Marriage & Divorce - 11 April 2007

To start this off, I'm 24, this will be my second marriage (his first) and I have two children from my previous marriage. My ex and I had a horrible split and it's made my parents a little judgemental. We've been dating on/off for the past 3 years. He's recently proposed, I accepted. Without even meeting, my parents have formed a negative judgement based on the issue he's 11 years my senior. Now I need to know how to break the news to my parents with out them disowning me. He's wonderful Mr. Right. Loves my kids, accepts my past, and wants to build a future. I've told them this and it all seems to fall on deaf ears. Need help finding the right words.

2007-04-11 06:58:45 · 11 answers · asked by C_M 2

Here is an interesting article on the subject.

http://medsocial.com/blog.aspx?blogaction=viewblog&show=341

2007-04-11 06:54:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is the hurt you experience when losing somebody you love,worth risking not ever taking a chance on Love?

2007-04-11 06:49:15 · 23 answers · asked by shakayrob 2

I live in Ohio (Butler County) and my job is wanting me to move to Florida. The mother has visitation rights but I have custody. Do I need a lawyer and/or could she fight it? Even if it's best for my family???

2007-04-11 06:49:13 · 10 answers · asked by 987splat 1

My current boyfriend has an ex who will not go away. He has not been in any sort of contact with her since Dec. 2005, when we met. She lives a state away, so at least she is not showing up at our house. All of her harassment is done on-line. When we first started dating she would send him really nasty emails, ie - she was going to report their dog as stolen to the police (which she let him have when they split). She's said she will committ fraud with his information 9she said she had an old copy of his social security card).... sometimes she will just send random emails about what is going on in her life. He has never responded, not once. She'll beg him to contact her because her mom "is on the verge of dying and she's so sad." He washed his hands of her 2 years ago when he came back to their house once day and there were a bunch of used condoms in the trash.She has even hooked up with a new guy and is getting married. What can I legally do here?we just want to be left alone, FOR GOOD!

2007-04-11 06:46:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

It is easy to say just leave but what if the history between these two people is so intense and long that it is not so easy to just throw in the towel? How does someone get over the ultimate act of betrayal and learn to love and trust that person again with the passion they had before the act? How long is the healing process? Is it normal to want to know every single detail? Will the feelings of worthless go away? Is it normal for the person with whom did not cheat to feel guilty? What does the spouse who commited the act have to do to earn trust back in his favor?

I want to know the answers to these things from those who have dealt with this and survived. How long have you been together after the act of adultery and has it ever to your knowledge happened again. If you commited the act, did you feel guilty? Did you earn your right to a place in the other persons life? How did you do it?

Thanks everyone!

2007-04-11 06:44:46 · 12 answers · asked by jennanna 4

She says she loves her husband with all her heart , she doesn't find him sexualy attractive anymore. She says she feels like it's living with a room mate! Is there any way she can feel more sexual to him?

2007-04-11 06:37:39 · 28 answers · asked by BlondGrl 2

My hubby has a friend that he's know for like 15 yrs. This guy recently lost his place to live and my husband said he could stay a couple of days... well it's been a month and he's STILL in my house! I've told my hubby several times that I don't want him there any more, you know the old saying "fish & house guests stink after three days."
How can I express to my husband the importance of getting this guy out? I am ready to pack up my kids and my stuff and tell my husband when his friend is gone then his family will come home. Is that to drastic?

2007-04-11 06:36:19 · 23 answers · asked by littlemama_rules 2

Okay...when Schuyler and I first got together he didn't cheat by kissing or doing anything with her,he cheated by spending time with her.We broke up...then got back together a month later and he cheated again...well we broke up...about two months later we got back together a month into our relationship he cheated four times,I got him back by cheating two.Since we lived together he asked me to marry him and express how sorry he is for hurting me in so many ways...we have been together for 6 months with no problems...is it safe now to trust him??

2007-04-11 06:28:47 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was listening to a radio show this morning on my way to work and the DJ asked this question soooooooo many people called. Especially alot of people involved in the miltary anyway has this happened to anyone?

2007-04-11 06:22:31 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-11 06:11:18 · 23 answers · asked by Hopeless 1

I called child support, and they got a report on March 22nd saying that they will receive my ex's taxes and even told me the amount. Does anyone know how long it will take to receive it? This is the first time in 7 years that I finally got his taxes!!! Thanks for your help!

2007-04-11 06:04:34 · 3 answers · asked by Yahoo Answerer 4

2007-04-11 05:27:57 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband have been married 11.5 years and I have an 8 year old son, husband is a good guy, just lazy. I love him but I am not in love with him, should I stay, or should I go? I don't want to rock my sons world. My husband and I went through a custody battle with his ex-wife, and I don't like what it did to my step-son. Don't want my son to go through all of that.

2007-04-11 05:18:55 · 32 answers · asked by kgperry70 2

My husband has a best friend who is a girl from Jr. High, tons of other friends that are of the opposite sex. Hardly, any male friends. He sneaks to talk to them after I go to sleep, never introduces me to them except one. All of his good friends use to be ex girlfriends. Doesn't want to tell me when he talks to them because it "may freak me out." I never thought I was the jeolous type, but its weird to wake up in the middle of night and he is another room whispering. Majority of his friends are out of town, so he isn't cheating. But I am really trying to trust him and not be some jeolous wife. But its getting hard. These are friends before we even started dating.

2007-04-11 05:18:38 · 9 answers · asked by Theresa L 2

My marrage is a wreak, I love this woman dearly but I feel like Im in way over my head when it comes to marrage. I am tha primary provider for the home and every other aspect. I cook I clean and all after a 12 to 13 hr day. My wife is 20 and Im 21 I have taken responsibility for her and the fact that she hasnt been working but I would expect her to pull her weight. I have tried to have her talk it out with a number of perople but she isnt up fpor it. To make a long story short I am verry unhappy and with her but I am happy with someone else. What do I do?

2007-04-11 05:05:36 · 13 answers · asked by madfly2003 1

2007-04-11 05:05:35 · 5 answers · asked by fidoedidoe b 1

So, yesterday my wife told her sister that I had to work late. her sister lives near where I work and called me up to ask if I'd like her to bring me something to eat. Of course, that sounded great to me....I was starving and it was nearly 9:00. So, my sister-in-law shows up with some good food, but also shows up wearing this hot little teddy under her long coat. When she took her coat off, I was shocked. She managed to seduce me and we had at it right there on my desk. She wanted to have a little fantasy thing where she was my secretary, etc. Well, I couldn't resist. We had sex in so many different ways and she even let me enter thru the rear exit...WOW! Should I tell my wife what happened? Were they setting me up? Part of me thinks I should not say anthing and maybe continue with my sister-in-law when we can because I don't see how I could get in trouble. No way she would tell her family, right?

2007-04-11 04:53:37 · 13 answers · asked by smallpenislongtongue 1

So Yesterday was my b-day and my hubby got me a card. Just a card, no flowers, no presents. He also got a cake and he and my kids sang happy bday to me after dinner. He got off from work early, but didnt call me when didnt found me at home. I get home late on tuesdays and he knows it. I wasnt expecting anything big but a little something wouldve been nice.He used to get me really nice gifts,but for st valentine i dindt get much either. A box of chocolate that he ate since im not a big chocolate eater, same thing he will do with the cake he gotfor my bday. I know he isnt broke and he spend hours online shopping for crap for his car. Should I say something? i dont wanna sound like a shollow B*** but i am a little hurt.

2007-04-11 04:51:23 · 14 answers · asked by xadralix 2

of very little contact following my parents divorce and any contact that was actually had was rather cold/hostile. She's recently asked me to be her maid-of-honor when she gets re-married. I told her I wasn't sure, that it was kind of fast for me considering all that's happened between us. She says she understands that, to a point, and that she's been my mother for 20 years and it would mean a lot to her. I just don't know which would be the wisest decision. I really don't know how much I even want to attend the wedding let alone be her m-o-h; it'd probably be better for our mending relationship if I just did it, but we really haven't done a lot yet to let it mend. I know it's been years, but it still hurts when I think about it, but for the most part I just can't feel that mad or upset about it anymore at least not anywhere near to the degree that I used to feel, so maybe I should just let it go. What do you think?

2007-04-11 04:45:09 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Im just curious and at the same time confuse. Sometimes i wonder if i dont love him anymore or if im just with him because off all this time. I dont know if this is normal do you have to feel like the first time you fall in love andwhen your married or does that evolves in something else but still is love. I hope someone can answer my question. I still feel i love him but fwel at the same time that is differrent. I still think our relatioship needs work and i up to do it and for the first time yesterday i really felt that he was up to it too.

2007-04-11 04:43:10 · 24 answers · asked by user 3

Have you ever been "too" close to a female friend of your wife? Not to say you did anything, but did you feel more than attracted to a friend of your wife? Did your wife realize it and say something?

I'm asking because a few years back I think my husband was attracted to my friend. I've never seen him be that way with anyone else, so it's not like I'm always suspicious. But this friend of mine is a better 'housewive' than me and is easy going and fun. I'm fun, but I tend to be a ***** at times (I'll admit it) and I'm clean but not like near-perfect like my friend. They always laugh just a little too much together, ya know what I mean? Well when I confronted him, of course he denied it. Should this worry me? We're happy and are best friends, so am I just tripping out or what?

2007-04-11 04:37:48 · 10 answers · asked by me 3

will be celebrating 13 years of legal obligation to my wife next month. She has been hinting that she wants to get matching wedding band tattoos on our fingers.

First off, I'm not thrilled with the tattoo idea, due to the tattoo = STD connection.

Moreover though, I have a feeling that when I travel overseas on ministry opportunities it will affect my "singles ministry", if you know what I am try to say.

Would other girls, such as Buddhist Asian girls know right away what a tattoo on my wedding finger would mean?

God Bless

2007-04-11 04:37:37 · 17 answers · asked by Kermit 2

I grew up with foreign frugal parents, so I don't go nuts shopping. I buy sales etc. He didn't grow up with a silver spoon, but he loves his boy toys, thinks nothing of getting things that are "important". He wants me to now save on spending when I already do the best I can, which to him and I had been "normal". Help! What do I fix? His views (if so, how?) or what? {I should have spent money before, then I'd have something to cut back on!}

2007-04-11 04:32:56 · 10 answers · asked by Valeria 4

2007-04-11 04:31:52 · 35 answers · asked by nopainsnogains27 1

I was with a girl for 4 years and she moved back home 1 1/2 years ago (to S. America), so it became long distance. Even though I was ready to marry her and was planning on doing it this spring, she told me 3 months ago that she met someone in her country, he proposed, she accepted, and they got married last month. I think she was obsessed with getting married and this is what she did, she didnt think I would do it and made a rash choice. Her family/friends did not agree with her choice, wanted her to marry me. I begged but she wouldnt change her mind. I love her and am in a immense depression. She has been married 6 weeks and last week she emailed my mom out of the blue and said she cries every day for me bcs she knows I am sad. She said she thinks about me and dreams about me each day. Says her husband is trying to help her "forget me." She said she wants to try with her marriage but that she cries every day bcs. she knows I am suffering. Can I write her? Call? Nothing? Girls, advice!

2007-04-11 04:23:53 · 17 answers · asked by robert7 1

Would you cut off you own family if your in laws told you to?
Long story short, our families do not like each other, but my family just wants us to be happy so they're not a problem. But my in-laws from day 1 has made it their mission to tear us apart. Now, they want me to cut off my family. What do I do?
He's more willing to choose his family over me and our unborn child. I told him I'm willing to cut of mine, but I'm cutting of his too then. All I want is to be happy with him. But I'm beginning to think it's a lost cause.

2007-04-11 04:19:40 · 12 answers · asked by hsk 1

Parents got me married when 17 years old to a relative from india also 17 years old. After 17 years of married life and 3 children, I fall in love with a chinese lady in china who is 23 years old, I'm a business man so travel to china every 2 months from UK !! My mind is like matrix now, i realise now what it's like being in love but then think of my 3 kids. Any suggestions ?????

2007-04-11 04:16:21 · 11 answers · asked by saj k 2

After many LONG discussions, I have finally realized that my husband isn't going to budge when it comes to having more children. Together we have a 3 year old son. I also have 2 step kids; a 17 year old stepdaughter who lives with us and a 21 year old stepson that has his own family. I'm only 29 and my husband is 40.

I am having a hard time coming to terms with this decision. For those of you in the same situation, how do you deal with it?
I am not looking for answers about how to change my husband's mind or how to "get pregnant anyway" because I am not a liar or deceitful. I guess I just need help getting over my desire to have another child.

2007-04-11 04:01:35 · 24 answers · asked by kim.san 2

If you've had the same partner for a number of years, how do you know if you still love them. My partner has few faults and I have never entertained the idea of looking at another man. But I can't help wondering how I should feel about him. He doesn't make my heat beat faster like when we first got together, but at the same time although he's not a great communicator, I miss him when he's not in the house. I find I look at him with nice thoughts, a lot. Have I become comfortable with him. Should I be asking myself how I would feel if we were no longer together. Help!!!!!

2007-04-11 04:00:22 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous