My wife says...No expectations = No disappointments...?

Question

...but if you expect to get disappointed, what does that equal?

Your nailing her theory to the t...but what about mine?

Answer 1

disappointment or a pleasant surprise. but if you're walking in with a negative outlook chances are things will be negative

Answer 2

No Expectations No Disappointments

Answer 3

No expectations = No disappointments...?

Very sad life if that is the case. Life is FULL of disappointment. Didn't get the hair cut you wanted, you get disappointed. You didn't get the raise you expected, you get disappointed. You didn't get the husband/wife you wanted...MAJOR disappointment. If you don't love, you will never know all the joy and happiness...but you will not know the disappointments that go along with it. Yeah, we'd all like to go with no disappointment, but that isn't real life. Personally, I think she needs some anti-depressants. Kinda sounds like Eeyore on Winnie the Pooh. If you expect to be disappointed, why bother trying with ANYTHING? There is no reason to bother. Just go with the flow and she will stay miserable.

Answer 4

If you dont expect anything you cant be disappointed or let down. She has a good theory. No one expects to get disappointed, it happens. For example she asks you to take the trash out, 2 days later it is still sitting there=disappointment. Or she takes the trash out, done, no disappointment. What is the point of expecting anything from anyone or anything, you will always be disappointed because it will never measure up to the expectation.

Answer 5

I live my life by basically the same theory. I don't hope or wish for anything and therefore am not disappointed when things don't turn out how I wanted. I started thinking this way after endless disappointments I endured as a child. I'm perfectly happy with my life as an adult because I don't have great expectations. Ask her why she thinks this way...maybe it goes deeper then you think.

Answer 6

i feel that if you expect to be disappointed, then you will find something to be disappointed about, even if the situation turns out well. (eeyore syndrome) Can't stand to be around whiners and complainers.
If you expect something good, then you will eventually find the good in every situation.Unless you are unrealistic and then are the kind to get upset when something does not happen as planned. Can't stand to be around Pollyanna's, esp. Pollyanna's having hissy fits over things we can't control.

If you are neutral, then you probably are the kind that accepts a situation for what it is and although one may be happy or disappointed with the situation, it does no good to complain. It just means that it was what it was, or it is time to walk away and accept whatever the losses are, or time to work out the unexpected kinks.

Answer 7

Expectations that weren't met. In other words, you were expecting something and it didn't occur/materialize, therefore you are disappointed. Have Expectations = Expect disappointment.

Answer 8

I believe what your wife means is that if she doesn't expect something, she can't be disappointed if it doesn't happen. Kind of like not getting her hopes for something. Maybe she is trying to send you subtle hints that she isn't happy in your marriage.

You should pay more attention to her and what she says. Think about what she says. It seems like you twisted what she meant.

Answer 9

If you expect to be disappointed, you will be disappointed no matter what.

Meet expectations, disappointed...
Don't meet this expectation, also disappointed...
.... Finding trouble for oneself

Answer 10

I think the problem is that we, as people, shouldn't put expectations on anyone. If you place expectations on people, then you will only disappoint yourself as it is YOUR expectation, not theirs.

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