is receiving a lap dance in a strip club considered cheating when he has lipstick residue on his collar?

Question

My husband went to a strip club with friends. He came home with lipstick on the inside of his collar and the front of his shirt. I thought there was no contact allowed?

Answer 1

To look is one thing...touching, or being touched is something entirely different. To me, it shows a lack of respect for you and your marriage. You need to tell him how it made you feel, and set some sort of boundries with him. Good luck.

Answer 2

I would consider it inappropriate behavior at least.I know a couple of strippers and even when getting a lap dance they aren't supposed to have contact like kissing with the customer.In fact they have strict policies against that such behavior.Because of the fine line between stripping and prostitution.My one friend got in trouble for giving one of her customers a kiss on the cheek for his birthday darning a lap dance.She was charged a fine by her boss and was made work the slow club hours for a week.So if he has lipstick on his collar odds are the dancer didn't do it . someone else did or she did it at a different time than the dance.That is if the club he went to is legitimate club and not a front for proposition.Anyway you look at it.He is wrong for it.If he wasn't into what was going on or had any respect for your feelings he would have pushed her away.

Answer 3

Yes, I would definitely consider it cheating. If he's married to you, why would he want to go out with his friends and go to strip clubs and getting lap dances? It sounds like he's very immature. I don't know how long you've been married but I know you could do much better! I only know that *I* would be extremely pissed off if my husband came home in that condition. He's immature; he's a married man now, and he's not a single dude hanging with his buddies (or shouldn't be). I think you should confront him on this. This could turn into something serious and in the long run, not good for the future of your marriage.

Answer 4

are you sure he really went to a strip club???? i'm not a man basher, but it could just be a story. there are a few places where there is some contact, and if he paid for a vip dance in a private area, then yes, there is contact, but usually the guy cannot touch, no matter what. it's the dancer that makes all the contact. but come on! lipstick all over his shirt? is he an idiot???

my husband has been to many strip clubs all over the U.S., before we were married.
i have had a few lap dances when the chippendale dancers were in town, before we were married.
now we only go to see female strippers TOGETHER. and that only happens a couple times a year, with friends. although it's not as fun since us girls pick the dancers apart, but the guys get to sit there and watch. imo, its harmless when you go together, but its a disaster if you go alone.

and as for asking his friends...please...do you really think they are going to tell you what he did? would you tell on your girlfriend?

sounds like your guy is in for a few sleepless nights of long drawn out talks. guys hate that, but they do deserve it once in a while.

Answer 5

It was a strip club. You're lucky he didn't come home with an STD. If you took it to divorce court, though, it would not be considered cheating. If you don't want your husband going to places like that, tell him. But, um, make sure you aren't going to watch male strippers at the same time. Lots of luck.

Answer 6

I would kick my husbands A S S and tell him if he enjoys that so much go move in there and get the hell out. This excuse that men use "it's just to blow off steam, relax, blah blah blah" doesn't cut it with me. Why, if a man is happy and loves his wife, would he even want to go look other naked women, get lap dances just to get a hard on, etc? I told my husband he can go to strip clubs as long as I can find a man that will dance naked for me and give ME a lap dance and shove his hard "you know what" in my crouch and get ME all horney.

Okay, so I'm passionate about this. I've had a bad experience. Sorry people!

Answer 7

Have him take you sometime and get a lap dance in the vip section. no contact allowed hahahahahahahaha you should check his undies for lipstick too. I have been in strip clubs and seen guys roll a $20 bill up and stick it in there mouth and the nude dancer squat over him and she comes off his face with the bill clamped between her lips and it ain't the ones on her mouth. It's cheating plain and simple since i have been married i have not been to one out of respect for my wife ,kids and myself.

Answer 8

Lap dances are just the same as sex, without actual penetration. Most guys put on a condom in the bathroom before they receive the dance and then are able to be aroused and stimulated to the point of ejaculation. Yes, its cheating.
He is married, and shouldnt be allowing another woman to touch him or nibble on his neck. Plain and simple.
Good luck to u.

Answer 9

No contact from patron to dancer but not dancer to patron. If he got a lapdance, she was all over him and probably ran her lips across his shirt. Whether that's cheating in your book, it's up to you but I bet he didn't do much more there. Now if he came back with the lipstick on his boxers that would be a different story

Answer 10

Tell him to stay out of the clubs or get out of the marriage. From my experience, even though there are rules against touching, as long as jonny law isnt in the place at the time, those hoes do whatever to whomever they want, and it's all for a price! And the price is usually your marriage!

Answer 11

i in my opinion do not evaluate it dishonest, yet you will discover some women persons that isn't consider me. i assume if the shoe replaced into on the different foot, might you think approximately your spouse dishonest if she replaced into at a male strip club and she or he had a lap dance. the two way, i don't see it as dishonest, this is only entertainment.