I am 52 years old, and even though I am in good shape...well, here is my question. My boyfriend asked me to help him move a 35 inch tv outside to his car. I went to lift it. My end was very heavy to me. The tv slipped out of my hands and I dropped it. He had a FIT!!!!! He was yelling and cussing and I said I was sorry. I looked at the tv. A litle piece of plastic was chipped off the front, but the tv was okay. He never even asked if I was okay, or anything. I was crying and he told me to go home!!!! A few days later I told him I was sorry for dropping my end, but it really was too heavy. He didn't apologize until I made a big deal out of it. Do I have a right to still be mad? Some have told me he is verbally abusive. What do you think?
2007-04-10 04:01:18 · 21 answers · asked by susan15022001 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dump this guy, if a TV is more important to him than your feelings he is sooooooo not worth it.
2007-04-10 04:05:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the bastard! I don't care if you're in good shape and 22, 32, 42 or 52 a 35 inch TV - is huge and heavy. If he had any semblance of empathy he would have looked after you first and then IF it had gotten damaged had a fit over the TV . An never under any circumstances taken it out on you.
AND YOU SHOULD HAVE NEVER APOLOGIZED A SECOND TIME!
BTW - where were his friends on moving day? Not too many I'm guessing.
Long of the short is that if he treats you like this now - it's only going to get worse.
As they say - "You can do bad all by yourself:"
2007-04-10 04:13:46 · answer #2 · answered by crisagi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I'm glad you're alright; at least you didn't drop on your toes...(ouch!). He sounds very selfish. He's asking a woman and I don't mean that to be sexist to help him lift something heavy, and then gets mad if an accident happens. These are the signs and I've dated men who acted this way: He's asked you to help him move something that's important to HIM, he didn't seem concerned about how you were, you apologized, and it didn't cut it. Those are selfish signs. If others see that he's verbally abusive, and you can't see it, which sometimes one doesn't see things if they're right there in it, he might very well be.
I'd move on. God forbid you really do get hurt, or something bad happenes etc..he's not going to be around, and if he is he'll say how stupid you were for (whatever)....who needs all of that? You don't, trust me =)
2007-04-10 04:13:02 · answer #3 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is a good possibility he is verbally abusive as he threw a fit over an inanimate object and did not care enough about you to ask if you were okay. He obviously doesn't know how to say he is sorry even when he is wrong and yelling at you was wrong. This man has problems admitting he is wrong and will always yell and scream when things don't go his way. He's immature. Drop him.
2007-04-10 04:22:04 · answer #4 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest you start re-evaluating the relationship. If others have told you he is verbablly abusive, they might be right. But try to be objective in forming your own opinion. Clearly when the TV fell, his priorities were not in the right spot. He lashed out at you, then sent you home (just as a dog owner would have sent the dog to his corner). He should have been more concerned if you were okay.
2007-04-10 04:06:45 · answer #5 · answered by ciberpunk1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are 52 years old and you let some idiot ask you to move the TV?? Why didn't you tell him you have a bad back?
I NEVER lift anything heavy - it's beneath my dignity - that's what man are for!
2007-04-10 04:13:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
once I was on visit to my cousin in Franfurt, Germany. They had to repair the old TV. I had to help the man from service to move the TV on the stairs. It falls from my hands and the service person was extremelly mad on me. However, the tv was not broken, only the remote control was broken.
You are not responsible to move the TV. also you have right to refuse such ask for help. because you are not paid for that, you are not responsible for that. your boyfriend should ask another person and not you.
I think that your boyfriend has a problem with his behaviour. From now on you should never offer to him any help. You should be distanced from him and not to be too open with him.
2007-04-10 04:11:44 · answer #7 · answered by Suchness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you have every right. you are 52 years old most people wouldnt even ask your help even if you are a young 52 because that is heavy and your aged no offense;) and then you try and help him you accidently drop it and he yells at you and is more concerned with how his tv is then with how you are id say you have a right to and should use it!
2007-04-10 04:05:40 · answer #8 · answered by Avaria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally! You have every right to be mad at an abusive person. He has no right to yell at you when you went far beyond the call of duty to help. It sounds rough. Try talking it out calmly with him and see if he can see the error of his ways. Hope that helps.
2007-04-10 04:06:29 · answer #9 · answered by Pachinko Machine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is he throwing a fit about, it was only a 35 inch tv its not like it was a $3000 flat screen hd tv. tell him to grow up and if he wants to be a baby about things that you can go find someone else
2007-04-10 04:06:31 · answer #10 · answered by theresa200586 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN far from that SELFISH creep!!!!!! COme on now....you are more important than a TV for good ness sakes!!! He should of asked you first thing if you were ok..him MAD? YELLING>? SWEARING? DO you honestly think you should of said you were sorry more than ONCE? Oh brother..love yourself enough to get that man out of your life NOW..............he won't change and you NEVER will be number one in his life EVER..................mark my words........get happy alone and be able to do all things in your life alone then find a man who LIKES you!!!!!!!!
2007-04-10 04:06:26 · answer #11 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋