me.he keep on telling me that he wants to grow old w me,he loves me more than himself and things like that.but whenever we had a fight over serious or just so trivial things just like last night,he told me that is why he's not too keen on marrying me coz he's not so sure if he wants me as his wife.so,iasked him this morning about what he said last night...i also told him if that's the case,then he should let go of me...and he said no!he's not letting go.i dont know why?is it possible to stick w someone whom you dont intend to marry?i was really hurt.right now my mind's racing,i want to break up w him and start a new chapter of my life.
2007-04-11 20:03:10 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ego.
if we lose it, we are nothing but dead.
u do wat ever u like until it never kills ur ego.
don't ignore your true self, recognise it, empower it.
give first priority to yourself then others...
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2007-04-11 20:11:52 · answer #1 · answered by Shrini 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The thing is, you and your bf are already "living" the married life, minus the piece of paper that binds you as man and wife. The way I see it, he's gotten too comfortable with the way things are and is not too sure if he wants to take it to the next level. Better think about it carefully and make up your own mind as far as how long you're willing to wait around on him to make up his mind.
2007-04-11 20:18:52 · answer #2 · answered by Maricel S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel right now, if it was a one off incident then its fine but if he told you everytime he quarrel with you it just show what he really thinks of you and your prospect of being his wife. Don't be fooled by those lovey dovey 'i want to grow old with you', he's just dangling the carrot. Leave, you don't want to spend ten years with a guy and realised that he just waiting for another hot young thing to marry.
2007-04-11 20:19:27 · answer #3 · answered by dreamymoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in this same situation with my guy. We dated for 2 yrs., lived together for a year, got engaged and then he waited 5 yrs to marry me! I thought about leaving him after he backed out of wedding plans (twice), but waited him out instead. It was the best decision I ever made. We finally got married 8 yrs after getting together!
Sometimes they are worth waiting for. You just need to decide if your guy is or not.
2007-04-11 20:32:22 · answer #4 · answered by Mom23 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good u must do it!!! 3 years it is too much to him, do not breack ur life, sooner or letter u ll divorce, so do it now! I ve done, and now i am very happy of that, but of corse i have some regret for him, cose i gave him my all, and he didnt appreciate its true value... but i think i ll soon forget about his presence in my life... :) Good Luck
2007-04-11 20:11:01 · answer #5 · answered by Guly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if marriage is what you intend to get out of this relationship then tell him so. make it clear that you dont intend to have a permanent relationship with him that wont lead to marriage. if he's not ok with this then its high time you found yourself another man who'll love you, drawbacks and all.
2007-04-11 20:45:34 · answer #6 · answered by ms_tarryfic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Got milk? If the milk is free.. Why buy the cow? He is getting all the wifely duties without the wifely obligations... Beware..
2007-04-11 20:07:34 · answer #7 · answered by BigWashSr 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love sucks and you cannot win.
The only way you two can survive is if you can compromise. That is it. Do you talk or agrue? That is the key. Listening.
2007-04-11 20:16:53 · answer #8 · answered by javarick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why live in when you do not have the intention to get married?
Why married just because of a peace of paper?
2007-04-11 20:32:12 · answer #9 · answered by trymejames 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This all depends on what you truly want. If you really want to be married, this is not the guy for you.
2007-04-11 20:30:01 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does not look too promising for the future, maybe it should change now while you can do something about it.
2007-04-11 20:07:41 · answer #11 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋