2007-04-11 06:11:18 · 23 answers · asked by Hopeless 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They aren't "stuck", they refuse to leave.
2007-04-11 06:24:55 · answer #1 · answered by thersa33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a great woman who has a great education, I married a man I thought that I would be happy with for the rest of my life a little over a year ago. I was told after marriage that I needed to stay at home and be a full time mom, instead of using my hard earned education. I agreed thinking that it would be fine. Now he is a jerk. He is emotionally abusive, and verbally. Though when I confront him he promises that he will change. YEAH RIGHT. That's why I told him last night that I wanted out. He had the brilliant idea that he could buy me jewelery and etc. to make me want to stay. I told him all I wanted was some laundry detergent so that I could wash mine and my children's clothes so I could get the hell out. Why have a stayed this long? Convenience, security, hope, BULL CHIT. I stayed because I felt stuck. I had fear of living on my own and raising my two kids by myself. I had fear that I wouldn't be able to make it with out him. Well guess what, I'm still leaving. He is taking the car and I'm getting the new house. Sucks I know. But the main reason is FEAR.
2007-04-11 16:15:25 · answer #2 · answered by who knows 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most often, it is because they are insecure about themselves - whether it be their looks, their jobs, etc. Mentally abusive men prey on this type of woman; they learn to recognize it and develop relationships with them. After the women committ to the marriage, the abuse usually worsens and the men feed their insecurities. This leads them to feel they are trapped in the relationship because no one else will want them.
It is very hard to see someone you love in this type of situation. The only thing that I know to do is be there as a comfort when needed and build up the woman when you are with her.
2007-04-11 13:18:20 · answer #3 · answered by blue_seahorse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because these women are stuck, they have no power what so ever. WEAK. They need to stand up & be a woman not a crying little girl. A lot of them depend on their beating husband's income, are afraid they will have no place to go if they leave their husband's & most of them are afraid of being killed by their wife beating husband's that they would rather get beat then leave & end up dead. I happen to believe that if a woman would gather up her morals & sense of character, then she can build up the strength to make her life better.
2007-04-11 13:20:11 · answer #4 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because instead of entering a marriage with the intentions of being equal partners by equal contribution to a marriage, some people marry to have someone take care of them. Then they are not prepared to take care of themselves, so they are stuck! The right thing to do would be to get some type of education/jobskill that will allow one to become independent enough to fend for themselves.
2007-04-11 15:48:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in that situation but my husband is changing little by little. I have spoken to so many people about my situation and all that they say is to leave him. I can't do that and would never I love him so much and that is what's keeping me with him. I know that no women should be abused but some just take it because either they are afraid to move on by themselves or because they don't want to have to start all over again with a new person. God Bless to you and your loved ones... :o)
2007-04-11 13:19:33 · answer #6 · answered by mysteryousmtz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they want to be, otherwise they would have left. There is no other explanation since they can leave whenever they want.
Of course you are ignoring an even bigger problem, why are even more good men stuck in marriages with wives that are abusive?
2007-04-11 13:19:48 · answer #7 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a personal problem YOU are having. Most good women are NOT is "mentally abusive" (what ever that means) relationships.
2007-04-11 13:27:18 · answer #8 · answered by Richard Hurtz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone who lived thru it, I can tell you. We start doubting ourselves because we listen to all the negative things that are said to us. I lived in it for 18 years until he finally left. I am now happier and more confident than ever before. Even so, I have moments when I still hear him putting me down. It is a hard cycle to break.
2007-04-11 14:18:33 · answer #9 · answered by nascargirl216 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are generalizing because you feel strongly about the situation you are in. Believe it or not, it works both ways. Many men feel the same way about their wives(which arent necessarily the same couple)
2007-04-11 13:59:03 · answer #10 · answered by cool_2ride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because good women are good inside but when it comes to love they are confused on what is right or wrong
2007-04-11 13:21:34 · answer #11 · answered by killedheart101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋