's wife, ever again."
2007-05-08 16:10:43 · answer #7 · answered by daisyk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you know she is married, leave her the hell alone...walk away and never ever look back...he does deserve to know and you should tell him, but be sure to wear some kind of helmet so he don't kill you when he beats you up!!
2007-05-08 16:05:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her a big hickey in her inner thigh and tell him you did it, there will be no covering that up.
There, it's all out in the open and don't we all feel better?
2007-05-08 17:30:31 · answer #9 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think she tells you the truth?
She lies to him.
She lies to you, "I want to be with you".
TRUTH "I don't want to be with you."
If a friend of yours lied as much as she does would you trust them?
Use her for what you can, but don't count on a liar.
2007-05-08 16:23:58 · answer #10 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋