My x-husband and I have recently decided to get back together after being apart for 7 years. We have 2 children together. We were young and he suffers from bi-polar. After many long and lengthy conversations we decided to try again. I live in MI and he lives in VA. I am moving there next week. I quit my job, told my landlord and everything is set to go, I could not be happier. Then he called last night, said he had been spiraling and now he doesn't want to get back together. He is going to counceling to get help and I told him he needs meds. So now, I have to decide if I still move or what do I do. My kids want to be by their dad and I think they should know their dad and that whole side of the family too. Any suggestions? Yes I still love him.
2007-05-08 08:44:58 · 8 answers · asked by ads_ags 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would suggest seeing if you can get a short term lease (maybe six months?) in a town near their dad in VA. Since you are already packed and have quit your job, it sounds like you are going to have to start over anyway. If there is a chance of reconciliation, maybe moving NEAR your ex is a good compromise -- you can start seeing eachother again and figure out if it will work. In the meantime, the kids can be nearer to their dad. I would NOT suggest trying to move in with him until he gets on his meds and is able to create a stable environment for your children.
Best of luck!
2007-05-08 08:56:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you already answered your question. If you love him and your kids want to be near him, you should move back with him and support him through this hard time. Him deciding at the last minute not to get back together is part of his illness. Go to him, help him get on his meds and stay on them and work to make your family. Good luck!
2007-05-08 08:57:54 · answer #2 · answered by e_imommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would move there, but not in with him.. at least not yet. Give your kids a chance to settle in & make new friends before jumping right in with their dad. If he's gotten on some meds & is going to counselling, let him see them as often as possible. It may be difficult for your kids to understand his Bi-Polar illness & giving them a chance to see it before living with it may help them more in the long run. Where as if you just move right in with him, things might turn ugly for the kids & you'd be looking for a place your kids feel safe in anyways. Good luck!
2007-05-08 09:00:00 · answer #3 · answered by its_me_horses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move to be near him. You already have everything set and ready to go. Even if things dont work out with him you can be his friend and the children will have their father again.
2007-05-08 08:58:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honey, The wedding vows do say, in sickness or in health ! Yes it would be best for the kids but only if he strictly stays on his meds. Jesus be with you,and I"ll be praying.
2007-05-08 09:05:14 · answer #5 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well moving up there is a mistake and i think your ex is just trying to use you and he probably has someone with him that why he's keep changes his mind, never date an ex cause their ex for a reason never forget what cause you to broken up on the first place
2007-05-08 09:00:02 · answer #6 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r in a hard one, if it were me, i'd be there for him and my children, that way u r close in case he chnages his mind, u already quit your job and planned on it all, so go girl and good luck to you. i wouldnt trust him to the fulles though if he is changing his mind like that
2007-05-08 08:58:21 · answer #7 · answered by memyselfandi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since you love him. . and you've made plans to go away. . GO. . be there for him. .. maybe when he get on meds and treatment he'll come out of it. . . and ya'll can pick up again. .
2007-05-08 08:57:51 · answer #8 · answered by south_la_gurl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋