which took longer to recover from?
2007-04-11 08:14:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
JR, for me they are both hard. Once I love, it's so deep that it never leaves me. Any man I have loved, I still love to this day and still think about. My first husband broke my heart. There is not a day that goes by that I do not think of him. I had to move on because I had to love myself enough to do that. My loved one is gone and so is my first love and neither of them are ever coming back and that is a fact.
2007-04-11 10:11:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My divorce was in 1975 so that was a long time ago and have since gotten remarried and raised a family. Three years before that my dad died when I was 20 years old. Life goes on and gets better, though all the older people in my family have all passed away. That is harder to get over because you never see them again, though I have never seen my old spouse for over 30 years. And I no longer can have anyone with life experience to take my problems to. It was especially hard when my mom died a year ago, she was the last one.
You can always fall in love again and it will probably be better than the first one, it is amazing what experience teaches us.
2007-04-11 15:26:33 · answer #2 · answered by Tigger 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lost as in they passed away?
If it was the case, I'd say it would take longer to recover from the loss of my loved one.
If not, it also would depend on the situations. Was the divorce a bitter and messy one? How did you lose your loved one?
2007-04-11 15:20:57 · answer #3 · answered by ce 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't recover from the loss of a loved one, its impossible. You can easily get over a divorce.
2007-04-11 17:13:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The loss of loved ones. Do you ever recover?
2007-04-11 15:24:13 · answer #5 · answered by Lavender 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think the divorce took longer than loss of a loved one. i am not saying the divorce hurt more because i don't think that a divorce could hurt more but that the mixtures of feelings following a divorce are so confusing. in death we don't usually blame ourselves, we feel freer to forgive, let go, love, miss, regret, and cherish our memories of that person. the grief can be overwhelmingly painful but the emotions are so pure. in divorce there is loss, regret, anger, confusion, broken dreams, fault finding, splitting, custody, too much to even sort out. do you cry, do you be relieved, who keeps the couple friends, it isn't just about loss and grief and learning to move on, you have to purposely seperate yourself from that persons life. in death it is done without your choice.
2007-04-11 15:44:00 · answer #6 · answered by adelaide 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
With the divorce for some reason I saw it happening and knew it was something I had to do ... when I lost my boyfriend - it felt like the future was ripped away from me ... and we'll never know what our relationship could have been ... !
2007-04-11 15:49:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce, and the reason why....in divorce, that person has stated they no longer want you. In death, that person had no choice in the matter. If they had their way, they would still be there with you. Divorce is tougher, than death of a loved one.
2007-04-11 15:19:54 · answer #8 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm getting over a divorce now...
I'll never get over the loss of my mother
2007-04-11 19:33:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are really both the same....a divorce is a death, a certain death of plans or dreams. a love dead and gone. The grief of it is equal to the death of a body of a loved one
2007-04-11 15:48:28 · answer #10 · answered by debbie v 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋