I feel bad to ask my Husband!!!!?

Question

I am married for almost a year now, I am a house maker and do not go for work, the problem is I feel bad to ask money from my husband for my personal shopping. Of course he provides me with "essential" items, at times I come across nice dresses but I feel he may think I am spending too much. I dont shop very often, should I tell him to give me a pocket money to do my personal shopping....please help

My husband is not comfortable letting me to work as he feels later on with kids etc., It will be better I devote my time to them.

Answer 1

There is no shame in asking him for money. You stay home and take care of family home and maybe the kids not sure if you have children yet with only being married for a year. Just so you know I respect and thank the heavens that there still is wonderful women like yourself. " However i am sure your hubby would love to give you money,or maybe if you have checking acct a check book or debit card,as long as you know not to abuse it and listen to your hubby as far as what you are able to spend. We husbands dont mind that at all, i tend to just hand her over cash ect for all she needs,however we have been together for 12 years,which isnt long but hey huge koodoo's your awesome.

Answer 2

Your husband is not comfortable "letting" you work? You are not his slave. I do agree, however, that there should be a parent at home with kids. But until that time you can contribute financially to the household if you want. A marriage is a partnership. You have just as much input into the financial decisions as he does.

You should sit down with him and develop a formal budget. After the main expenses and savings are paid you should agree on spending amounts for clothing, entertainment, etc. Once everything is on paper and agreed upon then you do not have to ask for permission. Also, you should not have to ask for money. You should have joint accounts that both of you can access. If he cannot sit down and develop a budget together then you have other issues.

If he is very controlling or generally does not respect you then I would not bring children into that environment.

Answer 3

Don't you guys as a married couple have a shared bank account? I don't have to ask my husband for a allowance to buy a dress and neither should you. I don't work at this point either and my hubby doesn't mind at all if i want to go out shopping to make my self look pretty for him.As long as you guys are not in debt and swimming in bills you should be able to go and do the same.Or if you don't feel comfortable to spend some of his money go and get a little part time Job to make a little extra spending money for you.Either way good luck.

Answer 4

Well, do you stay at home for a reason? Kids, disabled, etc? If not, I suggest going out and getting a part-time job. If you guys are financially stable, and you just need "pocket money", why not? But if you guys actually need extra money to pay bills, etc, maybe you need to pick up a full-time job that possibly could become a career. Just assess the situation and see what fits you.

Answer 5

You have three options here:

Option 1) Live as you do for the rest of your life, getting more and more wound up with the situation until it eventually gets you down.

Option 2) Talk to your husband, explain the situation that you want a little money for yourself so you can buy pretty things or a present for him when you see them.

Option 3) Get a part/full time job so you have your own money...

Answer 6

I have a much better idea. Get a part time job and earn some cash yourself. Contibute to the household when necessary and get him the occasional gift or two and spend some cash on yourself as well. However your money is his and vice versa.
Have one person handle the finances but the second person should have working knowledge as well of where the cash goes each week and in setting up a budget. seperate finances run the risk of problems in the future. there is no such thing as "my money and your money" Its all.."our money".

Answer 7

Hery why in the world should you think twice to ask your husband...the oney he makes is for the family which inculdes you too. For a husband the money that he makes he would want it on top priority for his wife and kids and only then even for himself.

Only thing from time to time keep asking him on if he think your expenses are a bit high and do account even if he doesn't ask on your expenses - which would make him feel that you are true and incase you are going overboard he would advice you. Actually try this and your husband will get infact much closer to you.

Answer 8

As long as you aren't blowing money wildly the money is both of yours...you're married, your job is keeping up the home and taking care of your family and he goes to another job, you both work.
If you know that you don't have the extra money to spend on something you want, then you might consider getting a parttime job just for some fun money.

Answer 9

Ask him for some extra money I'm sure he will give it to you being tha you dont shop all the time -
or if he doesnt get a part time job so that you can have money when you need it

Answer 10

I assume he gives you money for groceries. You could set yourself a budget that is less than what you have to spend, and whats left is yours. You could tell your husband you need some personal money, if he says no, then tell him you need to get a part time job,because it belittles you to have to ask for every little thing. You could take in ironing, or look after children in your home for extra money also.