Marriage & Divorce - 10 April 2007

...but if you expect to get disappointed, what does that equal?

2007-04-10 04:12:45 · 17 answers · asked by Chad S 2

My oldest brother is married to a real temperamental woman. I have no personal problem with her but at the same time I realize she has some serious personality issues. She is also on antidepressants for her depression and anger. He won't buck her when she is being mean; only walks away and goes into his own little world to ignore the problem. Well, now she has asked for a divorce. He says its comfortable and he doesn't want to go through a divorce. It's as if he has forgotten what it feels like to be happy. And he is such a wonderful, funny, optimistic person... but not anymore. It's his cross to bear he says. I can't stand seeing him so miserable. Any words of wisdom I could give him?

2007-04-10 04:10:20 · 17 answers · asked by redlucky7 2

I have been married for two years. He has two children from a previous marriage. I love his children, but because of the evil things his ex says to them about me, they resent me and treat me like crap. They have even said they wished I would die and that they hate me. Is this typical? What should I do? I need help since I feel lost. Being a step mom is very hard it would be nice to hear how to deal with such a bad situation.

2007-04-10 04:08:36 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

A little back round first though. About 2 months ago my husband told me a girl at work asked him out, he told her he was married. I found a note in his car from this girl telling him he should go out on Saturday. My husband said he was going to through away the note, and just forgot. He just got it the morning I found it. (it had a date on it) He said he didn't even think to tell me because he didn't even think of going, and he told this girl that. (we don't go out much)

I dont wanna be one of those women who miss the signs that her husbands cheating, and I honestly dont think he ever would, but ..... its not like a cheater would just come right out and say "hey im a cheater"

I guess I would just like some other opinions
Thanks

2007-04-10 04:08:25 · 51 answers · asked by Katie k 1

my husband said so many hurtful things over the years, mostly silly in a sarcastically jokingly way but the one that hurt the most was when the other day he said that:
"...YOUR POETRY IS NOT WORKING FOR YOU"

p.s. the sad part is if I remind him he will not even remember he said it :(

2007-04-10 04:01:48 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 52 years old, and even though I am in good shape...well, here is my question. My boyfriend asked me to help him move a 35 inch tv outside to his car. I went to lift it. My end was very heavy to me. The tv slipped out of my hands and I dropped it. He had a FIT!!!!! He was yelling and cussing and I said I was sorry. I looked at the tv. A litle piece of plastic was chipped off the front, but the tv was okay. He never even asked if I was okay, or anything. I was crying and he told me to go home!!!! A few days later I told him I was sorry for dropping my end, but it really was too heavy. He didn't apologize until I made a big deal out of it. Do I have a right to still be mad? Some have told me he is verbally abusive. What do you think?

2007-04-10 04:01:18 · 21 answers · asked by susan15022001 2

My ex called me at midnight and told me he was in the emergency room form 3rd degree burns. His gf burned him with some hot grease from the stove while they were in a fight. I say fight b/c he admit she hit him and he hit her and scratched his eye. He said that she is a consistent liar and I know that. He basically dumped me b/c we were long distance (thank God) .
I've told him before about talking about that stuff to me but he calls and I am curious as to what goes down but won't take him back.
Do you think he wants to get back together is why he calls?
And we also have a kid too.

2007-04-10 03:55:57 · 9 answers · asked by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6

I am leaving my boyfriend of 18 month in 14 days. Our relationship was very very bad at times, & I have lost all my trust in him & feel he doesnt respect me & so forth, never the less I love him, I know thats probably really dumb...I am going to miss him & his company/presence...I cry like everyday now cause I know I am leaving & no I cant stay chances are just too great that he will disrespect me again & then I will be mad atmyself all over again...so do yawl have any remedis on how this could be 100% easier or how I could look forward to leaving or how I could make peace with the fact that I am loosing him & that I gave up on what I thought was the love of my life? I cry cause when I first met him I fell so hard in love with him i thought that he was it forever that I would never have to worrie about things anymore that I finally found love & now I am not even myself anymore & I cry cause I quit trying to make this work, but sometimes it takes 2 to try...I will love him forever

2007-04-10 03:54:57 · 17 answers · asked by $D*Da*Spoild*1$ 3

And he agreed, saying that there's nothing wrong, they are just friends who call each other and confide in each other regularly?

2007-04-10 03:53:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-10 03:49:46 · 7 answers · asked by sea me 1

Okay - here's the deal! I have left my husband 3 times for another man. The same man each time. When I am with the other man, I miss my husband, when I am with my husband, I miss the other man!! What should I do?

2007-04-10 03:48:08 · 40 answers · asked by ? 1

I mean what is the point of reciting it, if people doesn't intend to keep it?

Marriage vows is meant of honoring one's love for his/her spouse and his love for her under good or bad times, till death do they part. it has nothing to do with if the spouse revolt his/her isn't it?

its a sacred vow and to me it simply mean I WILL LOVE AND CARE FOR YOU NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS. and it revolves around love and forgiveness. simple as that.

Any reasons for filing divorce is just a lame excuse.

2007-04-10 03:42:04 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-10 03:41:55 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

The other day, I used my g/f's cell to make a call and saw another mans number in the recently called list, I was not looking for that kind of thing. This guy's number is also stored in her contacts list as it came up with only the first name. When I asked her about it she got mad saying I was invading her privacy. She said it was her friends boyfriends number, what would you think?

2007-04-10 03:38:25 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know that he really does care and love me for sure and we've been together for a year and a month and i am 17 yrs. old and i know that i should know better than to take him back but it hurts me so bad and when i try and leave him alone he'll keep callin and txtin me over and over until i finally answer... I feel like when i break up with him then im punishing him b.c he cant be with me but im really punishing myself b/c it hurts me so much b/c im not with him... and this isnt the first he's cheated on me with and i want to be with him forever but i know that if i kepp taking him back he'll think its okay to do it again...so what do i do??

2007-04-10 03:31:15 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

16 years ago a wife left her 1 year old daughter with nothing but a diaper on. Before she did that she shot her then husband in the knee and cheated on him and left. Now her ex-husband is stupidly smiling on a picture with her is he crazy or what?? I know you are supposed to forgive but this woman clearly had no concern for her family then and he looks like an idiot!!

2007-04-10 03:26:16 · 7 answers · asked by phillyprincess 1

My husband is obbsessed with me. Literally! It's kind of scary. He says that he is just showing how much he loves me, but man, I dont know. He calls me all day every day. He gets upset when I talk to others. He is jealous of my relationship with my mom and sister. He refuses to help around the house. He practically sits on me while on the couch, he wants me in the bathroom with him while he's taking a bath, when he goes to sleep at night if im not tired he insists i lay next to him anyways. I cant leave his side. He hacked into my email and read everything (not like i had anything to hide). Goes through my cell phone. ect........ I do love him and all but im not in love with him. He makes it really hard to want to be with. but when i mention it, Oh Im sorry please forgive me what can i do to change stuff like that is what i hear all the time. help

2007-04-10 03:21:30 · 54 answers · asked by who knows 3

Some weeks ago, my boyfriend asked me to slap him silly. I first refused, but as he insisted, he got it in the evening as a foreplay of a wonderful night.

Here is the problem: I loved it, but he told me the following day he did not want that anymore.

So here's my question: should I do it anyway and be abusive; stop doing it and be frustrated; or find a man who would ask for more and be a cheater.

2007-04-10 03:16:06 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

You find another womans phone number in your mans recently dialed phone numbers. When you ask about it, he gets mad because he says you are invading his privacy, he also says it is his friends girlfriend. Would you be thinking something is going on, if so what ?

2007-04-10 03:16:04 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

My last questions were in regards to my baby's dad who had a problem, etc, we argued (check out the last questions) I left him - after he busted me across the mouth with a shoe - BUT I did it- I took my son and we are staying at a friends house - I wanted to thank everyone for the advice and WOW for once in my life I actually took it. My baby's dad keeps calling and telling me that he's all f*cked up - I fel bad- but the massive bruise on my face reminds me that love hurts and I have to put my son in a safe place - again thanks for all of the advice.......

2007-04-10 03:13:22 · 2 answers · asked by Sweetness 2

I started out was just gonna go to church this one night because my daughter asked to got to revival with her well that night I excepted Jesus in to my life now every time I go to church it is an arguement for about two to three days because I am Baptist and he is Cathilic and he says you shouldn't go to church twice on Sunday and then go back on Wedesday well it has been horrible. My husband says that this may be the end of us but I told him not tomake me choose because I love my husband but I told him I would not be eternally damned because he doesn't understand the Baptist way how do I get him to understand that this could make our realation ship better if he would just let it

2007-04-10 03:11:53 · 15 answers · asked by Sheila S 1

Hi Ya'll,
Last night I was talking to my husband just telling him how thing were different before marriage,that we had so much of romance and used to talk for a long time.But nowadays things have changed and we dont get time for each other.
So jokingly,i asked him about his affair before marriage,so he said he didn't have any!Then i asked him what about crush ,he said it was nothing like that ,that he did not get that kind of feelings for anyone.How is that possible???I mean any human being on this earth has hundreds of crushes.I just dont beleive him.Ours was an arranged marriage.I mean the reason i am asking you people this is because after that incident ,i am not able to trust him.I tried asking him earlier but he just said nothing!I think he did not have a good past affair or may be he just thinks that he should not tell me everything may be just because basically he doesn't trust me.Why is it that he wants to hide?I just wanted to ask out of curiosity but no answer from him?

2007-04-10 03:11:48 · 11 answers · asked by maple 1

I was talking to one of my friends and we can't figure out how much it would cost to addopt a chinese baby girl. we have looked up on it but aint really found anything.

2007-04-10 02:55:31 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been a dancer for 16 years, I went to college at 34 years old, to change my life dramatically, I always dreamed of being in the Law Enforcement field. I had a problem towards the A.T.S. Certicate you need to become a court officer, or any field of Police force. I'm still working hard towards that goal. However, I was seeking employment in the Security feild and I was offered employment in An Armed Security ( I have my gun Licence), but the pay was too little for me to live on, and survive. My boy friend I have been with for seven long years, can not support me at all, one with finacial, or mentally. Mistake I made in life being young and wanting to make lots of money, has only dramatically made me depressed, as the years of being trapped in that industry. I feel I have lost all my dreams, and respect for myself. I don't have a career in front of me, nor a man I feel that I waisted time with too. Sometimes I feel like running and running, but I have no place to go! :(

2007-04-10 02:49:13 · 20 answers · asked by too_b_ur_self 2

I am waiting for my ex to come home to see if I could have a relationshhip with him. He joined the military and the long distance was too hard on both of us so he broke it off. I was with him for 6 years and knew him very well. Previously I thought that he was seeing someone else cause he was traveling to where she lived, I confronted him and he told me that no he wasn't he went there with a friend so he could see his fiancee and he also told me that he doesn't go there all the time. I got this letter in the mail from a traffic thing on a highway, it is the highway he has to travel all the time to go to this place, and this is how they bill you for traveling the toll. It stated that he has been going down there every weekend. So now I know something is going on but because there was a fight last time I confronted him I do not want it to happen again. He told me he loves me and sees himself with me. How do I confront him without it turnbing into a huge fight?

2007-04-10 02:41:45 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am married for almost a year now, I am a house maker and do not go for work, the problem is I feel bad to ask money from my husband for my personal shopping. Of course he provides me with "essential" items, at times I come across nice dresses but I feel he may think I am spending too much. I dont shop very often, should I tell him to give me a pocket money to do my personal shopping....please help

2007-04-10 02:36:13 · 23 answers · asked by Dreamer 1

I am a recently divorced single mom of 2 small children (4 and 19 months). I have been dating a single guy for a couple months and we really hit it off. We are crazy about each other because we connect in so many ways and have so much in common. He tells me he loves me often. Just last week, though, he lost his job due to a company merger falling through and he is now expressing fears of being a good "father" to my kids because of both his abusive childhood and because their father is still very much a part of their lives. He said that this is the only issue he sees breaking us up. I think he would make a great dad someday. My kids adore him. Should I leave him because he is expressing doubts or should I just enjoy being with him until the day he decides that he definitely can't be a "parent" to my kids? He says it would be easier for him if either I didn't have kids or if I was a widow because then he would know what his role was.

2007-04-10 02:23:11 · 13 answers · asked by cschulenberg01 2

I want to marry my girlfriend, but she is a Jehovah's witness and I am not. I also have believe in celebrating some the things that she does not such as birthdays, Christmas, and Thanksgiving, and I DON'T want to deprive our 8 month old son of anything like that. What can be done? Do I have to convert, or is there a way around it? She says, that I have to convert, yet I think there is a loop hole in the system that would allow for me to marry her regardless of me being a Witness or not. Anyone that wants to answer this, PLEASE email me or IM me on messenger. Thank you.

2007-04-10 02:16:56 · 13 answers · asked by Adam L 1

Asked this earlier-what more opinions (guys especially)!!

Does he want commitment?
my bf and i have been together for 2.5 years now. it was rocky in the beginning b/c of a condition i was just diagnosed with that cause me to be severely moody and irritable during my period (we broke up a few times over it). we've been together w/no break ups for a solid year now. i always spend time at his house every other weekend and sometimes on the nites we work (we both work nites and have the same schedule). he has spent the nite at my house a few times but says it doesn't feel right b/c my kids (3 girls i have part-time) are there. we usually do things w/the kids outside of the home or he'll come watch a movie w/us at my house. he told me he loved me at the 3 month mark and always tells my kids he loves them. we met each other's families and i'm really close to his. we've talked about moving in and getting married (he bought me a 1500.00 necklace in Feb for my b-day).

does he really want commitment? we are both 28-he's never lived w/anyone or been married. i have.

2007-04-10 02:14:06 · 8 answers · asked by prncessang228 7

2007-04-10 02:11:45 · 16 answers · asked by smi 1