Marriage & Divorce - 11 April 2007

We went to a marriage counsellor after I found her love letter to her married classmate (she wrote about things like love and how she wants to be his mistress etc). The counsellor said marriage requires 6 fundamental conditions for it to function. 1 basic trust - she broke it by getting into an emotional affair behind my back 2 Love and affection - these are alienated 3 Sacrifice - she stood like a statue all through my pitfalls and was even amused sometimes at my agony. 4 Communication - Either she argues or contradicts whatever I say. 5 Adjustability - It is the last thing on her mind 6 Mutual respect - I even begged her to show me some respect and she said she can't give something she does not have for me. After these 4 sessions of counselling, I am beginning to wonder why I am in love with this monster. She is very controlling and her parents still ask her to divorce me after her love affair as if I am the cause of all her sins. Should I stay with her as our kids will be affected?

2007-04-11 23:53:52 · 14 answers · asked by havah 2

2007-04-11 23:48:38 · 18 answers · asked by joyceusua 1

Oh,go on.....It's christmas in a few months!

2007-04-11 23:16:58 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I wanted to know what did my husband told her prosti mistress why did he betrayed me, moreover I wanted to know the real score between my husband and his mistress, do I really have to do this?

2007-04-11 23:06:49 · 15 answers · asked by jazz d way b4 1

whom to marry working girl or housewife

2007-04-11 22:53:07 · 7 answers · asked by jitender g 1

I'm talking about the big O... I have talked to a number of women that have facked orgasm with past partners for a number of different reasons. Sometimes this is only once or twice but I doubt a lot of guys know that women do this.

Most of the women said the same thing.... the guy was taking a long long time so I faked having an orgasm... complete with noise and shaking. The guy never knew the difference.

The other reasons were that they just didn't like the guy and wanted to leave or they weren't getting any pleasure and faked it to not hurt the guy's feelings

So women have you ever faked it? If so what whst were the circumstances?

Guys you need to pay attention... this does happen. But you might never know it. And don't be so cocky and say... I would know if they faked ... remember there are such things as actresses.

I'm guessing that younger women with less partners may not have done this but women with more partners may have a few times.

2007-04-11 22:52:07 · 10 answers · asked by AdviceManHere 5

What should I do to easily get rid off him, honestly I do care for even if he betrays me, but please help me,What should I do to easily forget him and be totally out of his life?

2007-04-11 22:43:31 · 10 answers · asked by jazz d way b4 1

My husband has been talking to other girls behind my back and has left me with a 7month old and i am also 5 weeks pregnant... I really want to get back, or make sure that he doesn't take my kids away.
The girl he was talking to didn't even know about me until i found her number and talked to her, we 3 wayed him and he was asmitting to her the "drama that was going on"
I had callled the police because he smacked me in the face.

2007-04-11 22:32:23 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-11 22:31:32 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

what should i do? it almost seems like he's bipolar.
he gets extremely upset, jealous, suspicious, and annoyed for
absolutely NO reason (i'm not kidding, and i'm not being defensive). example: he'll ask me to call him at 9am the next day. so, I call at 9am and he screams at me for waking him up.
so then i remind him that he asked me to call, and he yells that i should have known he would be sleeping and the ringtone on his phone is too loud. so, diplomatically, i say: "why don't you call me when you wake up, since you want to sleep right now?"
then he'll accuse me of not wanting to talk to him or of having something more important to do. eeek! i've tried not being so submissive when he acts that way, and it only makes the situation worse. other times he is so sweet and tells me he knows he only gets angry in the morning because he's so tired and he's angry at himself and he wants to change. he'll cry and tell me he doesn't know what to do to change. what should I do?

2007-04-11 22:30:44 · 12 answers · asked by eo 2

but then they are shocked when he doesn't want to marry them?

2007-04-11 22:09:02 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-11 21:57:54 · 1 answers · asked by LaPalma 2

I'm kind of a free spirit and love my freedom. I'm 26 and I don't see what all the hype concerning marriage is all about. I guess it's ok if that's what you want. Half of marriages end in divorce anyway these days. Am I nuts for not wanting to get married someday?

2007-04-11 21:56:51 · 15 answers · asked by Jdog1 1

He seems not happy going back with us ''his real family", I observed him always thinking of something too far. Do I have to let HIM GO!!!!

2007-04-11 21:54:12 · 14 answers · asked by jazz d way b4 1

Knew a girl from the web and chat alot. Not long after, found both fall for each other. Decide to meet up and that night, we were together. Since then, she became my girlfriend. We went out at least 3-4 time per week, and spent our precious time together. I did not knew she was married till one day about 2 weeks ago. We were out and saw one of her friends. She was also a friend of mine too. That particular evening, after sent her home. This friend called me and told me about it. That the girl I was with is married and even have a kid. I was shocked to hear that... After much confront from her, she finally admit it. But too late, we have been commiting adultery. And worst still, I have fall for her deeply.. She did told me she love me too. And love the time when we are together. But she still can't let her husband and kid go. Since then, we seldom contact anymore. But still misses her. Am I stupid of doing that...?

2007-04-11 21:02:37 · 20 answers · asked by porridge0000 3

In the process of reconciliation you identify that your lack of trust in your wife hurt the marriage. You make a commitment to work on it and ask her in return to be honest. Next thing, she is lying again and you remember her that her lying hurt your ability to trust her. She becames defensive and treathens to abandon the reconciliation efforts and to leave if you insist in this cause-effect thinking (lying being the cause, diminished trust being the effect). What are your choices?

2007-04-11 20:56:54 · 13 answers · asked by F A 1

recently my friend has told me that she is having problems getting along with her husband. they've been married for years and have children together and now they cant seem to agree on anything. they used to be so good together but now they dont even talk hardly. i dont know what else to say ive been friends with her for a while and i dont like to see her family stressing like this. what can I sy or do to heelp. she comes to me with questions alot and i dont have any good answers.
please hep!!!!

2007-04-11 20:43:55 · 8 answers · asked by Amber 3

dont taunt
my wife says that she can barly feel me when i get in there, what do i do?

2007-04-11 20:43:43 · 25 answers · asked by fobee123 1

I am thinking of asking him to leave, but he is 62 years old, has had heart surgery ten years ago and is diabetic. He seems to be aggresive now, and kind of a type that gets angry when I just dont flat out agree with him, he raises his voice and at first I was startled but now I yell back. I really dont even like him now, when he is really cranky I feel afraid to go to sleep, Now am I being a fool, I am considered a smart, level headed person normally, I dont want to put up with this any longer. How do I approach this, should I go away and leave a letter or tell him in a restaurant , I have told him he is cranky, and that we are not happy, then he is ok for a few days. I dont have a long time and I enjoy life and nature and people and kids. oh I am going on and on. Can you help with ideas, even a little, thank-you

2007-04-11 20:42:40 · 6 answers · asked by spuds_suds 3

he says thats why he goes on myspace to tell other girls that he loves them. i hate it so bad i want to rip my hair out sometimes.... how do you deal with this? im trying to keep our marriage lasting but im starting to disconnect when he wants affection... what do you think?

2007-04-11 20:04:53 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

me.he keep on telling me that he wants to grow old w me,he loves me more than himself and things like that.but whenever we had a fight over serious or just so trivial things just like last night,he told me that is why he's not too keen on marrying me coz he's not so sure if he wants me as his wife.so,iasked him this morning about what he said last night...i also told him if that's the case,then he should let go of me...and he said no!he's not letting go.i dont know why?is it possible to stick w someone whom you dont intend to marry?i was really hurt.right now my mind's racing,i want to break up w him and start a new chapter of my life.

2007-04-11 20:03:10 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

If you know for some reason in your gut that you do not see yourself with the same person for your life why even marry them. I know that it is better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all. But really why marry someone if you do not see yourself growing old together?

One other thing why marry if you know you cannot be faithful to your spouse?

2007-04-11 20:01:49 · 11 answers · asked by Livinrawguy 7

A close friend recently divorced her husband due to his infidelity. Only 3 weeks later he married his mistress. Their local pastor married the new couple and now my friend wants to leave the church. The new couple are no longer members BUT my friend feels betrayed by all involved.

Was the pastor wrong in marrying the couple.. He explained to my friend that he and the gentleman have been friends for over 30 years and that he believes that God would want them to be married... less they live in the sinful manner? (Adultery)

My friend is planning to leave the congregation because she feels that the pastor should not have gotten involved and should have NOT married the couple.

What are your views.. Only God can judge this situation, right?.. How would Jesus handle this? Who is at fault - if any? Is man being too judgmental.

2007-04-11 19:55:39 · 16 answers · asked by KeraniBai 3

2007-04-11 19:48:33 · 24 answers · asked by Jessica H 1

2007-04-11 19:40:42 · 16 answers · asked by F A 1

i think it is healthy and normal, as long as it's truly innocent. my friends and i are taking a poll.

2007-04-11 19:32:45 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been married to my husband for 7 years, and for the nine years that we've been together he has been my best and pretty much only friend. I have a girl friend who I've known since high school but she's only really looked at me as a back up friend and never has invited my husband and I to join her and whomever she's with at the time for drinks/dinner/etc... Even though we've invited her numerous times (she and her date do come, but never reciprocate). My husband has aquaintances that he socializes with at occasional sporting events but that's all. We are happy though and very much in love. In fact, I enjoy doing everything with him and he feels the same way. But I can't help but wonder if we're doing something wrong here. Like it's unhealthy not to have other friends. I'm shy anyway and although my husband is more outgoing he's never really made any true friends since he moved here nine years ago--except for me of course. Any thoughts?

2007-04-11 19:29:17 · 19 answers · asked by lookforlight 1

My husband got upset at me for just "looking at my ex-boyfriends myspace page." I thought that it wasn't a biggy considering that I'm married." He feels as though I should careless and makes the comment that "I have still have something for him" which I don't have anything for him because he cause a lot of stress in my life. I was just looking as I do with other pages. I broke up with my ex b/f at the end of 2003!

2007-04-11 19:23:04 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-11 19:13:58 · 12 answers · asked by Ernest A 1

i had an arranged marrage my husband left me once he came out to america..ive been looking for someone to spend my life with but when they find out i was married they look the other way. why is this

2007-04-11 19:08:54 · 17 answers · asked by jeeven0 1