if u & ur best friend fell in love...but he is married & he still luvs his wife & he doesnt know how to handle the situation becoz he doesnt want to hurt either of them.
his wife is now suspicious of the best friend .
they tried to break off their relationship on many occasions & just remain best friends, but, whenever they meet it's a different story..the chemistry is always there & they just cant seem to put their feelings aside.
how can this be dealt with??
2007-04-11 07:08:34 · 13 answers · asked by tigerlily 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's going to blow up eventually. You can either continue to have an affair, knowing it can't go on forever, or let eachother go completely.
Neither choice is great, but that's the reality of it.
Good Luck.
2007-04-11 07:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all end the friendship because it appears you do not have his wife's interests and feelings at heart. Secondly women should not be friends with men especially if the man is married. You need to end the friendship since you can already see that it is just damaging his marriage.
Yes you can love 2 ppl at once or mom and dad.
Come on grow-up stop back stabbing another lady marriage is hard enough without this crap going on!!!!
2007-04-11 07:25:25 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that it is possible to love two people at the same time. I believe that you can have very strong deep feelings for one and love for the other. Either way the best friend needs to sort his feelings out and decide whether he wants to stay with his wife or move on and be with his friend. A good place to start might be a psycologist.
2007-04-11 07:17:42 · answer #3 · answered by Robyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to separate yourself from the situation he is married ! Hes not available for you to truly love and he cant truly love you because he is in love with someone else also if you were his wife how would you feel most likely he would do the same thing to you CHEAT! you guys are not best friends anymore your committing adultery be honest with yourself and move on ! there is no chance for a relationship between you two he is already in one !
2007-04-11 07:29:23 · answer #4 · answered by Jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can be true to himself. He can't make a decision because "he doesn't want to hurt either of them" he is choosing to remain straddling the fence. He needs to choose who it is he wants to be with. In addition, to be fair, the women involved should do the same. IF his wife finds out about his unfaithfulness, she has to ask herself the same question. If she chooses to work it out, then this becomes their issue. If he continues to see the other girl, then it is she that should ask.
This is not a "blame" situation. Everyone involved is responsible for his/her own actions. Him not being able to decide is not the reason either of the women should feel "insecure". They feel insecure due to what they allow to continue to be done to them. That is no one elses' fault or responsibility. We choose what we will and will not put up with.
Either way it goes, everyone involved needs to be true to themselves. How can you make someone else happy if you are not? And I mean TRULY happy. Not "I really don't like knowing he is in bed with his wife but I will accept it anyway" happy, but "I am comfortable with, and will accept, everything about this other person, like it or not" happy.
So, to "deal" with this, each person needs to be real with themselves, announce their decision, and stick to it. Nothing beats the truth, and the truth MUST be respected.
2007-04-11 07:25:55 · answer #5 · answered by swilson_lewis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I dont believe so. One allows themselves to do things they desire........whether it is good, bad, right, or wrong.
The 3rd party needs to bow out, and make a free independent fulfilling life for themself. And the married couple needs the opportunity to make the most of their marriage.
2007-04-11 07:23:49 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can love two ppl at the same time but you can only give you heart to one
2007-04-11 10:08:15 · answer #7 · answered by Valentina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop torturing the man and get a different life, you'll find another "soul mate".
2007-04-11 09:17:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can but to a certain level. I love my husband but I also love another man. I love my husband because he's the father of my kids. I love the other man because he makes me feel loved and appreciated.
2007-04-11 07:59:23 · answer #9 · answered by anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If somebody wants respect and doesn't want to share your affections, how can it be love?
Love isn't selfish. Love takes two.
2007-04-11 07:26:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋