I want to marry my girlfriend, but she is a Jehovah's witness and I am not. I also have believe in celebrating some the things that she does not such as birthdays, Christmas, and Thanksgiving, and I DON'T want to deprive our 8 month old son of anything like that. What can be done? Do I have to convert, or is there a way around it? She says, that I have to convert, yet I think there is a loop hole in the system that would allow for me to marry her regardless of me being a Witness or not. Anyone that wants to answer this, PLEASE email me or IM me on messenger. Thank you.
2007-04-10 02:16:56 · 13 answers · asked by Adam L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Although the Scriptures clearly instruct a true worshipper to marry only another true worshipper, the Scriptures do not mention any specific "punishment" for ignoring this instruction.
(Exodus 23:32) You are not to conclude a [marriage or other] covenant with them or their gods.
(Deuteronomy 7:3) And you must form no marriage alliance with [unbelievers]. Your daughter you must not give to his son, and his daughter you must not take for your son.
(1 Corinthians 7:39) She is free to be married to whom she wants, only in the Lord.
(Nehemiah 13:25) You should not give your daughters to [the unbeliever's] sons, and you should not accept any of their daughters for your sons or yourselves.
(2 Corinthians 6:14) Do not become unevenly yoked with unbelievers.
The Scriptures also warn against elevating human desires above godly teachings.
(2 Thessalonians 2:1-3) We request of you not to be quickly shaken from your reason... Let no one seduce you in any manner
(Romans 16:17-18) Keep your eye on those who cause ... stumbling contrary to the teaching that you have learned, and avoid them. ...by smooth talk and complimentary speech they seduce the hearts of guileless ones.
(2 Timothy 4:3-5) For there will be a period of time when they will not put up with the healthful teaching, but, in accord with their own desires, they will accumulate teachers for themselves to have their ears tickled... You, though, keep your senses in all things, suffer evil, do the work of an evangelizer, fully accomplish your ministry.
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2007-04-10 05:35:07 · answer #1 · answered by achtung_heiss 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can get legally married, but as for whether or not her religious veiws accept that, I don't know. You can pretend to convert for the wedding so that her church leaders will marry you too and then simply not practice. Lots of people do this in Catholic churches. It's not really a big deal since their religions are bunk anyways.
Since your girlfriend already had premarital sex with you and had a child, clearly she's not that into her religion. Just get the legal marriage and forget the religion. Of course, your religious differences may cause problems in your marriage and when raising your son.
2007-04-10 02:20:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
they have a web site that has all these answers. has she been baptised a witness already? they aren't baptised as infants but, when they are old enough to make the decision themselves weather or not to become a witness. if so and she wishes to continue in her religion i think you may have to convert. i have to ask though, if she is a devout witness and you are not and you have a son, has he been being raised a witness? how do you plan to celebrate holidays and such if she is strict in her religion? something to think about.
2007-04-10 02:26:13 · answer #3 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a male friend who was kinda in your situation, they married after only 4 months of knowing each other.....needless to say there divorcing now, but he wasn't a witness, and she ( my very best friend) is. After going to the Hall for a couple months he wasn't convinced that the religion was for him, he mainly complained about there Bible being altered, and other things I don't want to get into, because I don't care to pass judgment, I'm a Baptized Christian, and love my best friend to death, and she's been a witness all her life.
Be careful, research the faith as much as possible. But here's food for thought, already the two of you are not equally yoked.
2007-04-10 02:25:30 · answer #4 · answered by NURSING FOR LIFE!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to convert, you can have a non denominational neutral wedding by a justice of the peace rather than a minister. If she loved you unconditionally she would not try to force you to convert and marry you for who you are. Is it her or the parents saying you must convert also, if the parents, try and talk to her and tell her she loves you,, you love her, so why make either one change.
2007-04-10 02:21:25 · answer #5 · answered by ellison_james_01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure about the converting to get married bit. But if you do get married think of all the differences you will have. What are you going to teach your son.? What religion is he going to be brought up in? and if its JW are you happy about this? Research it thoroughly and think of all the What if questions and anwer them in your mind and see what you come up with. What if my son wants to be a JW....what will I think? etc etc
2007-04-10 03:09:00 · answer #6 · answered by hileena82000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I even have heard of jews and cristians co present.. becuase their trip trips come on the comparable situations (like cmas and haunakka (whether you spell it) and that they rejoice the two... yet a faith that doesnt rejoice ANY trip trips?!!?!? wow that would desire to be stressful. consistent with probability you could desire to fulfill with a jahovah witness member or a even in the event that they call the pastor/ minister and notice what forms of issues pass on and what would take place..... I rememebr a team of j.w. who met for some variety of churchlike assembly interior the community..... and one woman i became acquaintances with.. and in comparison to lots of the j.w. her mom became a lil extra open.. she would motivate her to "rejoice with freionds" devoid of actually celebrating... she would settle for presents and playing cards as a gesture of friendship and not precisely a "present". maximum of her freinds knew she became this faith and respected it for the main section and to no longer be rude she would want them a haoppy trip and whatnot. on the different spectrum of issues yet another boy i keep in mind and his sister had to set out interior the hall way or be taken from college whilst any variety of "trip" events occurred. i actually rememebr aninstance the place the little woman became telling different young toddlers that there became no such factor as santa and this and that.. turning out to be a ruckus between the mummy and dad.... so that's stressful enormously in a chop up faith domicile.... and how will your daughter be raised? christian? jahovahs witness? or take transport of the chancve to verify on her own course?
2016-12-15 21:16:36 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think this is a very common sitution in your case you have a son, and you dont want him to be confused so i think you and your girlfrind should come up with the holidays that are most import for you and your son to learn so that he can adapt to being in both customs, AND NO U DONT HAVE TO CHANGE YOU FOR SOMEONE ELESE.
2007-04-10 02:23:20 · answer #8 · answered by SOAPGIRL22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huh.. Well, I am surprised that you were able to date her, they usually do not allow dating outside of their own...
Well, learn the customs and convert!
Good luck!
2007-04-10 02:21:00 · answer #9 · answered by DuSteDShaDoW 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know just dont come knocking on my damn door. LOLOL jk my uncle did that when he married his wife who is jehovahs witness but i dont know if u HAVE to
2007-04-10 02:19:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋