What do you do when you have becom save and are going to church and it is an arguement every night because you

Question

I started out was just gonna go to church this one night because my daughter asked to got to revival with her well that night I excepted Jesus in to my life now every time I go to church it is an arguement for about two to three days because I am Baptist and he is Cathilic and he says you shouldn't go to church twice on Sunday and then go back on Wedesday well it has been horrible. My husband says that this may be the end of us but I told him not tomake me choose because I love my husband but I told him I would not be eternally damned because he doesn't understand the Baptist way how do I get him to understand that this could make our realation ship better if he would just let it

Answer 1

So, you can't cut back AT ALL??? What happened to respect your spouse? You DO realize that God expects you to do that, right?


How can you just expect him to suddenly give up his wife EVERY SINGLE DAY, because she's decided to be fashionable? You won't be eternally damned if you're not in church every time they open the doors. You DO have a moral obligation to your husband. Two become one in marriage, and wives are supposed to cleave to their husbands. You are letting your lust for this supposed "new" faith take priority over your biblical responsibilities as a wife.

Answer 2

So... the "Baptist's way" is the only way to salvation? Not trying to start a theological argument here but I hardly believe that going to church on a particular schedule leaves your soul's eternal judgement hanging in the balance. Surely in Jesus' time they didn't go to church all that much and they still managed to get to heaven?

I think you are making a big deal out of what ONE pastor has maybe mentioned to you. If you like going to church that's one thing, but please, show me where int eh bible it says you'll go to hell for not going to church three times a week!

Sure, your husband ought to be understanding about your new-found faith but recall that when he married you I doubt he had any inkling that you would suddenly change this drasticly.

I do believe the bible has several admonishments about husband and wife and how they should respect one another. You put that BELOW some pastor telling you to come to church three times a week? Maybe you're a little too gullible.

Wrap your mind around the situation and prioritize a little, hon.

Oh and BTW, to all those bigots on this answer board: Catholics ARE Christians too. They are believers in Jesus, the trinity, baptism, redemption and all of that stuff. Anyone telling you your husband isn't a believer is just being anti-catholic and I think we've had enough religious intolerance in this country. The KKK hates Catholics too.

Catholics are just as Christian as any Protestant.

Answer 3

Sometimes Religion between two people can be tough...they are set in "their ways" what they've learned over the years through their church...you are now going to church(baptist) and he believes in the cathlic ways*.....that's something you both will have to somehow sort through together* You can believe in your church as he does in his...If he is wanting to end y our marriage because you go to church a few times in a week and he doesn't believe in that...then that's HIS problem. It's sad if that were to happen to you..but it's his choice* It may not be Right* but it is his choice. That is also a "no no" in the cathelic eyes...to "divorce" and especially if he were to be asked...why do you want to leave your wife/family? and he says "she goes to church a few times in a week and she's baptist*....it will be frowned upon. YOU have to Live your life how you choose to as does he. Hopefully you both can sit down and try to come to an agreeable term that will suit you both. Don't let this destroy your marriage...but IF he chooses to end it because of church...then at least you know he isn't the man you thought he was. I dont know what else to say here other than Sit down with him and find out what it is that truely bothers him so much about you going to church a few times in a week. Sounds like something else is troubling him other than you going to church a few times in one week. GOD is there anytime you need him...if you fancy going to church everyday , that is your perogative*..if he chooses to go only on Sundays and holidays..that is his perogative* GOODLUCK* and hang in there..go with what your heart tells you~

Answer 4

Is it required that you go to church twice on Sunday? If not you can make go once and spend more time with him.

You also don't need to get in the argument with him. Once your point is stated, and it sounds like it has been, don't respond to his anger. Your actions speak louder than words and that can convert him. Continue praying for him.

Sometimes spouses are converted, sometimes they just tolerate you, sometimes there is divorce. You need to stay close to God through this. Jesus said that He came not to bring peace but a sword. Not saying He wants us to fight, but that by following Him there will become divisions in families. Just keep praying, search the scriptures for truth and following where God leads. Christianity is not an easy road.

Answer 5

First of all your marriage is already in trouble because the both of you are unequally yolked meaning that the both of your suppose to be together in religion. The Bible tells you that you are to marry your own kin (religiously speaking). Him being a catholic and you a Christian you are of different faiths. Which will cause confusion in the home... The both of you should sit down and read the Bible together and come to the agreement. And let your husband know that you can never have or be at church too much....This is rehearsal what do you think that you are going to be doing when you get to heaven..Worship and Praise.

Answer 6

You can't. Catholic's are a VERY strange breed. They think they own it all when it comes to God. They do no wrong. BS.

What kind of baptist are you. I have never heard of going twice on Sunday and again on Wendenday. Just once, Sunday morning is enough. Your driving the wedge between the two of you just as much as he is.

ever hear of the quote "being of the same yoke" means that the two should be of the same faith and beliefs.

Answer 7

you man end up having to choose between your religion and your marriage. especially if the husband and wife are of different faiths. if he cannot respect how your religion is handled then how can he respect you as a person and respect your relationship with him? instead of fighting to save it..you need to give him an ultimatim. either he stops criticizing you and your religion...or get a divorce. it's not worth staying in a relaitonship wtih someone that gives you so much grief and keeps you unhappy simply because he believs something different. it's not worth it.

Answer 8

There needs to be compromise. If you have accepted Jesus, then you know that Jesus loves you. Jesus preached love and understanding. Your husband is telling you how this makes him feel, and you are not compromising at all. It sounds like you are inadvertently making him feel neglected, and that is perfectly understandable. You can invite him to go with you to one Sunday mass, and you can also agree to cut out the Wednesday. That would be compromise for the both of you, and I am sure Jesus would be okay with that.

Answer 9

Your husband needs to respect what you believe in. if he cant then you guys may not be equally yolked but God is first because your husband does not wake you up everyday. You do need to try to explain to your husband your values and see if they align with yours. And prayer always make things better so trey that approach first. But as to religious people you guys shouldn't be arguing anyway. Listen God comes first.

Answer 10

The Bible says that you must not divorce when the other spouse does not beliveve as you do. Read 1 Corinthians12 and you will find thia and more on the topic. I hope this helps, good luck!