Marriage & Divorce - 11 April 2007

my fiance of 2 yrs has had money issues for the last 5 yrs(from a bad divorce)he inherited 20k last month,enough to pay off his debt.he told me he was going to do just that the problem is he has not.instead hes been buying expensive toys for his car($900),spending $500 on baseball tickets for him and his son,and numerous things here and there.when i asked him about this he said he has not had anything for him self in over 5 yrs and wants to spend some of the money on himself.I feel he should 1st pay off his debt then whats left spend it on these things.I will say i am maybe a little jealous as i have stood by him for 5yrs and with all this money he has not even given me flowers to say thanks for sticking this out with me.plus the reason we are not married is he can't "afford" to pay for his share (half) of the wedding about 6 k.

2007-04-11 09:16:37 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous

Does your Husband confide everything to you ? The good/bad.. Do you feel your husband is afraid to tell you all?

2007-04-11 09:12:09 · 23 answers · asked by MJ 6

2007-04-11 08:50:28 · 13 answers · asked by tic22 2

My newlywed wife and I are dealing with trust issues and fidelity. She carried on a relationship into our marriage for a couple years. Got busted and lied about it on 2 dozen occasions and actually left me for the guy but we are working it out. We are both "mourning our single lives" but I am trying to work on our intimacy. She complained that I was not romantic enough and it drove her to another man but now I am trying by leaps and bounds to connect with her she is pulling away. When she would get distant before she was in love and starry eyed with this other guy. Now she is distant again and I am curious as to whats going on. She says I am insecure and I say it is because she lied and keeps being dishonest. Am I wrong to want to know whats going on? I don't want to give my heart 1,000% and she is just halfway in. I need to know.

2007-04-11 08:49:46 · 22 answers · asked by Magnus01 3

My husband went to a strip club with friends. He came home with lipstick on the inside of his collar and the front of his shirt. I thought there was no contact allowed?

2007-04-11 08:49:01 · 27 answers · asked by Wendy 1

i dont wanna go to my daddies in the summer,he has not been in my life much and from what i have in memory of him he was soo mean to us and my mommie,i have a step dad i love alot and i really dont want to have anything to do with my birth dad,but i dont want mommie to get in trouble if i dont go to arizona .my mom filed the divorce not him,we live in teaxas,he is getting married in may to someone i dont know and she practices wiccan i dont wanna be around that,i love god and my real daddy cusses him all the time,can someone help me,i dont want mommie to get in trouble for something i want and not her

2007-04-11 08:45:55 · 17 answers · asked by TAM 2

I am looking for a special present that conveys how very special she is and how much I appreciate being married to her. We are a well-educated, middle class couple in our 40s. Any good ideas?

Thanks!

2007-04-11 08:42:52 · 74 answers · asked by Gaucho 1

i recently posted that i met a 28 year old and im 17 and he wants to have realtionship with me when i turn 18 were friends now but i do agree on with people told that i should date someone my own age because he has a five year old but today he told me his is starting to fall in love with me. I dont know what to do now can anybody give me advice?

2007-04-11 08:18:44 · 10 answers · asked by airplanes 3

which took longer to recover from?

2007-04-11 08:14:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 36 yoa male, w/ 2 children in Oklahoma City(recently moved in the middle of the night.) I was unemployed in Missouri for last 5 months due to either effort on my part or local economy of jefferson city mo(40,000 people)

My wife of 14 years, 33 yoa, met a guy at a bar (she didnt tell she was stopping there also. (she says she went there to tell him she didnt want anything to do with him) was caught by him calling me at hometo pick her up and that she was drunk (possible medication interaction from pysch meds) and needed to be picked up by this guy.


Am I wrong to leave, w. my kids I know women leave if the toilet seat is up, but I think It was acceptable....Cheating is cheating. I havent filed for divorce, but we continue to talk about this


What do I do? (she has since been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder)

2007-04-11 08:14:34 · 15 answers · asked by pauljpray 2

2007-04-11 08:14:25 · 3 answers · asked by s914thurber 1

2007-04-11 08:10:37 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been married for 14 years and have 3 kids. 2 girls ages 13, 10 and 1 boy who's 4. Well, I'm not happy in the relationship and haven't been for a long time. We don't really fight..we don't really talk and everything we have is petty much separate. Years ago, she cheated on me. Once after 2 years of marriage and the other time after 8 years of marriage. We were separated when the 2nd one happened but I didn't find out about it till we got back together. We were separated about 9 months. I just hate to divorce because of what it may do to the kids. I spend the most time with them and I take care of the whole family finances by myself. The relationship isn't bad for the kids really because we don't fight but I just hate being miserable all the time. I'm not sure what to do.

2007-04-11 08:08:18 · 35 answers · asked by Confused 1

My husband's uncle died 6 months ago. We were both very close to him. I take care of opening all the mail in the household, paying all bills etc - my husband never even looks at the bills or mail. So a letter came addressed to my husband. I honestly didn't realize what it was , I just opened it out of habit. It was his uncle's will. My husband is upset with me for opening it. Was I wrong?

2007-04-11 07:52:29 · 32 answers · asked by casey308 2

I have recently started a part time business selling adult toys. I am doing really well at it. Not to mention having a blast. I live in a small town and go to a small church. I am concerned what others may think of me once word gets out. Is this considered a clean living?

2007-04-11 07:50:44 · 8 answers · asked by ymisitnhere 1

ive been with my boyfriend for over 2yrs now. we had a baby girl last sept 2006.. I still have a lot of love for him but i dont know what to do. i cant seem to have interest when he tries to kiss me and have sex with me?

2007-04-11 07:50:16 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

im a little confused on what i should do
ive talk to this girl over 3 yrs
she has cheated on me in the past with my cousin (family!@!)
and i caught her online talking to guys
yea im still with her because she suppost to be carrying my kid (which now im thinking 2 times if its really mine)
what should i do ?

2007-04-11 07:46:55 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous

here is were it starts my boyfriend gets a call from a girl, Jenni, tells her okay great i'll call you back, then for about an hour goes screws around in our garage then comes in the house and tells me he needs to go for a walk and think on somethings, its 9:16. so he goes on his walk no big deal when he comes home at 10:25 he is out of breath and puts his cell phone next to me on the arm of it not even 3 sec later it rings and its jenni asking if she can come by and say hi. later after she left i checked his cell phone and he called her at 9:25 then she called at 10:25. do you think it was just a clever set up to sneak around behind my back or do you think im just blowing things out of perportion.

2007-04-11 07:39:25 · 14 answers · asked by mystic 5

When your bf or husband is performing oral ,does he also go to the back with his lips and tounge ?Do you think that is normal?

2007-04-11 07:31:06 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been seperated from my spouse for about 4 years now, both friends, and in seperate long-term relationships. (in Vancouver area) I have a young son with my spouse, that i take full care of, father has play visits occasionally on the weekend. I want to get a divorce, but really have no clue how to do it. And i have no money for lawyers. the divorce will be clean, and nothing to contest, but i do want to file for full custody of my son, as i already make all the daily choices anyhow. where to go? what to do? who to call?

2007-04-11 07:30:19 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I met my husband 8 years ago when I was 15 yrs old, we have been happily married for two years. He saw my sisters grow up. I am going through a very difficult situation. My 18 yr old sister is telling me that my husband has been sexually harrassing her... At first I believed her since this is something that no one can lye about. But after talking with my husband he assures me that this hasn't happened. Of course he'll deny this, but let me add this, my sister has always been perfectly comfortable with him around and she would even look for him when she needed advise, or someone to go to the gym with, wanted to sleep over at our house to watch movies. Now she tells me that she was afraid of saying something and she was acting normal so she would not hurt me, but how can you act normal with a person that is sexually harrasing you and not be intimidated. Who should I believe. I see truth in my husband's eyes but my sister accuses him of something extremely serious.

2007-04-11 07:28:57 · 14 answers · asked by Lil 2

Is it wrong for husband and wives to have email accounts that
the other does not know about?

2007-04-11 07:23:13 · 30 answers · asked by longtimewife 2

For instance,sometimes they use almost half naked women body as meaning for love...what does love got to do with women especially naked ones?

2007-04-11 07:18:49 · 1 answers · asked by truth set free 1

My husbadn of 3 years, 7 years together (2 kids, and 1 on the way) has decided to rekindle his relationship w/ a girl he had a 1 night stand with 3 months ago. He at first had no feelings for her, but now that she came back in the picture, he has devolped an infatuation with her that has led him to leave me, and run off with her. This happened just two weeks ago, although they stared seeing eachother again about 3-4 weeks before he left me. They just signed the lease of their new apartment, and now I have to allow my kids over his house and in that situation. I am devoted to him, and am praying constantly for God to restore him, and heal him so that not only may he come back to me, but come back a better man, because of the process he is going through. I would take him back in a heartbeat if he was truly a changed man, and commited to couneling. I am trying to KILL him with kindness, I even packed up somefood for him at their new apartment because he said he didnt have any. He thanked me for being there and happy for him, but truth be told its a front. However it allows me to put up the act that I dont want him back, which is supposed to give lead to him seeing what he is really missing. Like I said its only been two weeks, but its been hell for me. I am so very hopeful he comes back to me, how do I hang in there faithfully beliving in my marriage, when all evidence points to him not returning?

2007-04-11 07:16:42 · 24 answers · asked by AntzaGurl 3

2007-04-11 07:10:09 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

if u & ur best friend fell in love...but he is married & he still luvs his wife & he doesnt know how to handle the situation becoz he doesnt want to hurt either of them.
his wife is now suspicious of the best friend .
they tried to break off their relationship on many occasions & just remain best friends, but, whenever they meet it's a different story..the chemistry is always there & they just cant seem to put their feelings aside.
how can this be dealt with??

2007-04-11 07:08:34 · 13 answers · asked by tigerlily 2

I love my mom, I really do, but it's gotta stop. I've asked politely, pointing out that I've been divorced for nearly 2 years and I've happily moved on and remarried. Here's the deal: Actions, viewpoints, and expressions of my new husband are constantly compared by her to what my ex would have done/thought/said. He's not even in my life anymore, so there's no proximity that would be spurring on this obsession. When we talk on the phone (we live in diff't states), she feels the need to verbalize her compare and contrast exercises. I can't even go 2 weeks without this taking place at least once in a phone conversation. The last time I asked her to please stop doing that she acted upset. Well guess what. I am upset and tired of this. I don't want to CONSTANTLY be reminded of my first failed marriage through her unsolicited observations. How do I make her stop???

2007-04-11 07:07:00 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do you think calling the lines is cheating, wen you have been in a relationship for over 8 years?

2007-04-11 07:01:11 · 23 answers · asked by cheech 1

We have been married 3+ years, together for for over seven years. I still love her, and I have no intention of being unfaithful. Our relationship is fine, no problems beyond the occasional "standard" issues. We get along well. And she is very caring toward me.

Is this all that love is? A lot of excitement and heat at first, only to slowly fade away over the years to a kind of "comfortable-ness"?

2007-04-11 07:00:58 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

when they both come from a different mother and father? Just thought of this when watching lost.

2007-04-11 07:00:02 · 15 answers · asked by Glenn M 1