I am waiting for my ex to come home to see if I could have a relationshhip with him. He joined the military and the long distance was too hard on both of us so he broke it off. I was with him for 6 years and knew him very well. Previously I thought that he was seeing someone else cause he was traveling to where she lived, I confronted him and he told me that no he wasn't he went there with a friend so he could see his fiancee and he also told me that he doesn't go there all the time. I got this letter in the mail from a traffic thing on a highway, it is the highway he has to travel all the time to go to this place, and this is how they bill you for traveling the toll. It stated that he has been going down there every weekend. So now I know something is going on but because there was a fight last time I confronted him I do not want it to happen again. He told me he loves me and sees himself with me. How do I confront him without it turnbing into a huge fight?
2007-04-10 02:41:45 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When you do finally see him in person, pull out the toll bill and ask him about it. Watch his reaction. If you've been with him for 6 years, you'll know if he's telling you the truth or not. Make your decision and stick to it.
2007-04-10 02:45:10 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There doesn't have to be a huge fight.
Simply pull out the letter and calmly say, "I can't trust you, so I'm breaking up with you. Oh, and by the way, I'm going to see other people."
And then go out and see other people.
He will come back when there are other men in the picture and kick the reject highway girl to the curb.
It's important to be TOTALLY calm and almost bored when you talk to him.
Good luck.
2007-04-10 09:54:03 · answer #2 · answered by emilsignia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you bring this up to him and it starts a fight to me it is because he is guilty!! I don't mean to bring you bad news but why would he get frustrated with you or fight with you if you feel something is going on...why wouldn't he just talk with you and try to reassure you that he is not doing anything. And not for nothing, you have the proof in your hands...the tickets. Don't even bother trying to work things out if you have suspicion that there is someone else. Some men never learn...some do. Use your brain and not your heart. Good Luck.
2007-04-10 09:50:26 · answer #3 · answered by LG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he could not handle being in a relationship with you long distance then why bother getting an explanation? You should move on, go on dates, and see what wonderful things could happen for you. Six years is long enough to know if you can handle being in a relationship with someone.... long distance or not.
2007-04-10 10:01:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look he is your ex, he has the right to date and not put his life on hold. He very well may love you and want to be with you but until he comes back to you, he isn't yours.
By the way, military are not the best at being faithful. It is very rare to find one who doesn't cheat, because they go away so much for schools and other deployment. If you find a good man with morals and family values in the military...grab him quick they are rare.
2007-04-10 09:50:45 · answer #5 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am assuming you got his EZ pass bill?
but your question is unclear...you want to ask him about a new bill? or you want to confront him AGAIN about the old bill?
you have no reason to fear confrontation in a relationship. the lines of communication should always be open to conversation (not a fight). tell him you are feeling insecure and that he seems fishy to you. if he really loves you, he will go out of his way to make you feel secure. that's what love is.
2007-04-10 09:50:21 · answer #6 · answered by caffeinespike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He`s been lying to you! They only seem to tell the truth when confronted, and then you`ll know and tell him to hit the road as he`s not worth the trouble. How could you trust someone who has made a career of lying to you? I would cut your loses and move on to someone who will treat you right!
2007-04-10 09:51:26 · answer #7 · answered by MISTY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this approach. While in a group of family, friends, anyone who could act as a deterrent to your ex's behavior, and confront him with this and see what happens. Chances are you can do BETTER.
2007-04-10 09:50:34 · answer #8 · answered by steinerrw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why confront him?! You have the proof he's lied so move on! Besides there are tons of relationships that can handle distance for love!
2007-04-10 09:50:02 · answer #9 · answered by spiderjpgp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe the toll thing is a sticker on the car bumper? if it is, i bet someone is useing that car so they dont have to stop and pay a toll every booth, i do it at work, the same car is used by 3 people????
seam right?
2007-04-10 09:48:53 · answer #10 · answered by bluelitttt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋