He seems not happy going back with us ''his real family", I observed him always thinking of something too far. Do I have to let HIM GO!!!!
2007-04-11 21:54:12 · 14 answers · asked by jazz d way b4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please just run for the hills!
2007-04-11 21:56:49 · answer #1 · answered by LaPalma 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When I was 24 my daughter was 14 months old and my son had just turned 3 weeks old My husband at the time use to go out with with his exgirlfriend while I was home with the children.I would send him out for diapers on Monday(we lived way out in the country) and a week later he would show up with them.Meanwhile i would pay a kind neighbor to take me into town to get diapers.sometimes it would be a 4 mile walk with 2 children one the back one ina stroller One day with both children in tow I caught him with exgirlfriend.The next day I kicked him out I got and apartment in the city with my 2 children.Remember now 14 months old and 3 weeks And did what I had to do for my children and I to survive We survived and are all still her today.You have to ask that simple question am I better off with him or without him.My ex told me I would never make it without him .22 years later and honey I made and so can anyone else out there because we are worth it
2007-04-11 22:19:18 · answer #2 · answered by chameleon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well.. it is no longer your decision alone.
It is a Familiy decision as a whole. Discuss with your family if they are old enough to understand and make a collective decision. In this case you have the support of the family what ever decision is being made...
Having declared or NOT really does not matter. The fact is that both of you are still married. He can deny a thousand times but you still are married. Do not be bothered by such remarks.
if yoyur husband means what he say... then he would act on it to go for divorce. But you do not have to ignite the "FIRE" for him to make him do it.
take it easy... and focus on your family, and if he is true and genuine enough... he will be back to the family again. Do not wast any energy on such matters with him.. Let nature takes its course...
take care..
2007-04-11 22:02:48 · answer #3 · answered by trymejames 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If thats how he feels then I would let him go. How could you ever trust him again? Life is too short to live your life knowing that he would rather be with someone else and it also means that there is someone else better for you in this world. It doesn't always happen right away but it does happen and the sooner that you make the change the sooner your life will get better. Try not to dwell on a bad situation and think positive.
Trust me I've been there more than once.
2007-04-11 22:02:37 · answer #4 · answered by Misha 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to stay with him? He says that his marriage is void that speaks volumes about how much he values his family. Why would want to have that kind of negativity with you? Let him go talk to an attorney to protect yourself and build a good life for you and your kids.
2007-04-11 22:00:46 · answer #5 · answered by Deep Thought 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your brain knows the answer to that, just your heart still holding on. He is physically there with the family - mind elsewhere. Your family deserves better.
2007-04-11 23:09:21 · answer #6 · answered by hoyden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he seems to be already gone. isn't he filing for divorce for financial reasons?
If he is so distant why do you want to keep him? it's better to cut down your losses now. he's already too involved with his mistress, if he is talking about your marriage to her family...
at this point better to be alone rather than waiting...
2007-04-11 22:03:30 · answer #7 · answered by Nadinette 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you have a husband "to keep" anymore. It's not a matter of you "letting" him do anything, he's already gone without your blessing.
Move on.
2007-04-11 23:26:17 · answer #8 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's already left. Do you really want to be with someone who obviously doesn't want to be with you?
I'm not saying you won't get lonely, but aren't you lonely more right now? It isn't like he's really there with you. I think I'd rather be lonely alone, and have to opportunity to meet someone else, than to be lonely and with someone.
2007-04-11 22:49:15 · answer #9 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd ask myself the question, "If I do NOT let him go, then what will I have?" It sounds like he's already made the decision. Why isn't he filing for divorce if he's already left you?
2007-04-11 21:57:47 · answer #10 · answered by charmedchiclet 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't have to let him go. You can spend the rest of your life chasing him if you want but it wouldn't be very practical.
2007-04-11 22:01:41 · answer #11 · answered by Big Dick McGee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋