My current boyfriend has an ex who will not go away. He has not been in any sort of contact with her since Dec. 2005, when we met. She lives a state away, so at least she is not showing up at our house. All of her harassment is done on-line. When we first started dating she would send him really nasty emails, ie - she was going to report their dog as stolen to the police (which she let him have when they split). She's said she will committ fraud with his information 9she said she had an old copy of his social security card).... sometimes she will just send random emails about what is going on in her life. He has never responded, not once. She'll beg him to contact her because her mom "is on the verge of dying and she's so sad." He washed his hands of her 2 years ago when he came back to their house once day and there were a bunch of used condoms in the trash.She has even hooked up with a new guy and is getting married. What can I legally do here?we just want to be left alone, FOR GOOD!
2007-04-11 06:46:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we have blocked her email address, she keeps creating new ones. why should WE have to change our email address? we have had our number changed, he's deleted his myspace... she keeps finding us.... she is even still calling his dad! (he doesn't tell her anything). he shows me every email she sends, i'm 100% sure there is NOTHING going on between them.
2007-04-11 07:01:07 · update #1
keep all of the emails she has sent then show them the police, and get restraining order on her. they can trace where they came from, so don't worry.
2007-04-11 06:54:17 · answer #1 · answered by RACHEL B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just about every ISP provides a service permitting you to block emails by email address. Just tag her email address as a spam email address, and her emails will evermore go straight into the trash folder.
An even better solution is to close your husband's current email address. After that, the next time she sends him an email, she'll get an email back from MAILER DAEMON telling her that her email is undeliverable.
Either way, you won't have to see any more emails from her.
By the way, your husband should check his credit report every so often to insure his ex hasn't really followed through on her threats. If she does, he can have her arrested for identity fraud, though.
Later edit: You ask, "Why should WE have to change our email address?" The obvious answer is, "You should not have to." It's unfair. It sucks. She is doing wrong and you are paying the price. Unfortunately, in the real world, the important-sounding "should" holds no power. The reality is that, although you changing your email address would be inconvenient, it would also probably be pretty effective. If doing what you're doing doesn't work, then it's time to try something new.
2007-04-11 06:50:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really, he washed his hands of her? Then how come he didn't change his email address? Or block her emails? If he was REALLY interested in getting rid of her, HE would make every effort to stop contact. Get a restraining order, get a lawyer, stop all calls, contact etc....
Sounds to me like the conversation you should be having is with HIM....why isn't HE doing anything about it? Is he still hung up on her? Is he somehow flattered by the attention?
I'd be worried about your relationship with him more than his relationship with her!
2007-04-11 07:02:19 · answer #3 · answered by teacherintheroom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can not do anything besides encourage him to act as you are not the one being harrassed..
Your boyfriend can and should copy all the e-mails and open a case report with your local police department...
He should get his social security number changed so the one she has or claims to have is invalid..
He should change his e-mail address..
After 2 years you need to ask yourself if he is getting a kick out of the continued attention she is paying him... Seems to me he would have taken steps to block her e-mails, change his email address etc. over these 2 years had he really wanted it all to stop..
2007-04-11 06:58:16 · answer #4 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For Christ sakes just close the e-mail account. let only those that you want to know what the new address is. This isn't difficult and if you say "All our correspondence goes thourgh that account" then that is a very lame excuse.
Its a computer. You can turn 'em on or turn 'em off. You can ignore, block, mark as spam.
Man....hope nothing major happens in your lives if something as simple as this stumped you two.
2007-04-11 06:57:41 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he has saved the emails it looks like it is time to report her to the police and contact the social security administration regarding her having his ss# and also why doesn't he just change his email address ? and if she got into the house it looks like he still needs to change the locks!she absolutely needs to stop harassing him but it also sounds like he hasent made any effort at making sure she has no way to contact him either -why is that ?
2007-04-11 06:54:59 · answer #6 · answered by Jules 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Block her email addy or simply ignore. "Sticks and stones..." as they say, not worth doing anything legal. But I do wonder if he's being totally on the level with you about her, their past, and whether there's anything between them now, especially since all the "harassment" is on the internet and you haven't seen her face-to-face.
2007-04-11 06:55:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not much you can do legally...I would suggest he change email adresses
2007-04-11 06:51:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋